When we put together our guest list for the wedding, our cut off point was second cousins. My parents were fine with this, but my FI's were less than thrilled. We put the invitations out the way we wanted to and now that the response cards are coming back, it seems that all of his cousins with children have RSVPed for everyone in their family...we're talking five more people on top of the original two people that were invited. When we addressed the invites, we addressed them to "Mr. and Mrs." not "Mr. and Mrs. and Family" and on the innver envelope I put only the cousin's name and their significant other, no children there either.
To top things off, we found out that his aunts have decided that if their children are single, they won't bring anyone so that the second cousins can come, even though my FI has never met them. It just makes me so angry that his parents won't do anything about it. When my side sees that there are little kids running around, they will be angry that the second cousins on my side weren't invited. Not to mention the fact that we were hoping to cut costs on the catering from people either not coming or not bring a guest(catering count is now at a whopping 270)...that's now out the window.
Has anyone else come across this problem? I don't know what to do and I don't think I should be the ones making phone calls telling them their kids can't come since they are not my family yet.