RSVP WORDING/ NO CHILDREN INSERT

Ok, we all know how people are....


I don't remember where I saw it but one of the brides on here had


you must RSVP by __________ in order to secure your seat (or something like that)


is that too forward? I'm thinking about adding in something like that..


Also we will not be having children at our wedding Instead of putting no children on the actual response card, we are doing an insert for families with children, that says something along the lines "Due to Venue Restrictions, Children between the ages of 2-18 are not permitted to attend".


Our Venue is a Restaurant/Catering not a traditional catering hall.  Cocktails are on a 3rd flr and Reception is on the 2nd stairs open stairs come into play and being the mom on a toddler this in itself freaks me out.. So for safety's sake the little ones are better off at home


What do you guys think...


Honest commentary appreciated...

Posted on November 16, 2010 at 2:50 am
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Linzee
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I know sometimes you have to like that with certain people, but IMO I think it comes off as too harsh.


I like the idea of the insert, but maybe chose different wording?


**I'm no help** =)

Posted on November 16, 2010 at 2:54 am
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Sometimes traditions/etiquette need to get the boot.  Your guest know you and your personality so anything you do will be fine.  Its your day!

Posted on November 16, 2010 at 2:57 am
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I think you should word your RSVP for kids situation: Adult Reception only...becus saying they are not permitted might offend some people with children...say something like this: Adult reception only due to venue restrictions. Just my opinion...I hope this helps
Posted on November 16, 2010 at 2:58 am
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@ Linzee....No you helped! LOL I want to play around with the wording... but it's hard.. because sometimes I feel honesty is the best policy...


I was looking for a better way to say things but I couldn't come up with one... hence the post! LOL


Let me just add the venue is an open room, there is no Door to close.. so the foyer, that leads to the Elevator and stairs are both easily accessible..

Posted on November 16, 2010 at 2:58 am
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@ Fabreezy.... Hmmm... I like that....

Posted on November 16, 2010 at 2:59 am
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We said something along the lines of: 


 


Please respect our request for an "Adult Only" Reception. 

Posted on November 16, 2010 at 3:03 am
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Yeah, I would just put on the bottom "adult reception only."

Posted on November 16, 2010 at 3:05 am
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@LadyEsq.... Problem is my Dominican/ Puertorican clan... wont get that... unfortunately... they will totally disregard that one little line  and be like oh well...


Hence the need for my clear communication...

Posted on November 16, 2010 at 3:07 am
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Make sure you put an age on your non-adults.  I put 12 and under.  


 Don't be surprised if people call you about little susie who's 13th birthday was a week after our wedding...can she come?! 


lol.


 

Posted on November 16, 2010 at 3:08 am
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Question:  Is it the reception hall that does not permit children or is that your own rule? 


If it's the reception hall, I would say that "Due to Venue Policy, children under 18 are not permitted."  That way it does not come off as you saying the children are not allowed.


If it is your own rule, I would just say Adult Reception to follow.  If you are afraid of people bringing their children anyway, you could insert the number of spots you have reserved for the family onto the RSVP card.

Posted on November 16, 2010 at 3:10 am
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@ Mrs KC... your not kidding.... I can only imagine... my mom has 10 brothers and sisters... and most of my Cousins are just entering there teen years..


I already informed my mom of the Rules.. LOL


besides I went to a wedding over Memorial Day Weekend, were two 16 year olds were clearly drunk and they were NOT cute..

Posted on November 16, 2010 at 3:10 am
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@ Lovehappens, honestly.... It's more my rule then the Venue's...


Unfortunately I have to state it this way to my family so that they get it... and they dont try to play games...

Posted on November 16, 2010 at 3:12 am
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This is what ours looked like:


We have reserved ____ seats in your honor.  (We filled in the # of seats)


M _____________________  accept     decline


M _____________________  accept     decline


Please refrain from adding or substituting guests as space is limited.


 


We've gotten alot of compliments on the wording.  Then on the reception card we put "Adult reception only.  Please no children."  Hopefully this works!

Posted on November 16, 2010 at 3:19 am
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@ deena- I love how you did that!!!  Very polite and yet it makes the point clear!!

Posted on November 16, 2010 at 3:20 am
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@ deenamarie... That looks like a very good possibility! 

Posted on November 16, 2010 at 3:28 am
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You could always say something like "Due to limited space, anyone under the age of 18 is not permitted."


Posted on November 16, 2010 at 3:34 am
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Oh yeah.. they were for real.  My mom's friend was handling the rsvps and phone calls and I told her to allow the girl to come.  So we put them down for 3 people.  Come the wedding.  They didn't bring her! 


So we paid for a no-show... awesome.

Posted on November 16, 2010 at 3:34 am
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Someone had previously posted wording that was something along the lines of "Kiss your little ones goodnight before you come to celebrate."

Posted on November 16, 2010 at 3:39 am
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I remember in another forum like this someone jokingly said something like, "Children will be given unlimited cups of coffee and a kitten to take home." 


Ohhh if only I could write that on mine. haha

Posted on November 16, 2010 at 3:51 am
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LOL LOL at the above ladies... omgee

Posted on November 16, 2010 at 4:02 am
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