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Rude not to invite, when you've been to their wedding?

My fiancee and I are having a fairly small wedding, like 60 people, in September. It is in Tahoe, which is a mini-destination from LA.

Is it rude of me not to invite a coworker whose wedding I just went to in June? This coworker invited a TON of people from work! We have not put any coworkers on our invite list... because I feel like once we start the guest list will get much bigger. I wouldn't think twice, but this coworker has dropped a hint that they expect an invite.
Posted on June 23, 2007 at 6:51 pm
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ann003
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No, it's not rude to not invite her. It is a bit rude for her to say she expects an invite though. Just tell her you're still planning, but you'll be having a small wedding.
Posted on June 23, 2007 at 7:02 pm
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I'm kind of on the fence about this. I guess it depends on how close you are? With any small wedding, some people might feel hurt if you don't invite them, though I would hope she would understand how crazy wedding planning can be and respect your plans for a small destination wedding.
Posted on June 24, 2007 at 5:01 am
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No, not rude. Having had a wedding herself, she should be able to understand that weddings are different, and people have different budgets and different proporities for THEIR wedding. Just my $.02
Posted on June 24, 2007 at 6:25 am
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I think it's not rude, as long as you don't invite any coworkers at all. If you invited some but not her, she might get a little peeved.
Posted on June 24, 2007 at 2:18 pm
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You have no obligation to invite someone whose wedding you just went to, especially if you plan on having only a certain number of people. If your coworker brings it up, just mention that it's going to be a very "small, intimate, family-only" wedding.
Posted on June 24, 2007 at 9:35 pm
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yeah, i was going to say the exact same thing as MrsBabySalute - if you do feel bad about it, just say it's going to be a small family wedding. And plus, it's easier to stick to the story since you said you weren't inviting any other coworkers.
Posted on June 26, 2007 at 7:18 pm

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