Second Guessing

Hello everyone, I feel like I am losing my mind. Lately I have been second guessing everything...my gown, my theme, the colors, my moms dress, the budget, the location....EVERYTHING. I have been stalking websites for new ideas and though I think I love everything that we have planned so far, I feel like either is not good enough or there is something bigger and better. Am I the only one that is doing this? Is this normal?

Posted on July 11, 2010 at 7:15 pm
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june102011
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I think we all are second guessing our decisions some time along the way. In your (our 2011 brides) case you still have plenty of time for plan B in case something goes really wrong. Just make sure that whatever you decided it’s YOUR and FI decision and NOT somebody elses or let them talk you into it!! Just think about the wedding in general, like does the theme really fits you and FI’s expectations? Is it really you…?


And off course there is always bigger and better, but will it still be your big day or just a big party. Happy planning…….

Posted on July 13, 2010 at 10:28 am
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You just need to take a day or two for you... STEP back from all the wedding stuff, and worry about you... Then you can come back and start fresh and maybe see things different... We are here if you need us :)

Posted on July 13, 2010 at 12:45 pm
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Honestly, there will ALWAYS be something bigger, better, cheaper, etc, etc...   And this is totally normal!  But try to stick with your decision and remember why you chose them.  And maybe take a step away from planning or making big decisions until it gets closer so you are less likely to change your mind

Posted on July 13, 2010 at 3:05 pm
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ditto to StephanieLS. try not to look! i know it's hard not to but just take a gander but just keep in mind that "it may not be one for you" ya know? i look all time and i love everything! but back to reality i still love what we plan for us :) just pick something that just suits you both well

Posted on July 14, 2010 at 5:21 am
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I keep doing the same thing. FutureMrsHar.. is right, take a couple of days or even a couple of weeks off planning and do your regular every day things.  You'll feel MUCH better and when you look at your ideas with fresh eyes you'll stop second guessing yourself. 

Posted on July 14, 2010 at 5:25 am
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I found that posting my pics on here helps a lot. But you ladies are right I probably need to take a step back and lay off the wedding shows!

Posted on July 14, 2010 at 7:56 am
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I feel the same way! Lately, I've been second guessing everything. I was actually thinking of calling up my florist to see if I could change things. Luckily, my FI stopped me. Lol. I stepped back for a while and I'm happy I didn't change my original idea. I guess you gotta do like they say for tests - never change your first answer (unless absolutely, positively sure) because more than likely it was the right one all along.
Posted on July 14, 2010 at 9:06 am
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I feel the same way :o( it does suck because there are things that are a lot cheaper and money can go towards the honeymoon or a house later on. Hope things go well :D


Posted on September 7, 2010 at 10:06 am
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Me too!!! I feel the same way...

Posted on September 15, 2010 at 3:46 pm
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Totally normal. I found myself second guessing my dress every time I looked at other girls' dresses! But I love mine so I just stopped thinking about it. Just go with your gut and don't doubt your decision. It will all work out the way it should! :)

Posted on September 30, 2010 at 5:37 am

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