Second Thoughts

As you all know, DH and I renewed our vows last month. I have spent a few years planning it. I planned everything very meticulously down to the tiniest of details. We have tried to have this vow renewal for 3 yrs. We have had about 6 postponements with in that 3 yrs. Something has ALWAYS come up to ruin the plans. FINALLY we thought this was it. I would finally get the wedding of my dreams. We were 2 months away and something horrible happened. And of course that meant the wedding of my dreams was yet again put on the back burner.


We ended up going through with it, but it was nothing like I had been planning for sooo long. We did have a good time, but it was also very disappointing. I felt like all of my hard work over the past few years had gone to waste.


We decided to have a second vow renewal in 2012. This way I would finally be able to have my dream wedding. I was excited about it, but no longer.


After thinking about it, I am starting to feel like it is a big waste of time and money. We have already had our vow renewal and I'm thinking it's ridiculous to have a second one. The first one wasn't what I wanted, but doing it again just sort of seems like a waste of time and money.


I think we might just do a couture bridal shoot at the Viceroy hotel which I love and I can wear my wedding dress. At least we will probably get some great pics out of it.


I'm not looking for advice on the matter. :0) I guess I am just venting a bit and just needed to get it off my chest. Thanks for listening. :0)

Posted on September 12, 2010 at 7:48 am
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Awww! So sorry you aren't excited about the 2nd one anymore! I understand though. After a while, things that you really want can get the joy taken from them. So sorry about all the postponements and everything that's happened. I like the idea of a couture photo shoot though!! :D

Posted on September 12, 2010 at 9:29 am
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Oh I know the feeling!!! You have our support regardless of what you do. I know it was a bummer the last renewal, especially the lack of pictures. Either way I can't wait to see you in that glamorous dress and those HOT shoes!!

Posted on September 13, 2010 at 4:05 am
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Thank you ladies. I really do appreciate the support.


For NOW, we are planning the couture photo shoot for March. So I guess that's about 6 months from now. I know the time will fly by and I PROMISE to post pics.


Who knows, maybe as time goes on, I will change my mind and decide to go through with the second one, but fo rnow, I'm just doing the photo shoot.


Thanks for listening and your support. :0)

Posted on September 13, 2010 at 4:16 am
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Its not a waste of money if its something you want to do.


Honestly, I've been wondering if having a vow renewal isn't a waste of money either. I mean we're already happily married for all these years....i know there are other things I could spend the money on. I guess I feel kinda guilty, what with times being hard and everything.

Posted on September 13, 2010 at 4:22 am
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I think the photo shoot will be a fab idea!!!!!!  You will finally get to wear the dress that's been hanging in your closet and feel good about yourself all made up and photographed!!! 


Rather then do another renewal, couldn't you just throw a blinged out anniversary reception where you can wear another couture number that is anything but white, and still be queen for a day?   Just a thought!

Posted on September 13, 2010 at 3:08 pm
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ChiTown...Normally that would be a great idea since in 2012, it will be our 10th wedding anniversary, BUT we didn't want to invite family. We dealt with too much drama during our first vow renewal, we didn't want to deal with it again. We just wanted to do something with just the 3 of us, but on a lavish scale.


Like I said before, maybe as time goes on, I will change my mind and have the second renewal and have it the way I have dreamed just without family.


But for now, the couture photo shoot is a go!!

Posted on September 13, 2010 at 3:38 pm
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Sometimes I feel like a vow renewal is a waste of $$, but we do want to  celebrate with our family a "real wedding",  we got married at city hall, everybody was asking why they were not invited, like hello, it was a city hall wedding, we only took two people to sign the marriage certificate. I feel that we deserve a wedding, we have been though alot of stuff and is about time we celebrate this special occasion with family and friends.

Posted on September 28, 2010 at 5:08 am
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OurWed.....We did the same thing. We actually eloped to the county courthouse in 2002. The only difference is that we didn't have anyone there. We kept it secret for about 1 month or so.


We renewed our vows last month on our 8th yr wedding anniversary.


If we DO decide to have a SECOND vow renewal, it will be in 2012 like I said above and that will be the yr of our 10th yr wedding anniversary. I was thinking of maybe doing it in either March or April of 2012, but I think I might do it in August 28, 2012 which will be our 10th yr wedding anniversary.


That might be a great way to celebrate our 10 years!! :0)

Posted on September 28, 2010 at 5:56 am

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