Sex In America (kind of long)

Did anybody see the special (I forget what channel) called Sex In America? It was on Monday night.


It was basically a follow-up to Kinsey's studies on human sexuality back in the 50's. Indiana University did a research study (my friend was at Indiana and did some of their studies!) on human sexuality now. There hadn't been a study like this in THAT LONG, so times have obviously changed. Basically the findings are that people are definitely engaging in more of a variety of things now. Vs. back then couples primarily only doing missionary position (for example.) Now -what seems obvious- is that regular intercourse, oral, and anal are all very popular, and that more people are engaging in homosexual acts even if they don't identify as homosexual or bisexual.


It was pretty interesting. Human sexuality is a field I had always wanted to go in, so I was pretty fascinated by it.


One thing I was a little shocked by was that more guys have had "transactional" sex meaning payed for sex than I would have ever thought. I think it was 1 in 25 guys. And they were talking about cheating and how a lot of people have cheated on a partner. They did a study where they attached something to a mans penis that could gauge the arousal, and then had them watch different things, non-sexual, sexual, and they had to try to surpress their arousal. Some of them were able to. Then they gave them some alcohol and had them do it again. Almost every guy could not contain his arousal even if they tried. So they were talking about the science behind cheating-no it does not excuse, but it gives insight. It's sad actually. lol.


Another one was mastrubation-that is now so much more prevelant. And married people from the ages of 18-24 have the most sex. So I'm already out of the young age bracket?? What? lol. And it kind of tapers out each age group they go up. But, the older couples, although have less sex, have just as fulfilling sex lives. It's cool stuff.


Did anybody else see it? Or want to comment about it?

Posted on December 5, 2012 at 10:31 am
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Hm!! No I haven't seen that, but it does sound really interesting! 

Posted on December 5, 2012 at 3:37 pm
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This may be TMI. But I fgured it was safe to discuss here. Please do not read further if you are offended by talking about sex and a persons actual life.


I saw it and I enjoyed the information. I like when they put the people in the room and they could DO ANYTHING, but in todays day they did not do anything but talk, but in the original several people had made out + some.


I will also say a few things have changed behavior. I was in HS when we still did not know how aids was transmitted so SEX was off limits. However, my parents were/are swingers? key party goers etc. They make me ill becuase they are republicans and say that marriage is between a man and a women, and what about these affairs? I am married to a guy we are renewing our vows and I believe marriage is between two people that are of consenting age!


I identify as straight, but I was inlove with my MOH before she was my MOH. I never told her. I knew she was straight and I knew I was too, but I still loved her. She passed away a few years later from Leukemia. I told my husband that I loved her before I met him, but once I met him that was it. Am I bi? I don't think so. I think it has to do with the person. I think some of us just love a being for who they are not what they are.


I never spoke to her about this so I have no idea if she ever felt the same. I just know when we had sleep overs etc. I made sure I left the room when she changed and I made sure I stayed on my side of the bed. She "slept" with her guy friends in this way too, so I knew I was not being inappropriate.


Sex is an odd thing in itself. I can say sex until the cows come home and not feel dirty, but if I say Making love immediately it almost feels dirty. How odd is that?


I have now been married 20 years and I can hoenstly say my husband and I had sex almost every day last week and I do not think it changes with age, but with growing tired of the same old same old. We still date. We go out 2 times a week. We go on LUNCH dates. They are less expensive and just as meaningful. I have tried everything with him that we could think of and I did find that a few of them were much better than I had thought. I will leave it at that.


As for the Big O well, I am one of the ones where "normal sex" does not "finish me", but he will do that for me at the very end. I make sure he is finished first.


When we were first together yes, he was quick, but now he can irritate me with how long he takes or for that matter holds back. FRUSTRATING.


So, I was glad to see that show to know that what I experience is well within the NORMAL range.


I would like to know what these peoples political affliations were because I wonder - how much political affiliation affects the bedroom?


 

Posted on December 6, 2012 at 12:28 am
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No, I didn't see it but I would have loved to!  I like you Elise have always been a little fascinated by it.  


I think it's very interesting but almost glad I didn't see it...lol.  I only say that becasue I already struggle with the fact that my FI works with several gorgeous women all day long.  I don't ever actually worry about him cheating because I know he loves me but all bull shit aside...and this is really selfish I know but I'm going to say it anyway...It's kind of like well yeah I'm glad that you would never cheat on my but it still sucks for me because I know he like ANY MAN is loving the fact that he gets to work with...not just see...hot chicks all day long...sigh!  This is just something I struggle with that I have to get a grip on and will, it's just taking me some time.  Oh the battlefield of the mind!


However, I love and trust him completely and know that he would never do anything to hurt me.  I will not allow past relationships and previous experiences to rob me of the love I deserve to give and receive!  


Lol sorry Elise, I didn't mean to get so far off topic.  Thanks for sharing truly interesting information.


 

Posted on December 6, 2012 at 1:30 am
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I know what you mean Nichole, no worries! Definitely the battlefield of the mind! I like that term!


@idoagain, I agree that when they put the people in the room that was interesting! I wouldn't have thought people would start doing anything, but I was surprised to hear back when they first did the experiment that people did start touching etc. I also feel like it was a short documentary to cover all of the topics or details. (not sure if they separated it by political affiliation, race, or even if the couple had children or not) As for your parents, I'm all for accepting people with an open/swinging relationship like that -if they so choose-I would never do that- but for people to say one thing about the sanctity of marriage and then do something else behind closed door. No bueno. :/


 

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My issue Uhlease is that my daughter who is 17 came out and they do not believe she has the right to marry. They also think that lesbian sex is evil. WHAT!!! That is what gets my goat.


Me I believe a marriage includes no one else. Why get married? OK, so yes, there are people who are poly's and I am actually ok with that, but again they keep it just to their little group not just random people. My parents were all about random people YUK!


james2113 My husband just went on a trip where they booked hotel rooms and they booked him with one of the women. He told me about it and thet they did end up getting that straightened out, but for a few minutes I was kinda upset. Not that he would do anything. He actually is not into twigs. Must be the only guy out there that prefers Buxom, but that is another story. So I completely understand. BTW he works for Budweiser and the BUD GIRLS and THEIR SKIMPY little outfits that are BARELY THERE!


I am 38 and those 20 somethings well every guys dream, I still think he is lieing about preferin bigger girls errr. 20 years and I still get jealous.

Posted on December 6, 2012 at 7:13 am
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Well thank you for sharing that with me IDO and Elise because sometimes I feel like a ridiculous school girl and I hate that I feel that way sometimes about the women he works with but I guess it just gets to me sometimes but I try to rise above all of that. 


IDO...I bet your husband is ABSOLUTELY into you 100%  There are A LOT of men out there that prefer women with a little more meat on their bones and there is nothing wrong with that.  I think every man appreciates a beautiful body...hell I'm a woman and I can even appreciate a beautiful body but I also thank God that we all have different preferences and tastes.


"There's a lid for every pot" :-) 


Thanks for sharing ladies.

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Glad to share! And, I am glad to have others who are like me to talk to!

Posted on December 8, 2012 at 5:49 am
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No I didn't watch it! Or see it! But now I want too!


 

Posted on December 12, 2012 at 6:41 am

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