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Being involved with a military man is not always easy. What is the best advice you have to give a new military wife/gf?


My best advice- Love him. Enjoy every minute you have with him. Recognize how blessed you are to have each other, even if you can't be together.

Posted on August 27, 2009 at 2:33 pm
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Trueblue311
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Lets see...BE STRONG...it's a must...DO NOT ...i REPEAT...DO NOT get involved with a military man if you cant handle being alone sometimes...of course it will be hard but i seriously all the women who cheat on their military man/men who cheat on their military women...OMG i could kick them in the face...you THINK it's hard to be in the STATES without your sig other...try being in Iraq or Afganistan without the person you love...SUCK IT UP...DONT SCREW other men/women...STAND BY YOUR MAN...that is my advice...it makes me cry just posting this...my hubby was dumped by a FELLOW Marine while SHE was in Iraq...honestly women just do NOT know how to handle the stress, pressure, and being alone...but the love he has for you should be enuff...im missing him and tipsy tonight so that's why im ranting...but only because i love him enuff to be home...alone..on PW because im not out screwing someone else...and all you military women KNOW how it can be...the uniform attracts IDIOT women like flies...anyway...again..advice is..you need to be a VERY strong woman to keep up a REAL military relationship/marriage!! :)..my hubby sent me flowers yesterday...he is in the middle of the desert...and he knew i was going to his sisters house..had them sent to his SISTERS..from the desert...now if that isnt love...i dont know what is...:) im honored to have such an amazing, respectful husband...he is my life!

Posted on August 27, 2009 at 8:00 pm
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Don't romanticize the idea of him being in the military. Many women get involved with a guy in the military because there's a romantic notion behind it but when real life sets in they can't handle it. Military life is HARD it's long hours, lots of seperation, you're away from your friends and family, and you get lonely but the sacrifices are worth it because you're with the one you love.


Don't be so sucked into what was that you miss out on the what is. Many military wives are wonderful and you form fast friendships with them that will outlive the friendships you made before the military.


Make friends with other spouses they will be your support system when he's gone. I'm sure everyone's family is great during deployments but it's the wives that have husbands over there with yours that will get you through it.


Take advantage of all the opportunities being a military spouse brings. Many don't know that you can go to school for free and healthcare is wonderful.


Have your own identity. There will be months and even years you will spend alone. If you don't have your own life it will not be fun and you will not make it. Go to school, get a job, make your own friends. Build a life outside of your spouse.


Get a pet. Sometimes the comfort of a pet is all you need.


The military came first and will always come first get used to it.


and last....


NEVER, EVER make him feel guilty about being in the military. I understand he chose to join but you chose to be with him. If you didn't like him being in the military you could have gone elsewhere. My biggest pet peeve is the gf that marries a man in in the military then tries to make him give it up once they are married. My response when they complain is you shouldn't have married him in the first place.

Posted on August 28, 2009 at 2:38 am
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Great words of wisdom ladies!!

Posted on August 28, 2009 at 5:07 am
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My biggest advice is communication. When he's gone for days, weeks, months, and sometimes a year at a time, communication and trust will be the only thing you have. Working on keeping the lines of communication open at the very beginning will help TREMENDOUSLY later.

Posted on August 29, 2009 at 3:44 am
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best advice: KNOW WHAT YOUR IN FOR! its not easy and if you arent sure that you can do it, dont! we see too many failed marriages and relationships already


but if you know you can do it and you love the person enough to try your damndest then go for it! Love every waking moment you have with them, dont let the pety things bother you. you dont want to think abou how many pety fights u had when theyre gone. enjoy EVERY second, and stay busy while they are gone. appreciate everything given to you. dont listen to other people telling you that they wouldnt ever be able to do it and about how much they think it must suck... because you are doing it and you have more than enough good reason to do it (your love) and because your STRONG. stronger than the rest apparently


and remember: its not easy or any of us, but we are getting through it anywys

Posted on September 25, 2009 at 9:41 pm
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WOW you all have posted such good advice!! 

Posted on September 26, 2009 at 1:23 pm

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