Should I fire our Officiant?

So I got an email last night from our wedding officiant and this is what it said,


 


Hi Halsey,


 


Do you have directions available to where I need to be on Saturday?  I didn’t receive anything from you in the mail, so I need you to help me find it.


 


I’m looking forward to it.  I believe it is going to be a beautiful ceremony.


 


 


This saturday is August 4...but here's the problem. our wedding isn't until August 4 2013! A year away! She was swearing up and down I told her this year, even though I forwarded her the email I sent with the filled out form that she responded to that says 
"Sunday, August 4, 2013". I have also talked to her more than once on the phone and we have always talked about SUNDAY and 2013.


This just screams red flag to me. I get mix ups happen, but this is a BIG mix up and who's to say it won't happen again next year? 

Posted on August 2, 2012 at 8:50 am
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AshleyWilkerson
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I don't it could tricky, anyone can have a miss understanding I'm sure if you stay in contact with her everything will be fine.  {{HUGS}}

Posted on August 2, 2012 at 8:55 am
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Hmm, I don't think I'd fire her, but go with your gut, definitely!!! Our stinkin priest asked us what time our wedding was at least six times, on the night before our wedding. I'm like, really, haven't I told you enough before today even?!! LOL!

Posted on August 2, 2012 at 8:56 am
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LOL Faith! I don't know, that just isn't right to me. I don't have a deposit with her so I won't be losing anything. Times are one thing, but dates an entire year off? And especially since the 4th this year is on a Saturday and when we get married in 2013 it'll be on a Sunday. I can't count how many times we both said "Sunday". 

Posted on August 2, 2012 at 8:58 am
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Dont fire her, I'm sure she just confused.  Going forward make sure you guys are crystal clear about everything else.  

Posted on August 2, 2012 at 9:00 am
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I don't know wheter to fire her or not but I would be upset about it.

Posted on August 2, 2012 at 9:00 am
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I would be worried too.  If it were me, I would search for someone else just to be on the safe side.  If you find someone you like better than fire her.  She really needs to get her act together if you do keep her.  

Posted on August 2, 2012 at 9:05 am
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Well here's my thing. If this was my baker doing this, that'd be one thing. However, the wedding ceremony won't happen unless she is there and if she's having this issue now, am I going to have to worry in a year?

Posted on August 2, 2012 at 9:06 am
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I would go with your gut and find a new officiant then kindly tell her you have decided to go with a new officiant. 

Posted on August 2, 2012 at 9:13 am
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I say go with your gut. If you don't feel confident that you can trust this not to happen again without you literally having to stay on top of her about it, I would fire her and get rid of the stress. But obviously mistakes happen, yadda yadda....(still go with your gut, lol)


 

Posted on August 2, 2012 at 9:30 am
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I say go with your gut. If you don't feel confident that you can trust this not to happen again without you literally having to stay on top of her about it, I would fire her and get rid of the stress. But obviously mistakes happen, yadda yadda....(still go with your gut, lol)


 

Posted on August 2, 2012 at 9:30 am
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I agree with the others. Go with you gut feeling. I can feel your worries about this. We also had problems with our officiant. Not about times, but I wasn't able to get ahold of him, he blamed us on not having premarital counseling, when it was his fault, he would never e-mail me back. I wish I could've had a different one. I understand your concern. I think looking around for others would be beneficial and maybeyou can find someone whoe better suits your needs. But I wouldn't fire your current one until you know there is another one.

Posted on August 4, 2012 at 2:42 pm
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Thanks ladies!

I did go with my gut and I actually wound up finding a friend of a friend who is not only within budget, but the money she makes goes to a charity. So I'm really looking forward to it.


I did a follow up post here 

Posted on August 4, 2012 at 3:23 pm

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