Should under 18 get a 'plus one'?
We are having a bit of a disagreement with the upcoming wedding of my daughter. We included 'plus one's for those over 18, whether or not they were in a committed relationship. Now, my sister who has two children, ages 10 and 12, is upset because her 12 year old daughter did not get a plus one. It seems she has a 'boyfriend' for about a month now. I know how these kids, yes kids, go through relationships, and we don't need the flavor of the week or month at the wedding. Personally, I think she's way too young to have a boyfriend, but that's another story. Anyway, we finally gave in and said to bring the boy, just to avoid conflict. So today, my sister stopped over with a check to cover the cost of the addtional meal, but made a point of telling me how rude I am for not inviting the boy. The cost of the meal was never the issue, and in fact when she RSVPd, she hadn't included him either, the kids have only been a couple for a month. She actually even threatened not to come to the wedding. I think this whole thing is ridiculous! Am I wrong for not including a 'plus one' for a 12 year old? How would you handle this. I hate all this drama and how it is dividing the family.