So my MOH is trying to get a hold of my other BM's and figure out where and 3 of my cousins are my BM's and she asked if their mom could host it at her house since she is the only one with a big enough house b/c all of them are very young and live in small apts. and the question has been ignored. Q:1-is it my place to ask? or my moms? Q:2- my MOH wants to know if we have it at a restaurant who is supposed to pay? Is she supposed to fork over 1K or however much it will be to feed 20 people? the 3rd option my cousin lives in those grove condo's and they have some sort of a rec. room she said we could do it there but she won't pay for the food. At this point I have asked them for nothing and my MOH is the only one doing anything to help me. And I'm fed up. I feel like just telling them to all to just forget it b/c I no longer care since its obviously just a bother for them or whatever... What is etiquette anyways?