Siblings in the bridal party?

Okay, I need some wisdom here. I'm an only child, my fiance has two sisters. Being an only who marched off into the world at a very young age, I have several very close friends I was planning to have my BM's, no siblings. Now I realized, from looking at my future SIL's wedding website from her wedding two years ago, that she included her sister as well as her SILs to be...


Do I need to include my SIL's to be as well in my bridal party, will they be offended if I don't ask? I presently have five friends who are in, so that would make for seven BM's, doesn't that seem excessive? I was planning on having only two, maybe three... it just keeps growing!
Posted on January 3, 2008 at 6:19 am
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moemarsita
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Don't feel obligated to do so. I'm not, but my brother is. No one's feelings are hurt. You can always do something else to make her feel included--give her a corsage to be a person of honor and maybe mention something in the program, have her participate in the ceremony, etc.
Posted on January 3, 2008 at 6:52 am
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I don't think anyone would be offended if they weren't included - this is really up to you and your fiance. My FI & I are quite close with our sisters, so there was no question that they would be included. We have our core bridal party, which consists of 6 on each side (siblings included). Because we are getting married back in the Philippines, all of my FI's cousins want to participate, and I wanted to have all my cousins that were travelling for us be involved as well. So now, in addition to our main bridal party, we have 2 jr groomsmen, 4 jr bridesmaids, 6 flower girls & 2 ring/coin bearers.

I had to go through a similar thought process about selecting my MOH though. I was afraid my sister would be offended if I didn't ask her... but I talked to her about it and (I think) she understands. She has a beautiful voice so we are asking her to sing at church and sing for our first dance.
Posted on January 3, 2008 at 7:06 am
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I'd say it really depends on a few factors: 1)them 2) FI's family 3) Your relationship with them.

I was included in my brothers wedding and even though I wasn't close with her then. It is really nice to look back at those photos and know that I was included. I have even included her in my bridal party because we've only grown closer over the past 7 years.

Would they care or would FI's family care? For some people it is a big deal, other's not so much.
Posted on January 3, 2008 at 8:54 am
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I agree with Soon2BWilcox. I considered the same things in determining whether I wanted to include my FI's siblings in our wedding party. I know it's supposed to be your day, and you shouldn't do anything you don't want to do, but in reality, it's also about your family and his coming together. So, if it's something you think is really important to them, include them somehow. Not necessarily as your bridesmaids, but as others have suggested (e.g. do a reading, etc...). If it doesn't seem to be a big deal to them, then don't worry about. And, think of it this way...it's a great way to start off the merging of your families by having them stand by your and your FI's sides during that very special moment.
Posted on January 3, 2008 at 9:54 am
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