Spring/Summer 2012 Baby Bumps!

So heartbroken :(

Have any of you guys lost friends because of your pregnancy/birth of a LO?


DH and I were hanging out with one of my best friends over the weekend and just mentioned how fun it would be to take a Memorial Day weekend trip to Savannah, GA which is 5 hours away from us.  We said we would try to work it out if we could.


But after looking at our finances from buying baby furniture and knowing how many future baby expenses we have ahead of us, we decided we just need to stay home.  When we told my friend we just couldn't do it, she sent me a text that said, "Ok...last Saturday we agreed on it, so next time u guys switch plans please tell me...bc my dad asked to come visit and I said no bc I believed u guys were sticking w/ what u said."


Excuuuuuse me?  It had been all of 3 days and they weren't even set plans.  So now I'm pretty ticked at her.  I swear people really have no idea what kind of toll a baby will take on your life.  It just makes me so mad when people don't understand and want to pitch a tantrum about the most selfish things. 

Posted on May 17, 2012 at 2:28 am
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Canooknic
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I lost a very good friend when I was pregnant. She's very anti-baby and we had always been the single, party girls together. We worked together and got a couple of promotions within weeks of each other so we had lots of spare cash to go out and play together!
When I got together with FI it was different but we still went on trips together and went out at least once at the weekend but as soon as I was pregnant she was suddenly very busy, didn't have the money to go for meals and stopped inviting me to things because she 'assumed I'd be tired/not want to go'.
I only saw her twice after my boys were born, once at a mutual friends house when I was dropping of a birthday present & then again at my leaving party before I moved to Canada. She was all tears and 'I miss you so much, I can't believe you're leaving' - yeah, whatever - you chose to distance yourself!

It's sad that things like this happen, but that's life I guess :(
Posted on May 17, 2012 at 3:26 am
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Sadly, your circle of friends usually changes a bit when you become pregnant/have a child.  I would just try and explain to her where you guys are coming from and the reasons that you changed your mind.  If she is a really good friend she would totally understand.

Posted on May 17, 2012 at 4:11 am
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I agree - having a baby changes SO much in your life!  You just don't have the time that you used too and when you do get the small amount of time to yourself you really, really cherish it!!!  Having a baby is kinda like a wedding, you realize who will be there for you and who will not.


Luckly all my close girlfriends have kids so they totally get it (and I now get it on their end!)

Posted on May 17, 2012 at 4:28 am
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*hugs* She seems very unreasonable. I agree with Jennifer - it is like a wedding and you learn who will be there. You attempted to make it work and realized it wouldn't. No harm in trying. Wish you the best!

Posted on May 17, 2012 at 5:28 am
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Oh wow that sucks.


Just give her some time, this is certainly not a reason to loose a friendship. Since I've been pregnant, I see some of my friends less, but I haven't lost any friends.

Posted on May 18, 2012 at 6:46 am
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I'm so sorry Lauren, that is just really sad. I don't understand what it is about weddings and babies that make people think they can't be friends with you anymore, but you always hear about it happening. I hope that she will realize you weren't trying to back out of a trip and that in truth, you hadn't even committed to it yet. Hopefully, all it is about is that she just needs time to wrap her head around the fact that your life is changing but that you are still you and value her friendship. I hope she will value the friendship too and that you all can work things out. (((((HUGS)))))

Posted on May 23, 2012 at 2:44 am

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