so not enjoyable

i am so tired of all the rude and inconsiderate comments from people involved in the wedding!  i have worked so hard to keep everyone else happy in the planning process and to make sure everyone else feels included and heard and not ask too much of people, and now i'm miserable. shouldn't they be working to make sure i'm happy? 

-my aunts, who live 3,000 miles away and can't host a bridal shower, want to plan a luncheon the day before the wedding for all family members to come to. very generous considering FI and my family amount to 100 people. FMIL says, well that sounds like a rehearsal dinner to me so why am i planning one?

-5 of 6 of my bms are still in school. none of them have asked what dates work best for me for events, and i have to work around all of their schedules. 

-MOH says to me, well if we have your bachelorette party that day it's really close to my birthday and i don't know if i feel like going out twice in one week. (it would be 2 days after, and she goes out multiple times per week on a regular basis)

-some bm's are hosting a shower/bach party in another city, and MOH says, yeah i don't really feel like driving for seven hours. excuse me??! and then the bm's hosting it call to change the date multiple times but didn't have a reason.

-ALSO, MOH said, i don't want to pay for both hair and makeup, so i'll just go to the mall and have my makeup done. (i'm paying a MUA to come to the hotel, not to mention it will be at 8:30 am and the mall won't be open)

-FMIL automatically assumed she would be included in the getting ready process in the morning....she wants her hair done, and it's about 3 inches long.

-then MOH had the nerve to say if i decided at the last minute she could bring a date, she would have no problem finding someone aka bringing someone she just met at the bar. we're not able to give each guest a date, and we don't want people there that we don't know.

i know i need to be more assertive and tell people what i want and need, but i don't want to be the mean bride that no one wants to be friends with anymore. this is seriously making my life miserable. i would just like for people to think before they speak and be a little more sensitive. thanks for listening!

Posted on October 9, 2010 at 11:30 am


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Sweets it sounds as though people are starting to walk all over you. You need to put your foot down. You won't be the mean bride - you are the bride - it's your day and people need to understand that. You need to learn to say no, politely, but no all the same - I hope people begin to realise that it's your day soon xox Sorry you have to go through this.

Posted on October 9, 2010 at 8:35 pm

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