SO STRESSED

I have to cut 50 people from our guest list!! To make matters worse, FI thinks we should invite kids too!! He has no idea the cost involved and is driving me crazy!! This wedding has not stressed me out untill now!! We should have eloped!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Ok. thanks for letting me vent girls!!

Posted on June 21, 2012 at 8:16 am
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AshleyWilkerson
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I know how you feel. My FI wants a BIG wedding and I'm try to not to spend so much money. All the little cost add up very fast. I so understand your vent. {{HUGS}}

Posted on June 21, 2012 at 8:23 am
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Rigormort!!!! I CAN SO RELATE!!! I really have no idea who is even coming to my wedding because FI was handing out invites to people unbeknowest to me.  With 9 days to go, I can't wait to see how my own wedding is going to turn out so vent away!

Posted on June 21, 2012 at 8:32 am
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Ugh, guest lists are tough. At first we said we wanted 120 max, then we had almost 160 on the list. It worked out in the end though.. only have 121 total for the big day RSVP'd :) It'll be okay!! Just breathe and it will work out just fine!! *Hugs*

Posted on June 21, 2012 at 9:11 am
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lol..guest list are driving us crazy..

Posted on June 21, 2012 at 9:17 am
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Yeah, the guest list was the worst thing to deal with.


We sent out save the dates.  About a week later we get a call from one of FI's relatives.  So-and-so cousin didn't get one.  Yes, that's right.  All the 12 million cousins are not invited because we can't afford to have 125 people at our wedding!  Plus our venue only holds 90 max!

Posted on June 21, 2012 at 1:22 pm
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I'm w/ you on the kids thing. We are having no kids under 10, otherwise that would be an extra 25 guests, and our venue charges about $50/$60 for them. 

Posted on June 21, 2012 at 2:55 pm
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Yes, this is the difficult journey in this process; I'm sure many of us have had to deal w/this including me. What I would do is advise you to put pen to paper, when its in black and white ppl see clearer. Draft budget cost w/your idea of the max count then do it w/the additional kids/guest so he can see, sit down and talk it over w/him. People don't see that every additional guest means more than just the extra food cost, its additional service fee, tax, chair, centerpiece arrangement, favor, etc. Its more ppl to manage and worry about. Also let FI know that as much as you want the kids their too, there still has to be life after the wedding. I'm sure he will come around after he sees what has to be dished out. Good luck!
Posted on June 21, 2012 at 3:54 pm
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Oh I know how you feel! The guest list and picking who and who not to invite is the hardest part! Ugh, its so stressful! Just try to relax, take a deep breathe and let it all out!! You will feel better! Hugs for you!

Posted on June 22, 2012 at 2:55 am
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My FI thinks people don't know how to RSVP and so they should still be allowed to come even if they don't RSVP.  No, not when we are paying $25 a plate not including everything else that is per person.  I really think it's a men thing.

Posted on June 22, 2012 at 2:58 am
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Oh honey, how I can relate! 


FI has exploded our invite list!!!!! It is just become part and parcel of the wedding planning for me. 


Have you tried to discuss with him the anxiety this is causing you? 


Big hugs!

Posted on June 22, 2012 at 3:02 am
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idk why i even opened this post. it gave me instant anxiety!!!!!!! i knowww the same thing is going to happen to us! our 80-100 person wedding, had morphed into a 140 person wedding. we arent sending invites out for another 3 wks, and im debating weather or not i should cut the list, or just pray that 30 people dont come! haha. waaaahhh :'( i have no advice, but tons of sympathy!!

Posted on June 22, 2012 at 3:03 am
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Honestly, more people than you think might not come. We invited 186, and we have 115 yes RSVP's, with probably 120-125 attending. Depending on how many people you actually want at your wedding, you might want to leave those 50 folks on the guest list. Otherwise, you might end up with a much smaller wedding than you anticipated.

Posted on June 23, 2012 at 7:53 am

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