so your stepmother wants to wear white to your wedding...

So a few months ago my stepmother informed me that she would be buying a sari (traditional idian garb) to wear to my wedding...now my whole family is german....his whole family is german. And she wants to wear a sari...but alas she is who she is and I decided it wasn't worth a fight. I said that's fine. Now last night she shows me a picture of the one she has ordered. Its white. Pure white. With silver embroidery on the pants. I just looked at her kind of dumbfounded. She said what you don't like it? I just said its WITE! I told her only the bride wears white and she told me I was wearing ivory so it didn't matter. Is it wrong of me to be a little upset by this?
Posted on October 14, 2012 at 9:19 am
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Saphir.Bride
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No, oh gosh, no. You have every right to be upset. Wearing white on a Bride's day is like a giant slap in the face and I guess people think lowly of those in the immediate family who do it. 


You might want to explain that even if your dress is Ivory, that you. THE BRIDE shouldn't have to share the spot light.


I hope everything works out.

Posted on October 14, 2012 at 9:47 am
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No! I would be very upset if I was in that situation. Definitely not wrong of you, but wrong of your stepmother wanting to wear white/ivory to your wedding. -- She needs to find a new dress or dye that one a different color!

Posted on October 14, 2012 at 9:57 am
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I would be so upset! My mom was teasing anyone that showed up in white to our wedding was going to be kicked out and sent home to change. 

Posted on October 14, 2012 at 10:11 am
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I would be very upset as well. I would ask her to dye it or cancel the order out of respect for you.

Posted on October 14, 2012 at 10:34 am
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I understand you being upset, but I can also say from experience: no one will be looking at her. YOU are the bride, and no woman in a white sahri is going to take that away from you.
Posted on October 14, 2012 at 11:08 am
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I def would have been upset as well!!!

Posted on October 15, 2012 at 3:01 am
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You are right to be upset, but I agree wholeheartedly with aggiebride...only YOU will shine!

Posted on October 15, 2012 at 6:02 am
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The nerve of people! My sister wore a ivory dress to my wedding which my step mother so graciously picked out! She felt that since I was wearing white and that my sisters dress had a gold bow on it that it was appropriate! Only the bride should be in white...that means ANY color remotely close or in the white family!

Posted on October 15, 2012 at 6:04 am
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Nope. Nope. Nope. Openly call her out on it and tell her to chnge it or don't come. Explain to her why your feelings would be hurt and give her two solid options 1) be considerate and fix it, or 2) don't attend. Offer to go shopping with her even but don't let her get away with it!

Posted on October 15, 2012 at 6:47 am
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I agree with Aggie. You are the bride. All eyes will be on YOU! On your special day, you won't even notice her. That is what is so amazing about our special day. All the things that annoy, irritate, rattle the nerves and make you want to bust someone's head to the whitemeat will absolutely not matter the day of. It is your day to shine. You will be radiant, timeless and breathtakingly beautiful!

Posted on October 15, 2012 at 8:12 am
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So eloquently put, Mrs.CaleYoung - I completely agree. It is very frustrating right now, but no one will even notice her...

Posted on October 15, 2012 at 10:36 am
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I disagree.  You may not notice her but other people will.  I would also call her out on it.  There's really no reason she has to wear white unless that's the only color in her closet.

Posted on October 15, 2012 at 11:12 am
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Thank you all ladies <3 y'all have made me feel so much better. I was so aggravated I just wanted to yell at her and say what is wrong with you? But I didn't however I have told her that the color white is not ok with me. She isn't happy with me but meh...

Posted on October 15, 2012 at 1:11 pm
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You have every right to be upset. 


White is your colour for that day and for her to think it is okay to show up in white, is downright ignorant!   


 

Posted on October 15, 2012 at 1:14 pm
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Nope, your totally right - I also were upset if anyone in our wedding would wear white colored clothes. This colour is only for the bride and it doesn't matter if you wear ivory or white!!!

Posted on October 16, 2012 at 1:09 am
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you have every right to be upset... talk to her and see if she will change another colour, btw, i seldom saw white sari, i thought saris are usually red, orange, yellow , blue. no ond in the close family should wear any colour in the family of white since they knew that the bride is wearing white

Posted on October 18, 2012 at 2:52 am

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