Something other than unity candle or sand.

FI and I do not want to use unity candles or the sand ceremony ( also whine, colored water, chain). What else is there? I know you ladies are fabulous with ideas do you have any in this area. I was thinking that we could be creative and hopefully come up with our own.

Posted on July 14, 2008 at 1:03 pm
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There are some other traditions that involve the officiant tying a rope or cord around you and your FI's hands. Other ladies will have to chime in on where it's from and how to do it, but I saw it done once and it was really lovely.

Posted on July 14, 2008 at 1:05 pm
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Oh do you now what it is called abatty?

Posted on July 14, 2008 at 1:06 pm
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The word "handfasting" comes to mind. But I'm really not sure. In reading a bit on that term, it seems that tying the hands together was a legal form of marriage in Scotland and England in the 1700s and 1800s. In some places it says it's an ancient Celtic marriage ritual.


You'll have to do some Googling.


I seem to remember seeing a "Cord Ceremony" in Philipine traditions where family members or god parents wrap a cord around the couple in a figure-eight symbolizing eternity.


Again, I'm no expert, it's just stuff I've read about or seen.


Good luck!


 

Posted on July 14, 2008 at 1:18 pm
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just found these:


http://www.gaiashandfasting.com/abouthandfasting1.html


http://www.handfasting.info/hand2.htm


http://www.celtarts.com/handfasting.htm

Posted on July 14, 2008 at 1:23 pm
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We are doing a plant ceremony.  Each of our mothers is pouring water from a pitcher that represents their culture into a common glass pitcher.  Then my FI and I are watering two plants that our parents will then plant at their houses as a reminder to support us so that our love will grow.  (We don't own a house, but if you do you could also do the same thing with one tree that you grow at your house.)  Then we are presenting roses to each set of parents to thank them for developing such deep roots of love

Posted on July 14, 2008 at 1:28 pm
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Hawaiian Wedding Flowers

Hawaiian Wedding Flowers In photo 55925-1 Hawaiian Wedding Flowers In photo 55925-2


In Hawaiian Legend the woman chose her mate by the giving of the lei to the man she desired to be with. In this way our ceremonies begin with the giving of the lei form the woman to the man. As the lei are given a kiss on either side of the cheek is given….


The custom of exchanging leis has been an important part of the wedding ceremony since ancient Hawaiian times. The kahuna pule (religious man) used maile leaf to bind the hands of the bride and groom, symbolizing their commitment to each other.


Kahelelani Sunrise Shell Lei with White Fresh Water Pearls


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The lei's are symbols of unity where the woman and the man are the two pillars standing strong and meeting in the middle and symbolizing the unending love between the two.





It is traditional to offer a lei for the officiate and guests as well. More than one lei worn at a time is common and beautiful.



 

Haku Head Leis


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THE LEI EXCHANGE
(information obtained from different sources)








Traditionally, Hawaiian couples invited nature to bear witness to their loving commitment. In ancient Hawaii, the groom wore a lei of maile, a native plant found only in the tropical forests of Kauai. The bride wore a wreath of flowers around her forehead called a Haku. Only the most fragrant flowers such as pikake, tuberose and stephanotis were woven into the bridal haku. Today the maile lei and the haku remain as popular icons of the Hawaiian-style wedding ceremony (source).


The lei is the Hawaiian symbol of love and aloha. The custom of giving and receiving leis at weddings began in the days of old Hawaii. During the ceremony the kahuna pule (religious man) bound the hands of the bride and groom with maile leis as a symbol of the couple's commitment to each other (source). During the lei exchange, the following words are usually spoken: "E lei kau, e lei ho'oilo i ke aloha," meaning love is worn like a wreath through the summers and winters; love is everlasting. The groom presents his bride with beautiful strands of pikake, and the bride presents a maile to the groom. The groom usually wears a fragrant maile lei made with pikake (white jasmine) and ilima. Sometimes the bride will wear a haku headband instead of a veil. Leis may also be given to the guests, officiant, and family (source).


The Lei Exchange is a great way to involve the families of the bride and groom in the wedding. The groom adorns the brides family members in leis and the bride adorns the groom's family in leis to symbolize the joining of the two families. Wearing the leis make the family members stand out at the wedding and will make them feel special. For the ceremony have a "lei carrier" for each the bride and groom. One lei carrier will carry the leis the bride will give to the grooms family and the other will carry the leis the groom will give to the bride's family. When it is time for the bride and groom to present the leis to the family the two lei carriers will assist the bride and groom by handing them the leis (source).



Posted on July 14, 2008 at 1:34 pm
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Check out my wedding ceremony for Dave and Bidya on this post


http://www.projectwedding.com/post/list/wedding-vows?page=2

Posted on July 14, 2008 at 1:37 pm
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some people release butterflies or doves?


or I plan to do the "Blessing of the Hands" by holding eachothers hands and the officant say this:

These are the hands of your best friend, young and strong and full of love for you, that are holding yours on your wedding day, as you promise to love each other today, tomorrow, and forever.
These are the hands that will work alongside yours, as together you build your future.
These are the hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the years, and with the slightest touch, will comfort you like no other.
These are the hands that will hold you when fear or grief fills your mind.
These are the hands that will countless times wipe the tears from your eyes; tears of sorrow, and tears of joy.
These are the hands that will tenderly hold your children.
These are the hands that will help you to hold your family as one.
These are the hands that will give you strength when you need it.
And lastly, these are the hands that even when wrinkled and aged, will still be reaching for yours, still giving you the same unspoken tenderness with just a touch.

Posted on July 14, 2008 at 3:12 pm
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We are planning on doing the rose ceremony.  The officiant would say something like this:


 


"Your gift to each other for your wedding today has been your wedding rings - which shall always be an outward demonstration of your vows of love and respect; and a public showing of your commitment to each other.


You now have what remains the most honorable title which may exist between a man and a woman - the title of "husband" and "wife." For your first gift as husband and wife, that gift will be a single rose.


In the past, the rose was considered a symbol of love and a single rose always meant only one thing - it meant the words "I love you." So it is appropriate that for your first gift - as husband and wife - that gift would be a single rose.


Please exchange your first gift as husband and wife. In some ways it seems like you have not done anything at all. Just a moment ago you were holding one small rose - and now you are holding one small rose. In some ways, a marriage ceremony is like this. In some ways, tomorrow is going to seem no different than yesterday. But in fact today, just now, you both have given and received one of the most valuable and precious gifts of life - one I hope you always remember - the gift of true and abiding love within the devotion of marriage.


_________ and _____________, I would ask that where ever you make your home in the future - whether it be a large and elegant home - or a small and graceful one - that you both pick one very special location for roses; so that on each anniversary of this truly wonderful occasion you both may take a rose to that spot both as a recommitment to your marriage - and a recommitment that THIS will be a marriage based upon love. 


In every marriage there are times where it is difficult to find the right words. It is easiest to hurt who we most love. It is easiest to be most hurt by who we most love. It might be difficult some time to words to say "I am sorry" or "I forgive you"; "I need you" or "I am hurting". If this should happen, if you simply can not find these words, leave a rose at that spot which both of you have selected - for that rose than says what matters most of all and should overpower all other things and all other words.


That rose says the words: "I still love you." The other should accept this rose for the words which cannot be found, and remember the love and hope that you both share today.


__________ and ________, if there is anything you remember of this marriage ceremony, it is that it was love that brought you here today, it is only love which can make it a glorious union, and it is by love which your marriage shall endure." 


 


I love this because it is something that we will always have to remind us of our special day.

Posted on July 14, 2008 at 4:03 pm
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There was a thread on this topic a while back...Did you see the link to the wine & chocolate ceremony?  I think JustAnotherBridezilla might have it in her bio?  I think it's from one of the WeddingBee brides--I'm sure you can do a quick search for it there.

Posted on July 14, 2008 at 9:06 pm
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Chow I did not see that one, I will look for it.


--WM that blessing of the hands is soooooo sweet!


I cant do anything too sweet or I will be crying soooo much. Wedding in general make me emotional even when I dont know who is getting married!! So I have no idea how hard it will be to not cry at my own haha.


I do like the rose one. Also where the groom gives a rose to my family and I give one to his. I like the family exchange thing.

Posted on July 15, 2008 at 4:03 am
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great ideas everyone! i think hte wine and chocolate ceremony is just lovely and really yummy as well! lol.


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