Sometimes my mother drives me insane

My mother is nuts. Certifiably. She sent me an email saying to cross certain persons off the list because she didn't want them to come because she didn't want them to pass judgement on me... she basiscally called me fat. I have been training for a triathlon for the past two months, before which I worked out (body pump/pilates/step) six days a week for an hour each time. I haven't eaten more than 1000 calories in a day since I was probably 14. She has given me a huge complex and made me feel REALLY guilty about my body because I'm tall. When I was professionally thin and modeling she used to criticize me too! Afterall a 2 isn't a 00 in her book. Its like I can never keep the damn woman quiet about it.


I found out last week that I have a thyroid disorder (which can set on later in life, who knew...) and so no matter how much I exercise my metabolism basically shut off so every calorie was stored. She drives me f-ing insane, this new thyroid problem aside, which by the way she is not sensitive about AT ALL. I'm not 5 ft tall, I'm not 80 lbs and full Asian like her but if she wanted to make her daughter that way, she shouldn't have married a giant westerner! She keeps reminding me that I'll look terrible in pictures we'll have for life and that I can't invite certain friends of hers because they'll gossip.... hello they keep plastic surgeons on speed dial and that is NOT normal. I guess she means well but my mom is being a flat out b****.

Posted on June 30, 2008 at 11:52 am
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jharks
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uggg, I have a skinny mom too and I am not so skinny, so I TOTALLY know what you are going through (well not to the extreme of not wanting people at the wedding). Seriously though lady, don't listen to her. She is just being mean (sorry April, it sounds down right mean).


Have you talked to her about how you feel when she says awful things like that? I think it might help to have a calm rational convo with her. What does your "giant American" father say about it all??

Posted on June 30, 2008 at 12:08 pm
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I'm so sorry, that's never a good thing to hear especially from your mother. Moms are always our worst critics. My mom is the same way with me. Sounds like you are comfortable with yourself though. You are getting married and about to start your own family. Don't let this get you down. You're going to be a beautiful bride!

Posted on June 30, 2008 at 12:16 pm
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yes mothers and their great way to drive us insane or put us down. my mother does the same. i love her to death, but she drives me nuts.

Posted on June 30, 2008 at 12:23 pm
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no matter what, moms like to get a back-handed jab in every now and again....i'm Asian, but my mom is white (i'm adopted) and super skinny...i've been dealing with that my WHOLE life....keep you head up! :)

Posted on June 30, 2008 at 12:29 pm
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hang in there hon!!!


i *wish* my mom was still around to pat em on the tummy and giggle and say "too many wings huh??"  lik ei know it was her way of saying "lay off the happy hour food" but she wasnt mean about it...


but hang in there!!!!!  i'm sure she doesnt mean it in a mean-spirited way???

Posted on June 30, 2008 at 12:43 pm
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I am sorry. I know how that is. My mom was never happy about my weight. I was either too fat or too skinny. So now I basically try to ignore any opinion she throws at me. YOu know it is because your mom is so insecure that she treats you like this. We love them because we HAVE to right.

Posted on June 30, 2008 at 2:55 pm
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Hey Champ~ So sorry to hear about this--how awful!!  Moms can do a lot of damage without really trying, can't they?  Sometimes with my mom, a good, short, honest, "You know what? I'm doing my best here..." does the trick, and she'll lay off, because, in the end, she knows that's what matters.  Keep your chin up girl!  Don't let her get you down. :)

Posted on June 30, 2008 at 3:05 pm
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sorry to hear champ! but as you can see, you're not alone. my moms the same way, but a tad worse! for the longest time they (my dad too!) said that if i don't get in shape, my fiance will look at other women and quite possibly leave me for a thinner woman!!!! my whole family is thin except me. they believe if you're not born naturally a certain way, then you can cosmetically fix it. but as demented as i may sound, i truely believe our parents say this because they love us and want what THEY THINK is the best for us without realizing that they've scarred us for life!

Posted on June 30, 2008 at 3:26 pm
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Wow...I don't know how I would handle that! As if we girls don't have enough pressure to be thin as it is! I really hope that things get better for you, and just remember...no matter what we look like, our FI's are marrying us for the person that we are. Confidence always makes a person so much more beautiful! :)

Posted on June 30, 2008 at 6:47 pm

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