Sort of WR: Annoyed in the Aftermath
ok last week one of my gf invited me to have drinks - well it turns out she was on a blind date with someone from match.com - and she was afraid that he would cancel last minute - so she invited me as her backup?!?!??!!?!
ok - i'd be ok with being ghe 3rd wheel - but dont invite me for drinks as a backup plan and not tell me that's what's happening...
so we're there for about an hour - she's all dolled up - and me, well i'm in a denim miniskirt, flipflops, and my usc sweathshirt! talk about polar opposites in dress! her date eventually showed up - we left hh for a mex place, had some food, beer, and listened to karaoke, played a little beer-pong... i left the kids around mindnight and came home and jumped back on the computer to work for a few hours...
uummm - please tell me WHY within the first hour - she invited him to my hawaii wedding?!?!?!?! she tried to make it all non-chalant - and i think she was kinda pssd off that he and i were talking like old friends... but they werent really talking beyond the usual "so what's up" "nothin - what's goin with you" - they were so boring! so i decided to break the ice with baseball and college football talk since i'm a fan and figured it was something benign to talk about -we were in the middle of discussing the speed of the pac-10 versus the strength of the sec, and then she blurts out - "hey did you know she's getting married in hawaii - look at that huge rock on her finger - wanna come and be my date?" WHAT??????
omg - oh well - whatever - it's like she cant "un-say" the words and i'd look like an ass telling him NO or getting stark-raging pissed in a bar full of people... then she baits him - "we already have a condo (she and my other gf and her hubbs and kid are already going to be in maui - at a friend's timeshare), so you already have a free place to stay"
she was going on vacay with our mutual gf, her hubbs and their child at their timeshare - and i'm glying them in from maui to big island for our ceremony..the entire time bitchin about how she didnt want to be the 5th wheel - i'm thinkin - "then dont come stupid - you still havent purchased your ticket TO maui.
then yesterday she calls me - "omg - he spent the nite and right now we're headed to brunch" then calls me again about an hour later "I don tknow about him - when we parted - his hug wasnt as tight as how he was last nite" blah blah blah... omg!!!!! i feel like i'm babysitting someone who's never dated before; who is super needy and doesnt know how to have a life for herself and by herself! WTF is wrong with people?? again, maybe b/c i'm an only child and never "needed" anyone around to have a good time - but this is reeedunk! she's like 35 or 36!!
and of course, heeds to none of my suggestions of not looking too much into anything - hello they jsut met and she already invited him on a trip!!! ggaaaaaahhh!!!!
she JUST sent me a text: "he hasnt asked me out again" omg - maybe b/c he can sense you're super needy??? wth???
sorry for the rant - i just had to!!