Sort of WR: Annoyed in the Aftermath

ok last week one of my gf invited me to have drinks - well it turns out she was on a blind date with someone from match.com - and she was afraid that he would cancel last minute - so she invited me as her backup?!?!??!!?!

ok - i'd be ok with being ghe 3rd wheel - but dont invite me for drinks as a backup plan and not tell me that's what's happening...

so we're there for about an hour - she's all dolled up - and me, well i'm in a denim miniskirt, flipflops, and my usc sweathshirt! talk about polar opposites in dress! her date eventually showed up - we left hh for a mex place, had some food, beer, and listened to karaoke, played a little beer-pong... i left the kids around mindnight and came home and jumped back on the computer to work for a few hours...

uummm - please tell me WHY within the first hour - she invited him to my hawaii wedding?!?!?!?! she tried to make it all non-chalant - and i think she was kinda pssd off that he and i were talking like old friends... but they werent really talking beyond the usual "so what's up" "nothin - what's goin with you" - they were so boring! so i decided to break the ice with baseball and college football talk since i'm a fan and figured it was something benign to talk about -we were in the middle of discussing the speed of the pac-10 versus the strength of the sec, and then she blurts out - "hey did you know she's getting married in hawaii - look at that huge rock on her finger - wanna come and be my date?" WHAT??????

omg - oh well - whatever - it's like she cant "un-say" the words and i'd look like an ass telling him NO or getting stark-raging pissed in a bar full of people... then she baits him - "we already have a condo (she and my other gf and her hubbs and kid are already going to be in maui - at a friend's timeshare), so you already have a free place to stay"   


she was going on vacay with our mutual gf, her hubbs and their child at their timeshare - and i'm glying them in from maui to big island for our ceremony..the entire time bitchin about how she didnt want to be the 5th wheel - i'm thinkin - "then dont come stupid - you still havent purchased your ticket TO maui.

then yesterday she calls me - "omg - he spent the nite and right now we're headed to brunch" then calls me again about an hour later "I don tknow about him - when we parted - his hug wasnt as tight as how he was last nite" blah blah blah... omg!!!!! i feel like i'm babysitting someone who's never dated before; who is super needy and doesnt know how to have a life for herself and by herself! WTF is wrong with people??  again, maybe b/c i'm an only child and never "needed" anyone around to have a good time - but this is reeedunk! she's like 35 or 36!!

and of course, heeds to none of my suggestions of not looking too much into anything - hello they jsut met and she already invited him on a trip!!! ggaaaaaahhh!!!!


she JUST sent me a text: "he hasnt asked me out again"  omg  - maybe b/c he can sense you're super needy??? wth???


sorry for the rant - i just had to!!

Posted on August 5, 2008 at 3:52 pm
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jackieg
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well, at least maybe he won't be coming to your wedding now!!

Posted on August 5, 2008 at 3:54 pm
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BAHAHAHA  jacks with the silver lining!!!


the sucky part is i think based, on my intuition, and convo with him - that he'd be good for her... (you know this - i already bitched to you about it enough!! hahaha)


but her "me me me me" is going to scare him off.. oh well, not my responsibility!

Posted on August 5, 2008 at 3:57 pm
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i don't think you have to worry about it - sounds like she is the kind of girl who would send a guy packing in no time ( like you said, the super-needy vibe:) so she prob won't have a second date and you don't have to worry about this random guy showing up to your hawaii wedding ! - but more importantly , i think this girl's got some serious issues  - she sounds way insecure and neurotic -  if you can build some distance between yourself and her leading up to the big day , i think it can only help your sanity !!!

Posted on August 5, 2008 at 3:58 pm
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right...you can't fix the world....and i'm sure you've already expressed this to her before...about her neediness....so it's up to her to decide to change....if she wants to...

Posted on August 5, 2008 at 4:00 pm
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i kinda wouldnt mind him being there - not any different than any of our single friends bringing a "+1" next year - i'm hugely annoyed that she didnt ask me before she did it - like she just vomited the words to have something to say... since sh'es not into sports and it was her way of directing the attention back to her since he and i were heavily discussing college football (which is starting SSSSOOOOOOON!!! =) hahahhaha

Posted on August 5, 2008 at 4:02 pm
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i wish i had the cajones to just tell her to stop obsessing about herself and STFU!!!!  but she's fragile right now - so that may not be the approach to take?? ;)

Posted on August 5, 2008 at 4:03 pm
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rant away - i just did about my family.


people just don't seem to get it.  when people act stupid like that, i always remember a comedian i saw back home that would proclaim that "the dumb and annoying should move to the edge of the herd."


 

Posted on August 5, 2008 at 4:04 pm
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but then the herd would be pretty slim in the middle, no??? HAHAHAHAAA

Posted on August 5, 2008 at 4:05 pm
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that is true oh wise one - only a select few would remain and we'd eventually get eaten.  i guess we have to deal with the dumbasses.


;)

Posted on August 5, 2008 at 4:08 pm
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yikes! well since that guy probably wont be going to your HI wedding, make sure to tell her to tell you next time BEFORE she invites a complete stranger she met on the internet! You NEVER know! Did you hear about the dude that beheaded the guy sitting next to him on a bus! There are crazy peeps out there!

Posted on August 5, 2008 at 4:10 pm
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sadly - i'm actually hoping she obsesses so much about being the 5th wheel that she decides not to go!  is that bad?? who fckn cares! that's how i feel right now ;)


sorry my bratty side is shining through right now... just annoyed i guess...

Posted on August 5, 2008 at 4:16 pm
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sorry. yeah she sounds very annoying so you have every right to dread her attendance.

Posted on August 5, 2008 at 4:23 pm

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