Step-Family Help for my banquet
so after eloping, my parents decided they want the FULL on Chinese banquet. 350+ people . Yup, that's how we Chinese roll! :-D
So: here's what I need advice on. My mom asked my DH if he wanted his dad + his wife's name on the invite. he said no. (he is just developing a relationship with them - they have been awesome. His dad left a message for him yesterday and said "i love you". I cried when I heard it! ) Should I respect that? Should I try to convince him otherwise? They are not participating other than showing up as guests.
And: should I invite his dad's wife family? I have met her 3 children and some of their families. I have met her single son and spent time with him (we were going to invite him only when we were having a wedding) I am debating inviting them. I would like the daughters to come, though I think it might be unlikely as they all have young kids. If I invite them, would it just seem like we were pandering for gifts as they'd be unlikely to come???