Step-Family Help for my banquet

so after eloping, my parents decided they want the FULL on Chinese banquet.  350+ people . Yup, that's how we Chinese roll!  :-D


So:  here's what I need advice on. My mom asked my DH if he wanted his dad + his wife's name on the invite. he said no.  (he is just developing a relationship with them - they have been awesome. His dad left a message for him yesterday and said "i love you". I cried when I heard it! )  Should I respect that? Should I try to convince him otherwise? They are not participating other than showing up as guests.


And:  should I invite his dad's wife family?   I have met her 3 children and some of their families. I have met her single son and spent time with him  (we were going to invite him only when we were having a wedding)   I am debating inviting them. I would like the daughters to come, though I think it might be unlikely as they all have young kids. If I invite them, would it just seem like we were pandering for gifts as they'd be unlikely to come???


 


TIA!


 


 

Posted on August 20, 2008 at 5:29 am
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Since you're doing the full on Chinese banquet, why not invite everyone? You should definately talk to your DH and see how he feels about inviting your step-family. But I don't think inviting them sounds like your trying to get more gifts, you just want them included in the big celebration. If I knew ahead of time that a family member wasn't going to be able to make it, I sent them an invitation anyway... just to make sure they knew that they were invited. Plus you get the most lai-see from aunts and uncles anyway. ;-)

Posted on August 20, 2008 at 6:53 am

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