Stressed and need to vent!

First I should start by saying its almost that time of the month and  I know that is a big part of the problem with that being said I am so stressed out I feel like crying and Ive only been engaged for three weeks! I was one of those people that thought I knew exactly what I wanted but now that im actually engaged I have no idea what Im doing! 
I had an older post about not being able to pick bridesmaids thats still a huge issue! Ive decided on two of my older sisters but my third sister had told me she wouldnt be offended if i didn't have her she just moved to alabama and is afriad she wont be able to find a dress and she thinks it will be hard for her to be in. I feel wrong not having her thoguh i feel its kind of an all or nothing thing i either want all three of my sisters or none and none is not an option. So right there is three people I wont go into much more detail about my other bridesmaids since i already have a short novel going on but i have 8 bridesmaids and i have one more friend id love to be in the wedding. Shes a great friend and has been so much help already with planning things so i cant decide if i should have jenn instead of my sister or if i should suck it up and just have 9 bridesmaids i feel like that is SO many people plus i have this thing about odd numbers i know im a weirdo and FI isn't so very happy about having 8 groomsmen let alone 9 he feels like its too many but said ultimatly its up too me! I know I shouldn't be this stressed about this but i am im afraid of hurting anyones feelings!  with all that being said if anyone has any advice id greatly appreciate it! 
 

Posted on January 17, 2014 at 12:07 pm
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Canooknic
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 Breathe!!!!!!!!! It's going to be ok xxxx

Have you set your date yet? Have you decided on a venue?

If I were you I would focus on what sort of day you want and then start thinking about people to be in your BP.  If you go with a lavish affair then 9 BMs isn't going to be too many, but if you decide on a small intimate wedding it might look strange having more people in your BP than sitting watching the ceremony! ;) I'm joking of course.

Work out what you want from your day, what your overall vision is and go from there. You don't have to decide everything right now, you have time to think things over and to make your day become exactly what you want.....an the lovely PW ladies are here to help you every step of the way xx

Posted on January 17, 2014 at 2:15 pm
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 We've picked a date and a venue and are inviting around 250 so I don't think having 9 girls would be too much in that aspect. I know everything will be ok and work out in the end I just get stressed easily. Poor FI! Haha luckily I'm stressed for a day then usually feel better. I just need to vent usually and I'm glad I can do that here!

Posted on January 17, 2014 at 2:22 pm
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If you don't want so many bridesmaids you can have them do other things to be a part of your wedding. for example a reading at the ceremony, does anyone sing or play an instrument? Instead of hiring a day of person is someone organzied and can do that task for you? (making sure everything is the way you want it and everyone is where they need to be on time dealing with the vendors etc)

Not to be negative but sometimes with so many bridesmaids drama will come with it. There are lots of stories on here about lifelong friends (family members too) who are no longer speaking because of some drama brought about by a wedding.

I agree with Canooknic decide what kind of day you want and then go from there.

Posted on January 17, 2014 at 3:09 pm
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I know what you mean. Things always seem so.clear from a distance then as it becomes a reality its more like mud. I like vent myself lol. I have 5 sisters and only one is in my bridal party. I will say you need to do what makes you and your FI happy. If you make everyone else happy you will be miserable.
Posted on January 17, 2014 at 3:15 pm

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