Suggestions or tell me to get over it?

So my wonderful husband and I got married a few months ago. Our wedding was beyond amazing! At first I was a little sore because I had originally not wanted a big affair and was adamant on absolutely needing a honeymoon. But I caved and decided to go along with things and I'm glad we did because our wedding was beautiful and hubby couldn't take off of work for more then a day. So I settled for a short staycation in town at a nice hotel... Hubby delivered that fine. 

Ive traveled very little in my life so I was still dreaming up a honeymoon for us. Originally I wanted to leave the state and then decided how about just a road trip or a cruise?? Finally money was tight and I just thought of city hopping to visit some friends. I had planned to pick a week in the summer cause hubby is off for the summer and I still had a weeks vacation to take. I had also planned on buying a new car because I desperately need it and that would have been our transportation. But then I got laid off, so no more car, no more money, no more vacation. 

I just came home from my brother in laws wedding and I guess I'm a bit jealous that they are off for a week long maybe longer honeymoon after they had originally told us they couldn't get the time off. I've also sort of held it over my husband's head a few times because he was the one who wanted the big affair... But I'm happy with the way things ended up. I just can't get over  the idea of never having a honeymoon. I know it's just a vacation and what's important is that I married the man I love... I just dunno. Suggestions to just get over it? (I keep telling myself comparison is the thief of joy. And I do believe it but yeah. :P )

i dunno just venting I guess. 

Posted on May 4, 2014 at 7:17 pm
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krosa
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 i think honeymoons are important.  my parents eloped and didnt have the money to go on a honeymoon.  they always said they would, but now my dad is dead and they never went on a honeymoon,  they both really regretted it.  

i recommend sitting down and letting him know you loved your wedding, but you still really want a real honeymoon.  even if if is setting it a year from now and figuring out how much money it will be and saving a little each month to pay for it.  i have learned that holding things over people never really works.  they dont like it and it adds tension to whatever the relationship is.

i hope you are able to work thing out and go on a honeymoon you will enjoy.

Posted on May 4, 2014 at 9:36 pm
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 DH and I had a short break away after our wedding and were planning to have a trip to San Francisco for our 1st anniversary this summer - unfortunately life has once again got in the way so it looks like we're going to have to postpone it, possibly until our 2nd anniversary.

Like krosa said I think you should sit down and discuss exactly what you want and what you need to do to make it happen xx

Posted on May 4, 2014 at 9:52 pm
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The worst thing to do is hold it over his head. After all you agreed. Honestly I say get over it for now. Make plans on an anniversary to give you all time to save up.
Posted on May 5, 2014 at 2:15 am
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 My parents didn't get their honeymoon until their 25th wedding anniversary.  It took that long to save while life kept "getting in the way."  But they finally did it, and my mom says it brought them closer. The first piece of advice that my mother gave me when we announced or engagement was to take a honeymoon. Even if it's to just stay home and forget about the real world and responsibilities for a few days.  IMO the focus of a honeymoon is basking in the life that you share together, and it doesn't matter where you do it. Good luck and I hope you find some peace of mind soon. 

Posted on May 5, 2014 at 8:30 am
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Never say never! Is there a way that you can getaway for a weekend? DH and I have gotten local hotels before in cute little areas nearby, just to get away from it all. You know, maybe a small B&B? Or a cabin? Even if it's just for a night it could give you what you need. You could have a nice romantic dinner and a fancy night with just the two of you.

You could also start saving for an anniversary trip. Even if it's just $20 a week, eventually you'll have enough for your honeymoon vacation. Try to talk to DH about how you feel so that he understands it. That way you can avoid of making remarks here and there that he probably doesn't understand. 

 

Posted on May 5, 2014 at 9:34 am

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