Switched my OB

Some of you may know that I was questioning my current OB's bedside manners.  Based on some advice, I decided to stick with her for another appointment or two to see if my feelings changed.  And no they haven't.  Not only do I think she's a bit cold, her office is highly disorganized.  Last week I had my glucose test.  When I arrived at the office I mentioned this to the receptionist, thinking I would have to drink the juice first thing so that I can meet with the doctor while waiting for the hour to pass.  Well they said I needed to meet with the doctor first to explain the test.  Ok, fine.  So I waited 20 mins to be called.  When I finally meet with the doctor she tells me I should have drank my juice upon arrival.  Ugh, I told her that I did mention this to her staff.  She offered to reschedule the test and I said no, I didnt want to have to fast again if I didnt have to.  So another hour wasted in her office.  And her indifference to the situation annoyed me.


Perhaps I'm being rather sensitive but as I read more of Ina May's Guide to Childbirth, I realize that if a simple misunderstanding can cause me this much stress, I can only imagine the trauma I would experience at childbirth with them, when things almost never go as planned.  I realize I need someone to be a bit more sensitive, organized, and supportive. 


Its unfortunate that this doctor came from my highly educated SIL who herself is a well respected midwife, OB nurse and Phd from Columbia U.  Then again, she never had a kid.  So I went to a good friend of mine who loves her OB, a male OB at that, and when I researched the OB he had high ratings across the board with very low rates of c section.  I signed up with him right away.


Just wanted to share this experience with you ladies so you too can have the courage to take charge of your childbirth experience.  I know it was a tough decision for me because I figured the doctors know best and that its better if I stick with the same doctor throughout my entire pregnancy.  Ina may's book made me realize that that doesnt have to be the case.  I cried reading all the birth stories bc they were experiences I want to have.  And it finally gave me courage to leave and find a better OB.  I havent met with my new doctor yet but just this act alone left me empowered and optimistic that I'm sure all will be well. 


Whether or not you like your OB, please read the Guide to Childbirth.  It may sound a bit treehugging hippy-ish but the stories really are beautiful and the advice priceless. 

Posted on October 17, 2012 at 5:58 am
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I don't blame you at all for switching!  I say totally go with your gut.  The first OB I saw at the office I'm at was cold and she talked to me like I was an idiot and I wasn't even there for pregnancy worries yet.  So I switched after my very first visit with her and when I saw her again when I lost our first LO she was so cold hearted when she told me she couldnt find a heartbeat, I knew I made the right choice by switching from her.  (I only saw her because she was the only doctor that had an emergency opening and my Doc was out of the office that day.)

Posted on October 17, 2012 at 8:01 am
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Nothing wrong with tree huggers hippies ;) I am definitely a tree hugger and love everything natural.
You are very right. So glad you changed your OB. Always trust yourself and your instincts :)
Let us know how you liked this OB :)
Posted on October 17, 2012 at 8:09 am
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Thats good you with with what felt right. You don't want to stress out the whole time! Sometimes hard choices make the rest of life easier!

Posted on October 17, 2012 at 9:57 am
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I think it's really great you shared this story, because we should be empowered to choose our doctors.  Your visit is just as much a interview of them as it is them making sure all of your shots/bloodwork checks out.


I also switched my OB.  I was seeing him for my yearly check-ups, but he was so brash, sarcastic, and just gave me a weird feeling.  Tons of people like him, and he actually has pretty good reviews, but we don't mesh as people.  I need a sensitive and no-nonsense doctor.  Someone who listens, and someone I would feel comfortable crying in front of.  He's not the guy.


My two friends recommended an AMAZING OB from the same office.  When I went in for my visit I told the RN on staff that I needed a female, and the name of the new doctor.  She switched without a problem, and the look on her face seems to be "honey, you aren't the first one".  LOL.  I'm really glad I did.

Posted on October 17, 2012 at 11:33 am
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So glad you decided to switch! I didn't have an OB / GYN since my GP would do my yearly a for me, I tried once a while back to find an OB so I went to one that a couple of my friends loved - he was an ass! It seems he is a good OB dr but really sucked at GYN!
I went to my current OB after several ladies in my office raved about him, the plus was they went to him for GYN stuff and still loved him. I told myself I would give him a shot and change if I didn't like him...I love him! It's funny cause I always thought I would have a woman delivery my baby but nope ended up with a man! And his office staff is great as well.

You spend so much time with this dr plus this is an amazing moment you share with them...I hope you like the new one!
Posted on October 18, 2012 at 1:13 am
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Thanks ladies.  Dunno why it was so hard for me to switch but I'm glad I did. 

Posted on October 18, 2012 at 10:41 am
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Good for you. I just switched (at nearly 20 weeks) to a birth center because I was getting weird vibes from my midwife group. And I am so so so happy I made the switch. Being comfortable with your provider is so important. I also firmly believe that one person's nightmare provider can be another person's dream so its so hard to go on recommendations..... you just have to go with your own feelings and gut.

Posted on October 23, 2012 at 4:57 pm

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