The Business of Being Born

Hi ladies - before I start this I just want to say that I'm not trying to start a debate on what is 'right' or 'wrong', I am purely curious....so anyway.....

I watched a documentary today called 'The Business of Being Born' which discussed the number of C-sections and elective c-sections that are being performed in the US versus mid-wife assisted vaginal deliveries. I was amazed at how many c-sections are performed compared to places like Europe.

So I was curious as to how many, if any, of you are planning on mid-wife assisted births?
Posted on January 20, 2013 at 2:54 pm
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GermanBride2011
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As for me my twin sister is a midwife and I will definitely have a midwife assited birth wether it will be a c-section or a vaginal birth. Here in Germany it's very common to have a midwife. And how nice would it be to share this special moment with my twin sister (so glad she's a midwife!!!)


 I'm surious and can't wait to hear what other Ladies are going for:)

Posted on January 21, 2013 at 12:01 am
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That's such a lovely idea!
My FSIL is a midwife in England and she did all my care during my pregnancy but she didn't want to be at the birth (although she called the maternity unit when i was in labour to see which midwife was looking after me to make sure they were 'good enough'!!)
She looked after me so well, she even came to my house after her shifts to give me injections so I didn't have to go to hospital appointments!!
Posted on January 21, 2013 at 3:34 am
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That movie made me so bitter about my C-section :(
I wanted to have a vaginal birth sooo bad, but with my medical problem it was not even possible...

This movie is excellent and very accurate. In Europe the C-section rate is very small (I can claim that since I am from Europe) and most births are vaginal and with no epidural.
Posted on January 21, 2013 at 6:22 am
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I think TBOBB is a great movie.  There is a sequel out and I haven't seen it yet. 

I actually planned to have our son with a midwife at a free standing birth center.  Problem?  Those free standing birth centers are under SUCH pressure and scrutiny, that if you fall anything outside of 'normal', even just a little bit, they have to transfer you to in OB. 

In my case, I was 'risked out' at the end of pregnancy, given to an OB I had never met and didn't trust from the second I met him, and left high and dry by the midwives who wanted little to do with me from that point forward.  For liability reasons, I essentially became a 'disease' they could not deal with. . .even though once in labor, the issue that 'risked' me out was not actually a huge concern and the OB said as much. 

Interestingly enough, I'm positive that if Ina May was my midwife, things would have been MUCH, much different. 

I'm SO mad at that birth center and have a lot of negative feelings about the whole experience.  I now advocate that moms choose a hospital based midwifery practice where they also meet the on call OB's so that end-of-pregancy complications don't become a huge ordeal, OR choose homebirth with a midwife that will stay with them in the event of a transfer. . .NOT a free standing birth center where being risked out also means being alienated and left in the dark at the end of pregnancy. 

For a second baby I fully intend to go for a home birth. . .

Posted on January 21, 2013 at 7:32 am
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Don't be upset olga!! You did what had to be done for your baby, it's unfortunate but in your case it was absolutely necessary!

MountainBride hospital based midwifery is standard in UK hospitals and (IMO) it's wonderful

I had 2 midwives with me for the first 10hrs of labour (one was a student) before a consultant came in to oversee delivery because a twin birth is considered high risk. I almost had to have a c-section with #2 (which would have made me VERY upset after getting #1 out!). I was told that they would allow me 30 minutes maximum to deliver him because he had got quite distressed during #1's birth and somehow (FI says its because I'm the most stubborn person he's ever met!) I managed to deliver him after 22 minutes.

Until I saw this movie I had no idea how different maternity care is in Europe and America - I'm now looking at what happens in Canada (not that I have any intention of having any more!) but now I'm very happy I had my boys in England so I didn't have a c-section!
Posted on January 21, 2013 at 7:54 am
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I am planning on a midwife assisted delivery with a doctor only when necessary.  So far I seem to be on track with that, and no mention of a c-section has been made.  But I can't believe how many of my friends have c-sections.

Posted on January 23, 2013 at 3:49 am
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I had a midwife for my first after switching from an OB that didnt listen to me when i told him i was in pain.  Ended up spending 3 DAYS in the hospital with a raging kidney infection. 


 


I was 15 when i had my 9lb 2oz baby boy and i only needed a couple stiches because of the constant care she gave me.


My second pregnancy i ended up having a resident that went my entire pregnancy with me.  She was wonderful.  But when I went into labor, she literally got there in time for the 3rd of 3 pushes and he was already out. 


 dont hate me.. it went less than 3 hours from start to finish.


I sincerely LOVE that documentary, and anyone who is scared of having a more "granola birth" should watch that movie.


 

Posted on January 23, 2013 at 5:20 am
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I had an OB, the funny thing is someone I meet at a wedding ask me my dr and when I told her she said "Oh be careful he likes to do c-sections when they are not needed" it really freaked me out!  If I didn't love him and the staff I just might have switched.


Did he did a c-section?  Did he even mention a c-section?  NO!  I think sometimes OB's get a bad wrap!  Canooknic - my BFF had twins normal, no c-section so there is hope :)


I also think there are women out there that think a c-section would be so much easier...I think those ladies are crazy haha!

Posted on January 24, 2013 at 2:15 am
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for first baby i had an assisted birth, it was a very bad experience emotionally and physically(inscontinence, stiches etc). second baby emergency c section, not what i wanted, but necessary. third baby they gave a choice vaginal or c section. i choose vaginal. i was assisted by an midwife and a resident doctor. not epidoral, just local anestesia for stiches. personally i think that with a vaginal birth you get back to normal more easely, and learn to thurst your body.

Posted on January 25, 2013 at 5:52 am
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I'd always wanted a midwife but here in Canada they're such a hot commodity that you almost have to find one before you get pregnant!! I had literally found out I was pregnant 2 days before I called about 5 different clinics and they were ALL full for my due date. Huh!? Anyway, one of the receptionists told she would call me if/when they had a space available. So I waited until I was about 10 weeks along and I just couldn't wait anymore so I started calling family doctors who were also obgyns and within a couple of days I got a call back saying I had a doctor :) fast forward until I was about 25 weeks along and guess who called telling me I had a space if I wanted it? Haha, ummm, I kind of had to find care a LONG time ago!! My baby's birth went fine (turns out my doctor was sick when I delivered Megan but I was ok with that -I had a bunch of different nurses/doctors who were all amazing -it was the after-care I wasn't thrilled about in the post-natal ward (but that's another story!)

Posted on January 25, 2013 at 11:59 am
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That's a great documentary! Basically, a lot of it really focuses on putting the power and choice of birthing experience back in the woman's hands. The second part "More Business of Being Born" is great from what I've seen so far (haven't got the chance to finish it yet) but that one is more celebrities sharing their experiences. I think it's great to have a plan in place, but know it may change depending on the situation and need, and that's OK, too. When I was in my OB rotation for school, my instructor is an OB nurse at a hospital here in town and we had some great conversations about people's feelings on the matter. Did you know there are hospitals that are not "baby friendly"? I assumed if they had a L & D they must be, but apparently not! There are not a ton of them even in the US in the grand scheme of things, but it's a certification that not all hospitals with L & D units have. I think it's more breastfeeding focused, but another interesting factor in the birthing process nontheless.  http://www.babyfriendlyusa.org/

Posted on April 8, 2013 at 12:14 pm
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I watched that documentary and it was a real eye opener. Especially given the number of women I personally know who were induced and ended up in c-section deliveries.


After watching that it does seem like there's a subtle push for them. My personal plan/goal is for a natural birth w/o induction or drugs. I have an OB and I'll deliver in a hospital. But there is no wrong way - as long as Mom and baby are healthy and happy!

Posted on May 7, 2013 at 9:33 am
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When I was pregnant with my son, I knew what the medical industry was doing to pregnant women these days, but my husband didn't believe me. He said it seemed counter-intuitive for hospitals to pressure women into scheduled inductions and c-sections, to use scare tactics, and treat pregnancy like a disease that needs to be cured. 

We watched the film together and it completely opened his eyes. I felt it was quite hospital-bashing, but overall sent a great message about how women need to be educated and know they have options. I have the 2nd film and I still need to watch it. 

I had my son in a hospital with an OB because my HMO would only cover a hospital birth ($250 copay vs $3000-$4000 for a birth center or home birth), we just couldn't afford it. But we were educated (took a Bradley Method class) and found a way to transfer to a hospital that was way more accommodating to our birth plan. 

My hospital birth went really well... unmedicated (like I wanted), no pushy nurses, and I lucked out and got the only other supportive OB in my group.


But if I ever get pregnant again, I don't want to give birth in a hospital again if I can avoid it. I'd much rather do a home birth or go to a birth center. 

I don't consider being educated about birth and knowledgable about options a "crunchy" thing. It should be something we are ALL researching. A healthy mom and baby are the most important, but all too often it evolves into "so long as the baby is healthy, nothing else matters." I don't agree with that. I am all for a baby being born healthy, but the physical and emotional well being of the mama is equally important to me. There are too many mamas suffering from PTSD and PPD as a result of their birth experiences. It needs to change.

Posted on May 20, 2013 at 5:13 pm

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