"The Honeymoon Stage"

What are your thoughts on this?


Reality or myth? Subjective?


When is it over? After the honeymoon? After one year? Never?


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I am just curious on your opinions! Personally I am not fond of the term - like I'm only happy right now because I'm a newlywed? I think sometimes it could be taken offensively. 


But someone told me that regardless of what the thing is, everything in the first year of marriage is considered to be part of the "honeymoon stage". The good and the bad. Hmmm. 


Newlyweds: do you agree that you are in the honeymoon stage?


"Oldyweds": did things change after a year? 

Posted on October 11, 2012 at 4:32 pm
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I think it is subjective. Sometimes I get offended by it. My DH is a total gentleman, the biggest example of this is that he opens my door for me anytime we get in and out of a car. He always has, it was really interesting getting used to it, because I didn't think guys did that. But anyway, my point: When people see it, especially those we aren't around often, they say, "aww you are still in the honeymoon phase, that will pass." It offends me because I think it lessens what he is doing, it isn't a passing phase, he is a nice guy! He does it for ANYONE that is riding with us as well!


Other times, I am not offended by the term. I think it just depends on the situation, for me. If it is a passing comment that isn't followed with "that will pass." I am not bothered by it.

Posted on October 11, 2012 at 5:05 pm
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Oh thats a great theme. We were just two weeks on vaca in Egypt and really a lot of people asked (old and young ones) why we are so in love and so nice to each other. We looked like we were only together since half a year LOL - so in the "totally in love" phase. We told them that we are now together 9 1/2 years and married since 1 1/2 years. All coulnd't believe that.
Even in everyday life we are too cute to each other, because we love each other now more than the first day. Every morning when we got up and finish for work we say "I love you" and kissing when we say goodbye. But not why we have to, no because we love it and we're both so happy that we found each other 10 years ago, because we both know that we couldn't have found a better match for us. We went to a lot of ups and downs and this made our partnership so more stronger.


I think it's a thing you have in your own hands if it will change or not. Often its the small things that make live and love so much more amazing :)

Posted on October 11, 2012 at 11:37 pm
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Jess, I would get offended too - and your DH is super sweet! My DH doesn't do it all the time but he is still a gentleman and chivalrous!


DH and I have been together almost 9 years and married almost 4 months. I think the "honeymoon phase" only fades if a couple lets it. We say "I love you" all the time and show it to each other too - we both know that life is too short not to. We kiss before we leave each day/each other and we kiss each other whenever we meet again. We've gotten similar comments GB. It's sad that people think the norm is that this phase or love bird stage goes away is the norm.


Corny but cute: DH once said to someone that when they asked him when we'll take our honeymoon trip, "I'm on my honeymoon already, I married her!"

Posted on October 12, 2012 at 7:15 am
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Ashley, that's so cute!


Jess, I would be mad if somebody said, "that'll pass." Like when somebody at work found out I got married recently and she said, "welcome to your divorce." Um, oook? You know?


I know what they mean about 'honeymoon phase' but I agree with you guys that it's sad that the norm is that that sort of thing goes away. For us, it's still getting used to calling each other husband and wife ;) And with the name changing and everything. It's still pretty new and exciting for us.


All in all, I don't care what people call it, but it's sad when people think it doesn't last..

Posted on October 12, 2012 at 8:30 am
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Awww! I loved reading all of your comments. Nice to know chivalry is not dead and love exist beyond the honeymoon.


Not only are me and DH hopelessy, madly, possibly teenagerish (is that a word?) in love with each other, we find a new reason to love each day. We were like this from day one and it just gets better with each passing year. Being married just solidified the beautiful union we already had. We have been together six years, married for 4 months Oct 30th and we are still dating. He always opens the door for me, pulls out my chair for me to be seated, even when we are at home, puts on my coat and takes it off and puts me on the correct side of the street when we are walking. We hold hands even when we are driving and we dance in the market when we hear our song playing. He wakes me up or I feel him staring at me before he goes to work to tell me he loves me and kisses. Every Wednesday is our date night and we get so excited like it's the first time we've done it. And we are always smooching and feeding one another! We haven't gotten too many comments like that from the public, but family members say we won't stay like this. YEAH RIGHT! WE HAVE BEEN DOING IT FOR SIX YEARS AND IF IT WERE GOING TO STOP, IT WOULD HAVE! He still makes me light up like a christmas tree when I see his smile and I get butterflies each and everytime we kiss! We have our ups and downs just like any other couple, but we never go to bed angry. The honeymoon never has to end unless the couple lets it go!

Posted on October 12, 2012 at 9:00 am
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What an awesome topic!!!


I don't think there is a "specific" time period that one would consider the "honeymoon period".  DH and I have been together since 2006 and we just celebrated our 2-year anniversary this past Wednesday.  People are still telling us that we act like we are just married.  I have noticed that after we became "legal" that there was a different feeling between the two of us - a solidifying factor maybe...can't exactly describe it, but I have also been told that if you respect each other and make time for each other, as well as your relationship, it won't matter how many years you are married, you could still be considered as newlyweds.


I try to do nice things for him each day and he does the same.  We also tell each other "I love you" at the end of every phone call, before he leaves for work, etc.  We never go to sleep angry and when one of us needs to vent about outside issues/people, etc, we let the other one know so it does not seem that we are yelling AT the other.  I also 100% believe that the trials and tribulations you go through will make your relationship stronger if you take on the challenge as a team.  I feel truly blessed to have met my DH and I appreciate everything that he does for me, as he appreciates things that I do for him.

Posted on October 12, 2012 at 4:40 pm
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Ugh, I hate the "oh, you're still in the honeymoon phase, that will pass" comments with every fiber of my being. Who are you to say?! Sure, life isn't a big bowl of cherries, and I'm sure we'll have our share hard times. It's just part of life. But we can choose whether or not we let those bad times steal our marital bliss! And we choose not to.

Posted on October 26, 2012 at 1:25 am
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i really dont like it either, people get me really  mad when they say that  and i'm not even married yet. They just kill us with their experience and expect that ours  would be the same. we are all unique come on when would they just leave us alone

Posted on October 26, 2012 at 2:30 am

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