The MOTHER-IN-LAW!!!!!!!!

Hey Ladies,


I just wanted to know if you all are having issues with your soon to be mother in law and how you are handling it. My mother in law and I have had a blast up until the month after the engaged....when the planning started now she's a monster in law???? I am so confused and starting to think eloping is better a option.

Posted on January 21, 2011 at 3:24 am
ndmcclendon1981
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autumnlite
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I don't have any issues with my soon to be mother in law.  I think after you get engaged... there is a little tension.  A lot of times,... there is a little jealousy... the need for control,... etc. that makes the relationship change.  The best thing to do is make sure that no matter what she does, continue to make the planning process fun as possible for you.  If you find that she is ruining it.. talk to your fiance', you are not the only one planning the wedding. 

Posted on January 22, 2011 at 12:30 pm
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Thanks autumnlite.....That's what I planned on doing. So far there has only been one issue and I praying and hoping that will be it.

Posted on January 24, 2011 at 2:23 am
BKPINKBRIDE10
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I havent had any issues . I love her to pieces she has accepted my son as her grandson and he adores her. We now have a baby on the way and it was hard to tell her because it wasnt planned she was conceived in the midst of us planning lol but she is happy. But i agree if you feel she is making you feel uncomfy talk to your fiance. I have grandmother in law issues. Shes doesnt know me but doesnt like me . LOng story lets just say shes stuck on his ex. UGH

Posted on January 26, 2011 at 3:50 am
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OMG That's a tough one as long as you guys were dating it seem like everything was fine, but now, you guys are heading to the alter things have changed.  Maybe she realizes she is not going to be number 1 any more and it bothers her.  I do not have that problem either because my FI parents are deceased.  I also agree with BKPINKBRIDE10 you should talk to FI about how you feel. So keep planning and keep smiling God has got your back.

Posted on January 26, 2011 at 5:31 am
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I have had some small issues. My soon to be MIL has been great throughout our entire relationship but when she learned that I was not going to have her other daughtr in law as a bridesmaid she threw a hissy fit. She went as far as to asking my fiance how he would feel if he was in a friends wedding but not me and that it looks bad. I would agree to an extent if she (the other daughter in law) had not made it clear that she was not to fond of me. 


My fiance was the one who told me all of this. My approach to this was just talking to her. I did not flat out say that it was my wedding not hers, instead I explained how happy I was with her son and how our bridal party had been there for us through everything and I knew they would be there to support us through the marriage. It was a polite way to defend my choices and let her be aware that it was going to stay as that, my choice. 


Remember, an fight revolving around the wedding (which lets face it, can't ever be a small disagreement) can ruin a good relationship with your future MIL. 

Posted on June 11, 2011 at 11:15 am
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Ohhhhh the mother-in-law issue...

I wouldn't say me and my mother-in-law have had problems with each other.  Was she a fan of me dating her youngest son when I was two years older than him?  Not really, but she moved on.

Now I've found out that she is "uncomfortable" with the fact that I wasn't raised in a religious home.  FI was raised in a Baptist home, and by the time he met me and we started dating, he was burnt out by it all.  So she's also confused his getting burnt out and us getting together around the same time as me "leading him down a bad path."

I live in Texas aka the Bible Belt.  I am so sick of people down here thinking I was raised like an animal because my parents didn't force religion down my throat.  My Mom was raised Catholic; my Dad Baptist.  They got burnt out on religion as well.  Did my parents teach me and my sisters about Jesus and God?  Yes!  Did they teach me the difference between good and bad?  Yes!  They also taught me how you ACT towards people is much more important than if you can quote the Bible verse-for-verse.  If me and my sisters ever wanted to go to church, my parents NEVER discouraged us from going.  They wanted us to decide for ourselves how we felt about religion.  Just because my family didn't make church a required event every Sunday doesn't mean we are bad people.  I won't lie, I think A LOT of the people down here who say they are Christian and attend church every Sunday tend to be the most hypocrital, and judgemental people I have ever met.  I've been burned MANY times, and I'm not sure if I will ever feel comfortable in church because of it.

On that note, I just wish my mother-in-law would take the time to get to know me as a person.  I don't see her very often (and we live in the same town...sad), and I want to make more of an effort....but at the same time I'm hesitant because I know her feelings towards me.  UGH, this sucks! 

Posted on July 18, 2011 at 12:55 pm
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My FMIL is a control freak and an proffesional event planner.  So what I did right off the bat was hire a seperate wedding planner and told her your job is to be the medium between me and the FMIL.  She agreed and now everytime my FMIL volunteers to do something, I saw that is what I hired a wedding planner for and that is it. 


 


Good Luck

Posted on September 10, 2011 at 6:22 pm
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I am lucky (i guess) because i have not met my FMIL yet she lives out of state...But i somewhat have a feeling i wont get along with her that great because she has done some pretty messed up things to FI and even they dont get a long that well...But since shes FI's mom i will try my best...Which is the only thing i can advice you to do, but if it gets out of hand let your FI know so he can talk to her.

Posted on September 20, 2011 at 7:22 pm
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I've only had one problem so far with my FMIL....she doesn't think either of us should have a big wedding.  We've both been married previously, but it's what we both want ;)  We're still going to do it, but it was not easy hearing that we're stupid because of it :(  I think she could have gone a better way about saying that we could spend our money more wisely elsewhere.  Everyone is entitled to their own opinions and I've just learned to ignore certain comments when it pertains to our wedding.  The hardest part about it is that my mom passed in April of 2006 and I was hoping that there would be a better connection there with the wedding and all since I don't have it to share with my own mom...my best advice is to still try and include her, be patient, and realize that although this might be the most important day of your life...there's still a lifetime with the whole family... :)  good luck!!!!

Posted on September 22, 2011 at 8:40 am
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I've only spoke to Mama Taylor on the phone and so far she's been great to me. I'll be meeting her when FI and I move back to NY. I'm sure she will be fine then as well. She only has boys (FI and his twin), she doesn't have any other children, so I think that fact alone helps me lol. Good Luck tho!

Posted on September 22, 2011 at 10:45 am
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I had venue issues with mine! DRAMA DRAMA DRAMA! All I can say is compromising and patience are virtues!

Posted on September 28, 2011 at 9:53 am

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