Things keep changing!

So, we had planned to have our wedding in August.  We wanted to get married in late summer, and really wanted enough time to plan and really research everything to get the best deals possible. 


Well, now that my fiance's sister is moving to Hawaii, he says he wants to get married before she moves, and that will be in April! That gives me less than 4 months! I just don't know if I can do it.....I know it's important to him, and I adore her and want her there too, but I've never planned anything this big before....The most I've even entertained for was 7.  I"m just feeling really overwhelmed.  On top of that, our budget went down since we wont be able to save as long.  I'm just totally frustrated.  And he doens't want to help plan at all.  He understands that it's suppoed to me my day but I still need his help.


Any tips on planning a wedding for about 30-40 guests on a pretty tight budget of $5,000-$7,500 in FOUR MONTHS???


*Cries*

Posted on January 3, 2013 at 12:04 pm
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Aw, don't cry! 


It is definitely possible. A couple friends of ours got engaged the week before Christmas, and the groom also wants to get married in April for a variety of reasons. His bride is freaking out a little, too! 


I think as long as you can get your venue and dress situated, everything else will fall into place. (The only reason I mention the dress is that sometimes it can take a few months for them to come in after ordering.) 


I think your budget is more than reasonable for a guest list of 30-40 people. You should be able to do something very nice with that budget! I would think restaurants and other small venues would be perfect and more than willing to accommodate your group. 

Posted on January 3, 2013 at 12:20 pm
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Aww! I can imagine how frustrated you are, but it will be ok!!


msdl has offered some FANTASTIC tips! Definitely think about your dress because of ordering time frames. Have you been able to do any research yet, or have any ideas on what kind of vibe/look you are going for??


We are all here to help you out! 

Posted on January 3, 2013 at 12:32 pm
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Take a deep breath, hun, it will all work out, somehow.  You may have to adjust your "vision" a bit to something else, but it can still get done in that timeframe, even in L.A. The first thing to do is find a venue - then it will all come together.  I think you had talked about going to see a couple of Italian restaurants?  You might have to consider a date that is a Friday or Sunday.  And msdl is right about the dress, but you can get some that are "in stock" or also consider one that is off the rack, like from Nordstrom or David's Bridal.  This is totally possible to do, we'll all try and help you here at PW!


 

Posted on January 3, 2013 at 12:46 pm
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Well, I set up an appt at maggianos.  They offer the ceremony and reception in the same place, and for an all inclusive venue is about $40 per person! They serve family style dinner which is great for such a small party and it's our number one place right now.  We're deff going to look more into resturaunts, as long as they do the ceremony on site.  I'm feeling a little more calm now about it, I think I can do it.  I'm looking online at David's Bridal and similar places that I can get my dress off the rack to get an idea of the styles I like, and so far I've found three dresses I love that are under $700! I'm a little stressed about the DIY projects getting done in time, but I think I can do it.  


 


You girls are so helpful and sweet.  It's nice to have a place to be frustrated haha! April is a good month anyway, and it's considered off season in most places which might get me a good discount. :P

Posted on January 3, 2013 at 2:55 pm
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You can most definitely DO THIS!!!  I love all of msdl's ideas and we will be here cheering you on!!! 

Posted on January 3, 2013 at 3:11 pm
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I planned our wedding 20 years ago in just 2 WEEKS! I know you can do it! A spring wedding will be beautiful!


I am thrilled for you. I am sure you will be glad that it is closer!

Posted on January 3, 2013 at 10:27 pm
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YOU CAN DO IT! YOU CAN DO IT!! YOU CAN DO IT!!! 


The ladies above gave you great advice. I also read somewhere that when planning a wedding on short notice, the best tip you can use is NEVER look back on your decisions. When one is made, it's final and you don't waist anymore time worrying about this. 


For the DIY, I don't know how much you're planning to do, but for myself, I did: 12 pomanders for the church, programs, BM's shirt, hangers for my bridesmaids' dresses and mine, table chart, menu, centerpieces, cardbox, I spy game for every table, table numbers & emergency basket. I didn't start those project until late march/april and I got married on July 14th. So I think you can make it, and if needed, ask for help! People will be happy to help you I'm sure!

Posted on January 4, 2013 at 12:32 am
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Wow, that does throw you for a loop a bit, but it is totally doable!! Definitely secure the venue and dress like the other ladies suggested. Sometimes it's better to have less time for DIYs b/c then there's no procrastination! LOL. Make lists and you will be set!! How exciting!

Posted on January 4, 2013 at 2:06 am
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So happy to hear the update! Having a wedding for such an intimate number of 30 - 40 guest at the budget you set is totally doable!!!!! And I have to give a thumbs up to David's Bridal. I got my beauty on sale for 399.00! I am so excited for you and once the venue is secure, you will breathe a sigh of relief and all will fall into place! As for your DIY venture, I think you have plenty o time! As Elise said, just make a list of what you need to do and knock each one down! 

Posted on January 4, 2013 at 4:11 am
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We'll tomorrow I have an appt with two places.  Fiance is going back and forth on the date he wants, and I'm getting frustrated, so I told him he has until tomorrow morning to decide.  I need to tell the places a date! He's saying now that he wants to fly his sister in so I don't know when our date is right now.  Hopefully he can decide soon! 


 

Posted on January 4, 2013 at 3:43 pm
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Sending positive thoughts that he picks a date and (((hugs))) good luck with both places and don't forget to update us as to what happens!

Posted on January 4, 2013 at 3:45 pm
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Hope all goes well tomorrow!

Posted on January 4, 2013 at 3:52 pm
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Hope you guys settle on a date soon! I know it will be nice to just have something nailed down. 

If it does end up happening in April, I think Maggiano's would be a fantastic option! DH and I briefly considered doing a 30-40 guest destination wedding in Las Vegas, and Maggiano's was at the top of our list. (Go figure, with all the casinos! LOL) They just had so many fun, creative options for a group that size. Great choice!


 

Posted on January 4, 2013 at 3:53 pm
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Well, we're meeting with Maggiano's today, but my fiance has found a place that we are both in love with and could possibly work really well in our budget! The Vineyards in Simi Valley.  It is a little farther than we wanted, but he's pretty much sold.  I still want to see what Maggiano's has to offer, and then meet with the Vineyards and compare.  I do like that it's a little more like a "wedding" venue, and not a resturaunt, but we'll see.  He says that if we choose there, he will go with whatever they have available and work with it because he loves it that much. Well, he loves the price that much, I love the place! haha.  Have any of you had any experience with the Vineyards? It's really beautiful!

Posted on January 4, 2013 at 11:27 pm
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The Vineyards does have GREAT reviews - you can read those here on PW among other places, http://www.projectwedding.com/vendor/show/the-vineyards-at-calamigos-in-simi-valley  It looks beautiful!  

Posted on January 5, 2013 at 1:41 am
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We met with Maggiano's today, and I'm 99% sure it's the place I want.  The one we have here in LA is so beautiful...It has an old timey, 1930's feel....very classy with chandaliers and wood on the walls....the price is right, and if we have our wedding in March, our minimum we have to spend is only $900! That gives us so much room to add extras.  Fiance still wants to look at the Vineyards, but I don't wanna pass this place up.  The Vineyards are beautiful, but they havent returned my calls or emails and it seems a little big.  But he wants to see it and who knows, I might fall in love with it.  But like I said, I'm 99% sure we're going with Maggianos! I'm so so happy. The lady we talked to today was so helpful and totally accomodating to what I wanted to make it ours.  I just really fell in love with this place....I've never eaten there, but I get to go to the tasting and my fiance and his mom eat there a lot on their "momma and son dates" (He's the biggest momma's boy in the world, I swear) And they both say it's amazing food.  Most everything is included, all I have to worry about is a dress, and my DIY centerpieces and favors, which won't be hard with my small guestlist and only 4 tables in the room.  I'm sold.  The ceremony would be on this balcony/terrace that is attached to the reception room.  It's really perfect especially with how small our party is.  I'm so happy I booked this appt because I was second guessing this place, but I'm SO SO SOOO happy I gave it a chance.  I think it's going to be perfect! <3

Posted on January 5, 2013 at 10:47 am
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It sounds just BEAUTIFUL and affordable too!  That's great!  I hope you get it all worked out soon and a date set, so you can get things going!  YAY

Posted on January 5, 2013 at 12:53 pm

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