Things that make you say hmmmmm

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I sent out my invitations...a friend of mine texted me and said she received it and its beautiful. cool. then she says "i see you sent accommodations. is the following day a holiday?" :-/

lol. my wedding is on a sunday...i responded with I have out of towners coming. 

it's like ppl want you to have your wedding in your hometown and if you go outside its like "ahhhh what's this...i dont travel....its not usually where I'd go for a wedding. how do i get there....why so far". that's just what I think is going through their mind as they get nervous abt a upcoming beautiful experience!

 

another person called and asked me what's my color scheme b/c she's going to buy her dress and didn't want to clash etc :-/ lol

I thought the invitation is what presents your color scheme to the guest...although I guess i could be wrong.

 

I had another friend ask if she can bring her kids and if she's gonna be a bridesmaid..although this isn't a hmmmm moment. i said well, we aren't haven't any kids..only my niece and nephew. plus I'd rather not have to pay for them. she proceeding to say "well, i'm not too worried about the cost, its that we may not have a sitter blah blah blah". She asked me this 6mo prior to the wedding smh. work it out and find a sitter...she had 6mo plus I told her its ending early enough where you could get back home and dont have to leave them overnight at their grandparents house. the kids are 10 and 2.

reg the BM - i told her i'm not having BM. maybe just a MOH. now every talk w/ another friend reg my wedding is "linnn says she doesn't want any BM so I guess i dont have to worry abt fitting into a dress, blah blah blah. and isn't bffs suppose to be BM blah blah blah".

 

hmmmm hmmmm hmmm

 

What are some of your hmmmm moments?

Posted on July 22, 2014 at 10:04 am
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Oh you'll get lots and lots of these hmmmm moments :)

The no kids thing is a big one, people have very divided feelings on the issue but it's YOUR wedding, you have the final say - period. Don't let anyone guilt you into feeling differently because there is nothing wrong with not having kids there if you don't want. And if you put the idea out there early enough (and 6 mos is plenty of time) then there is no reason why they can't find a sitter if they want to.

Same thing for BMs - no hard and fast rule that says you have to have them, but if you do, YOU get to choose because it's YOUR wedding!

Sunday weddings are more unusual but not unheard of. As long as your ceremony/reception is at a reasonable time in case people do have to work the next day, then there is no reason for them to be huffy about it, same thing with how far away it is - people will want to come or they won't. And everyone's idea of how far is 'too far' to come is different - I had a family friend who flew across country to surprise us for the wedding, but actual close family members who woudln't come 3 hours...just remember that those who want to be there to share in your special day will be there.

Good luck and deep breaths!! 

Posted on July 22, 2014 at 3:50 pm
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 haha thanks sammy_D! i'm def not stressing it...just thought it was funny enough to share.

oh, here's a new one...we sent an invite to my FI friend w/ just her name indicating that she isn't allowed a guest. She saw my FI and said she will pay for the guest that she wants to bring. SMH. That's tacky. she wont be alone b/c most of his friends are her friends in addition to her sister who would be attending w/ her husband.

as much as we can, we went w/ married, engaged, or long term relationship who we knew both parties or not give or take regarding invitations. we have a couple of one ofs but that was how we wanted to set the tone so to speak. We really can't accommodate everyone.

Posted on July 22, 2014 at 4:03 pm
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Hah people crack me up sometimes. We had a friend bring their infant to the church and in the receiving line asked if they could bring the baby to the reception. smh. At first dh said yes because we were caught off guard. I made him call him from the limo to tell him no, we had too many family members who had to find sitters and it wasn't fair!
Posted on July 26, 2014 at 10:05 pm
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 dag...seemed they planned that knowing you would be preoccupied!

good catch!

Posted on July 28, 2014 at 4:08 pm
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 Yeaaaap, people will say whatever they're thinking! Good luck dealing with all these moments! We got married about 1.5 hours away from most of my extended family...and some of my uncles still made comments about "how far away" we were having our wedding. SMH, people do say the darndest things!

Posted on July 30, 2014 at 12:58 am
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My biggest hmmmm moment so far was when a coworker told me that my fiancé (who is VERY involved in the wedding planning) should sit down and shut up. His only job was to show up on time for the wedding! It was all I could do to keep from gaping at her!!! Planning together is awesome for us, and I wouldn't have it any other way. I could not believe she had the audacity to tell me that. Especially when I wasn't complaining about his involvement!
Posted on July 30, 2014 at 8:17 pm
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 wow @ mjsibley! your coworker is rude and frankly out of here!

my FI is involved too and i wouldnt have it any other way. its his wedding just as it is mine, so he should be involved.

i dislike when ppl say all they do is showup...like why should the bride have to do all the work? I ran into that when we met w/ vendors and the majority were saying the say thing to him "you just have to show up" :-/

Posted on July 30, 2014 at 9:55 pm

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