Tips for "getting into it."

Ladies...


My guy wants more than anything for me to be more "into it."  I'm guessing that this means that he wants me to just be more expressive during sex.  He would absolutely love it if I screamed or did all that "oh baby, oh baby."


The problem is that I can't seem to do it.  I love the sex, and although I never have O'd (I know-crazy right!?) but I just feel so strange getting so into it.  I'm sure a few glasses of wine would help, but I don't want to have to get tanked to get into sex.  I'm not so much embarassed because i know that he doesn't care about that he just wants me to get into it. 


Any tips for "getting more into it."  How do i just make myself do it.  I know that once I do it-it will make the sex even better it's just geting up the guts to do it. 


TIA!

Posted on October 22, 2010 at 6:51 pm
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lizziethelittlebit
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My DH says the same thing to me!  It's not that I don't make noise or anything, but I'm just not into the whole dirty talk and getting dressed up in lingerie and acting sexy thing.  I don't see myself like that at all, so I feel silly like a little girl trying to play dress up when I do.


I have no advice for you, but would love to hear how other ladies get into it too!

Posted on October 24, 2010 at 11:40 am
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Speaking as one who used to have a hard time getting "into it", I'd suggest that you start small. No words, nothing "ooh, daddy, daddy" type, just something easy. Try a sigh, just an "ahhhh" sound when you like what he's doing. Rolling your hips against his and running your hands up and down his back won't be overwhelming, and he'll be responsive.


Also, ask him what he'd like to hear, see, experience. He can't just expect to say "get into it" and have a sex kitten on his hands, kwim?  Sex is a two way street, he needs to communicate as well.  Tell him what you're comfortable with, find out what he wants, and start from there.

Posted on October 24, 2010 at 12:22 pm
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i know that i verbalize it when im liking whatever it is he is doing or , simple things like "right there" or keep going" or "i like it when you..."


like the other ladies said ahh , emm , uummm , mmmmm  are more simple


 

Posted on October 24, 2010 at 12:42 pm
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So is it just "dirty talk" or enthusiasm in general? I'm more of a moaner than a talker, but do enjoy a few choice phrases every now and then. Do the thoughts go through your mind and you're just too embarassed to say them, or does the thought just never occur to you? I think if it doesn't come naturally to you, it could potentially just end up sounding forced and cheesy. But since the mister wants it so badly it's definitely worth a shot. Maybe watch some porn. Have a talk with him about fantasies. Just to get inspiration.
Posted on October 24, 2010 at 2:15 pm
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Agreed with keeping it simple at first! We actually have the opposite problem in that my FI is pretty shy when it comes to being vocal. I asked him to start by just indicating when he likes something. That has done wonders! Now he is more confident to say/do other things.


And you don't have to use the wine ALL the time, but the first time you want to try to be more expressive, it can't hurt. Just a thought! ;-)

Posted on October 24, 2010 at 5:51 pm
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great tips ladies!  I'm just going to try it and see what happens.  I just feel silly (in my head).

Posted on October 24, 2010 at 6:29 pm
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I always found that the more "into it" I made myself sound (just moaning, noises, some butt grabbing, lol) the more into it I actually got! I think building on eachothers enthusiasm is what makes it hot, and starting small like everyone suggested will surely help!

Posted on October 25, 2010 at 4:52 pm
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Alright, so silly as this sounds, I havent actually done the deed yet, however, me and FH have gotten pretty close several times. At first he wondered why I was so quiet and requested that I moan a little now and then cuz it turned him on. At first I felt really silly, but to him, I was just sexy and even though it wasnt natural for me, now I find that it has become natural. Even though you may feel silly at first, try moaning a little, or maybe even just some heavy breathing. Wrapping your fingers in his hair is good too, or running your hands up and down his chest. You love him and his body so just show him, simple caresses and kisses do alot :) hope this helps!

Posted on June 2, 2011 at 6:04 pm
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I have the opposite problem, I am LOUD. I get so much more into it when I moan, so I don't hold back. FI loves it too, it really gets him going when I get loud. Just start out simple - when you exhale let a little sound out at the same time, it feels good!

Posted on June 3, 2011 at 11:15 am
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lol @alycia I am the same way! I am super loud. It's not like I'm being loud "for him," but I literally CANNOT help it! lol. Our sex is really passionate all the time to the point where even he starts moaning/making noise.

Posted on June 4, 2011 at 4:20 pm

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