To engrave or not to engrave?

Honestly, I'm done caring about invitations. I've made three versions, yes three. Now that I finished my final version, my friends are saying, "If its not engraved and if it doesn't have blotting tissue - there is a problem." Ugh, its frustrating on the grounds that I don't really care about what is proper, although I know everyone else does so now I feel like I have to get a FOURTH set of invitations... Its not even the price tag grounds because honestly, whatever but its just so wasteful to THROW OUT three sets already! I hate this wedding stuff, its too difficult! Anyhow, to engrave or not to engrave, what do you think?
Posted on February 23, 2008 at 4:52 pm
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TheChicBride
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In my opinion, I would not worry about it. They are YOUR invites and they should be how YOU want them. Stick with what you already have.
Posted on February 23, 2008 at 6:06 pm
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Champagne, I read that tissue was necessary in the past because printing quality was not as good and tended to run. These days, it's not necessary- it's basically decorative.
Posted on February 24, 2008 at 2:08 am
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I think there is a lot of hype around letterpress. I can't remember if it was you, though I feel like it was, when I was asking about calligraphy and it was said there gets a point when they just throw it away.

If it's in your budget and you really love letterpress go for it. If not, I wouldn't worry about it. I'm doing letterpress for 2 reasons.

1) All the Nor Cal girls on the knot were obsessed with it when I started planning. Prior to that I didn't even know what it was. As a new bride I had the "I have to have letterpress" mentality. (silly new bride I was)

2) I did walk away from letterpress due to the cost. I think at Paper Source it was like an extra $3 per invite. Then I started creating our invites through SmashingCards.com (love them). I was going to go with just a raised ink, but then she told me I could do letterpress for just $1 more per invite. Since I only have 60ish, an extra $60 was worth it to me.

Additional thoughts...it's your wedding! People will toss the invite. It is the first impression of what the wedding will be, but I doubt people will say "I'm not going! The invite didn't even have letterpress." It all comes down to taste in the end.

If they really want tissue, just cut some and toss it in :)
Posted on February 24, 2008 at 2:21 am
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ask them to do them and pay for them then...lol jk
Posted on February 24, 2008 at 4:41 am
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In my opinion, engraving and blotting paper are overrated! We are not doing either and we have beautiful, elegant, classy invitations with plum branches thermographed not engraved.


It is important to do what reflects your sensibility, your vision of the wedding and your and your FI's taste and personality. Do not listen to what OTHER PEOPLE think is your style...
Posted on February 24, 2008 at 6:12 am
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My style is sending a post-it quite honestly. I love planning parties and even as a child I loved my parents dinner parties but I was never that particular about the paper! This is why I'm so frustrated/lost!
Posted on February 24, 2008 at 10:14 am
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I say screw it and send them how YOU want to send them. It's not worth stressing over. :0)
Posted on February 24, 2008 at 10:17 am
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hehe I'm sending e-vites then ;)
Posted on February 24, 2008 at 10:23 am
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I am with ChicBride! But of course you can always say that your FI prefers more formal invitations :) and that is why you are not doing the evites :)

Seriously, Champagne, do something simple but stylish. I recently saw a wedding invitation which was both engraved and embossed! It was too much - too pretentious looking.
Posted on February 24, 2008 at 10:30 am
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I say do what you are comfortable with and stop listening to others... In the long run they will drive you nuts and your way will never be their way. We kinda are doing it our way, because we always do stuff ourselves on our computer. I really like some of the other options out there, but I just couldn't fathom spending the money that someone will only look at a few times and then end up in the trash. You will be one of the few people that will look at it in the future, so do something you are happy with!
Posted on February 24, 2008 at 11:13 am
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FI had a good point, this is what he said on the matter -
1. If people don't like the stationary, they don't have to come. It will save us money on feeding them for the weekend.
2. No one follows tradition anymore, people can barely put on a freaking suit and how many people wear detached collars anymore. It doesn't mean they are in the wrong for wearing an attached collar, things are just different.
3. Why is it okay to wear casual polos to the office or not tuck in your shirt but suddenly everyone has to be proper for a wedding??
4. Talk about a violation of ettiquette, calling someone out on stationary and making them feel badly is worse than sending out cheap stationary.
5. We are in the military, there are no good sources around here and while we could order online, its not really worth the trouble.
I'm still undecided but I'm leaning towards the, "I don't care anymore" side of things.
Posted on February 24, 2008 at 12:27 pm
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I like your FI, he thinks like mine does!
Posted on February 24, 2008 at 1:12 pm
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Champagne,

I can't believe your situation? Since when does anyone have ANY right to tell other bride-to-be's what to do?! I say go with the stationery that speaks to you and emulates the atmosphere of your event. I happen to be someone who does care a lot about stationery and even I don't think there should be any stuffy regulations on paper. In fact some of the most wonderful stationery I've seen have been DIY and I've been so impressed.

Smilkova - I recently got invited to a wedding and the invitations were the same as yours. They were GORGEOUS, one of my favorites thus far!!!
Posted on February 24, 2008 at 2:30 pm
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HPS you're right. I guess my main gripe was that I do love stationary, it just didn't seem right for this event. I order my memo notes from Smythson. But I don't think our wedding (casual, sweet, Yankees attempting to be Southerners...) requires proper English invitations, you know? And honestly while I know people will keep the letters I write on my memo notes, however I know no one will keep my invitations. I think that's really my beef. I don't want to invest in something I love knowing people will just toss it or pass judgment on it, you know?
Posted on February 24, 2008 at 2:44 pm
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PS I'm even more stubborn about it now that someone brought it up with me...
Posted on February 24, 2008 at 2:53 pm
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I say send the post it :) You should see TMConne's STD's. They are very cute and could easily be done with a cute post it.
Posted on February 24, 2008 at 3:16 pm
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One of the few bridesmaids actually joked I should just send post-its. I think I'm going to write her a post-it invitation and send that a few weeks before the real invite as a gag now!
Posted on February 24, 2008 at 3:42 pm
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Hps, thank you! I am glad those Crane invites looked good :)
Champagne, I love your new photo! And I agree with what's been said here!
Posted on February 24, 2008 at 3:45 pm
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Have you given thought to doing offset printing? It's a nice alternative to engraving and/or letterpress. We're doing it for cost reasons.

You don't need blotting paper--just excess pulpage.

Go with what you like and let your friends do *their* invitations *their* way. It's your wedding! It's not supposed to be this difficult!
Posted on February 24, 2008 at 4:33 pm
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Hi Champ - I cannot believe that somebody actually said that to you! First of all, unless they are 85 years old and a Rockefeller, how did they think that such snobby rudeness was acceptable? Second of all, I absolutely cannot stand when people get so wrapped up in the idea of having something for the sake of having it that they lose all sight of what the original purpose of the thing is. An invitation is simply a means for conveying information. In the old days, people used to just handwrite their invitations on plain notepaper - done! I love love love beautiful stationary, but unless you have an unlimited budget (and how many of us do?), values have to be prioritized and cuts have to be made. And in my book, any guest who would demand a certain style of invitation doesn't deserve any invitation at all, engraved, post-it, or otherwise!
Posted on February 25, 2008 at 6:24 am

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