To party or not to Party

Hi ladies,

I agree with the girls you transfered from theknot you girls seem more my speed too. Anyway we got engaged Dec 2007 even though we've been together for 11 years in April 26, 2008 and already have 2 beautiful girls 13 and 3 (but thats another topic) We were hoping to tie the knot April 26, 2008 it being our 11th anniversary and it doesn't seem right to me any other day!! But we just moved to Bayonne, New Jersey from New York, Purchased our first home, First car and our oldest has a birthday coming up and a graduation so needless to say my budget is really really tight should I just postpone till next year? Or head to city hall and call it a day? The only reason I'm struggling with the decision is my oldest was looking forward to walk her mom own the aisle and our friends and family have been waiting for this event forever, but I don't even have a budget and won't have one until FI does his taxes we worried we might have to pay money back since he did some freelancing seriously I need some honesty here am I being pig headed and should I just postpone.

Feeling silly in Bayonne
Posted on March 5, 2008 at 4:34 am
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lukduck
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Wow...It does sound like you are busy!!! If you guys had an idea of some budget I would think it is possible if you have the TIME!!!! I mean you can throw an awesome party on a small budget...but it might take more time then having a larger budget.

I would seriously consider postponing I think, If your family has waited this long what is one more year? You might want to just to save yourself from stressing out.
Posted on March 5, 2008 at 4:40 am
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I think you can still have a beautiful wedding. There's a lot of beautiful courthouse. My personal fave is in SF.

You can have your child walk you down the isle and have the party at your house. Invite close family and friends over for some drinks and heavy Hors d?oeuvre and of course cake.

but if you and your FI wants more formal. I agree with lukduck, maybe waiting one year is better.

good luck and keep us posted on what you decide.
Posted on March 5, 2008 at 5:13 am
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can you have a big bash that will celebrate all of these events? Maybe a anniversary/wedding/graduation and just make it THE party of the year! It could help solve the budget issues....

oh and I am freelance; just a reminder: the genius thing is you can write off SO much. Claim that extra income and chances are you can write off a home office, the telephone, the mileage/car

good luck!
Posted on March 5, 2008 at 5:47 am
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This is a tough one. You've waited so long, so I can understand the excitement! One big thing I do want to mention is don't over do it. What I mean is, be sure that the wedding is just as you want it without setting yourself back in a big way financially. Congratulations on the new home, upcoming graduation, and of course engagement! I like Sumomo's suggestion: combining all these events into one giant celebration!

Its definitely possible to plan a wedding on a budget. The key is research and quite a bit of time. I myself am a budget bride. If you can keep your guestlist down to a smaller number, you can not only achieve an intimate wedding, but significantly help with the budget.

Lastly, if it doesn't seem possible this year...after 11 years, what's another year...lol!
Posted on March 5, 2008 at 6:27 am
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hey my date is April 25th and im in NJ too : ) . You can do it but if you feel stressed wait a little bit. a lot goes into deciding though,If ur going to do a party for your daughters grad(congrats),how big your wedding will be,what your budget is,and the theme you want for it all. It is possible, it might just feel like hell untill the day of...I started party planing so if you do think it is a good time all of us on here will try and help you through it....good luck
Posted on March 5, 2008 at 9:21 am

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