to veil or not to veil?

Is anyone not wearing a veil?

I've been having a really hard time with this part. I didn't actually think about my veils really and I made some DIY ones which turned out great but once on me I wasn't wild about the style. Btw on a military base, the local bridal shops offer zero selection, hence the DIYing.

At first I wanted something big and fun but now I think I don't want one or I want it to be very sleek and crisp. And I honestly think the longer ones (chapel, cathedral, waltz etc) offer a leaner line, no? Ugh, I'm so confused. If you don't wear a veil, what are some "bridal" looking things you can put in your hair? How would I attach blooms? Just stick them in?
Posted on March 27, 2008 at 10:43 am
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I kins like em, even though I will NOT wear it over my face. I'm getting mine through ebay!
Posted on March 27, 2008 at 10:44 am
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At first, I thought I wasn't going to wear a veil. Then when I bought my dress, the consultant put one on me and all of a sudden, I wanted one. But now, I'm wearing an ostrich feather comb (PIB) and decided that a veil would be too much with it so I've nixed the veil again! You can always use silk blooms and attach them to a comb or hair pin...or use bobby pins to pin real ones to your hair. My cousin had real orchids in her hair when she got married...just used bobby pins!
Posted on March 27, 2008 at 10:53 am
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Champagne, I've been struggling with this question too (I even posted on the forum about it a while ago).

Several people told me, this is your one and only chance to wear a veil. If you know you will not regret not wearing one, then don't wear it. If you think there's a chance to regret it if you don't wear a veil, then do wear a veil.

Now, it's true that when I tried on a veil at the bridal shop, I did feel like a bride. But honestly, I don't need the veil to feel great on my wedding day and know that I look great. In fact, the veil is making other decisions more complicated: I want a flower, but where do I put it, how will it look with the veil, and so forth. So my latest inclination is NOT TO WEAR A VEIL AT ALL. Berkeley is pretty windy (wedding is at the end of May) so having the veil blowing in the wind might be pretty but it also might be a big pain...And so I am thinking of defying convention and not wearing a veil. Besides, my FMIL really wants me to wear a veil, so that might have spurred my decision too.

Another idea I had was to not wear the traditional veil but some other sheer fabric around my head, there's a photo in my biography that depicts it well.

And a final comment, have you found your dress? If you have, then the dress itself might give you an idea.
Posted on March 27, 2008 at 10:54 am
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Yah I agree Champ. I am choosing to wear the long, sleek look. I find it more sexy, less poofy, etc. Mines a little past fingertip. I love the look...

HMM :)
Posted on March 27, 2008 at 11:02 am
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I've decided not to wear a veil - I tried one on while I was dress shopping, and it just gave me this "ick" feeling. I love the way that veils look on other brides, but they're just not for me. I'm still undecided as to whether I'll wear anything in my hair as a "replacement," but at the moment, I like the idea of just having a simple, wavy down-do with no other decoration - just drop earrings.
Posted on March 27, 2008 at 2:47 pm
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JD - I love the idea of a simple wavy down-do! Do you have a specific style/image in mind? It seems to me that a veil looks great with an updo, but with a down-do it seems a little superfluous.
Posted on March 27, 2008 at 6:44 pm
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I'm not wearing a veil. I don't like the origins of the tradition - that in arranged marriages, the bride was covered up so the groom couldn't see if she wasn't pretty, or that it symbolizes a bride's subordination to her husband. I know that weddings are full of traditions that have become simply that - traditions - and no longer have their original connotations, but this one bothered me for some reason. That said, they do look so beautiful in photos, I had second thoughts a few times - but I've finally decided for sure against it. I'm wearing an orchid in my hair. My florist is wiring it for me, but I'm pretty sure you could just use bobby pins. There are also some really pretty flower pins and combs out there - I really like Jennifer Behr's (below) - but they're so much more expensive than the real thing!



Posted on March 28, 2008 at 2:05 am
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smilkova - I've saved some images in my profile under hair and make-up that show the types of wavy down-dos I really like - including aching's profile picture!
Posted on March 28, 2008 at 2:15 am
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Thanks, JD! =)
Posted on March 28, 2008 at 3:20 am
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No veil for me!
Posted on March 28, 2008 at 3:30 am
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I wasn't going to go with a veil and wear a flower headpiece, but then I discovered the short birdcage/blusher veils, which is more a headpiece than a veil. I don't like the ones that go straight across the face, but I'm looking into the slanted ones. I'm planning on wearing it flipped back more than over my face as well. http://www.unveiledbridaldesigns.com/index.html

But veil or no, it's really up to you and what you feel comfortable with.
Posted on March 31, 2008 at 7:02 am
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Initially I was dead set against a veil.... then when I first began gown shopping, a consultant put a veil on my head and it was like *POOF* instant bride. I was near tears.

So then I was contemplating just a single tier, no blusher. Then my aunt painted this whole visual for me, about "picture his face as he lifts the veil and sees your face at the altar..." etc.... so then I was sold on the idea of a blusher.

Now we're back to the drawing board, as we've scrapped the whole traditional thing in favor of a Vegas wedding-moon, so I will probably forego the whole veil completely, and go with a hairstyle actually similar to the one Aching posted above - something soft and not too structured with a single bloom tucked into it.
Posted on June 2, 2008 at 7:48 am

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