Trying to decide if eloping is the right thing
Hello. So here is the background story.
I have been with my wonderful Marine for over a year and we have decided we are ready to make the jump and get married. We have a couple of issues: one a couple of years ago I got myself into some debt which I am slowly climbing my way out of. two he is an enlisted Marine, so he makes half of what I make. Three he is originally from Cali, so all of his family is out there, and we want them at our wedding, but they would not be able to afford to fly out to be there, so we want to help them out as much as we can(specifically his Mom,Dad, 3 siblings). Four its a big deal to my FH to be able to get me a nice ring, even though I told him I would be just as happy with a ring pop. Five I lose my insurance in August. Six his contract is up so he could be transfered (probably to CA) as early as Dec, and I do not look forward to paying for a move cross country, including four furbabies.
So after some thinking we came up with the idea of eloping. If we decide to do this his pay would almost double (due to BAH), I would be able to get insurance, and most importantly we would be able to have both our families together for a big ceremony. I am just worried about offending either set of our parents, or both if we don't have them there. So I have been debating on keeping the elopement a secret (just me, my marine and Uncle Sam) so not to offend any our family members. So basically I just need some advice. What would be the bigger offense the lie to prevent the hurt or no lie and hurt them?
Also just FYI my parents have already offered to pay for my dream wedding, but I do not feel like it would be right to ask they help pay for my future in laws as well, even though I am sure if I asked they would do what they can to help.