TTC advice needed

I know this probably belongs in the TTC group, but I figured I'd ask here first because this question pertains to TTC baby #2.  BTW, DH still isn't 100% on board with TTC yet, but he's getting there. And I'm breaking out the lingerie at all the right times, but AF still shows up. :-P


Before getting pregnant, AF was always very regular for me. I went off BC in 2004 and charted my cycle as our birth control method. After a year of taking my temp every morning, I got lazy and we just used condoms or abstained from DTD around the time when I usually ovulated (days 11 thru 16, just to be safe). This worked for years and we got pregnant on the first month we DTD on those days. Day 14 to be exact.


Now I'm 18 months post-pardum and I have had a seemingly regular period since the LO was 6 months old. The cycle lengths have varied from 24 to 32 days, but I have not ever skipped a month. The bleeding is a little heavier than I remember, but I have barely had any cramps. I also don't have any bloating or breast tenderness, which I had a little bit of before. I have a little nipple tenderness that is only noticeable because I'm still breastfeeding. But the LO only breastfeeds twice a day now. Irritability is there, but I'm always a little irritable, my MIL lives with me. :-)


I had my annual pap this week and discussed TTC with my OB. She seemed to think that I may not actually be ovulating, even though I'm having a period every month. She was stoked that I was still breastfeeding, but she said it would most likely be very difficult to conceive while still breastfeeding. I know this isn't always the case, hence so many women I read about who get pregnant before AF even comes back for them and they are breastfeeding more often than I am now.


My question is, how do I find out if I am actually ovulating? Do I start taking my temp every morning? If I'm not ovulating I'm guessing my temp will stay the same? Should I pick up an OPK? It's been a while since I did all of this, so I'm a little rusty. :-)


AF started this morning, 4 days early, and it has me in a funk. :-P Thanks.

Posted on April 24, 2011 at 12:47 pm
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danidabi
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Yes you need to start temping in the morning. It should be done when you first wake up, around the same time everyday. It also should be before you get out of bed and walk around.Also make sure it's after 3 hours of consecutive sleep. You could use OPKs also as a back up. The difference between the temping and OPKs is that the OPKs will tell you yes your ovulating today/in the next 24 hours whereas the temps will confirm ovulation. The temps will not confirm ovulation until 3 days of consecutive temp rises. 


Hope that helps and yeah for TTC #2!!


 

Posted on April 24, 2011 at 1:04 pm
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Hey Alex, I'm sorry I don't have advice on this. But I am wishing you the best in TTC LO#2. I know this is something you have been thinking about for awhile.
Posted on April 24, 2011 at 1:09 pm
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Ditto Dani.  Temping is the only way to confirm if you o'd.  OPK's will show you that you are gearing up to O but you may never actually O.


Your temp will remain relatively steady if you do not O.  I always used to chart on fertilityfriend.com and then t detects O for you.  I was pretty hard core and when I was TTC I was tracking my CM and CP too.


YAY for baby #2!  Best of luck!

Posted on April 24, 2011 at 1:11 pm
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yeah, I was pretty hardcore for a while. I was even tracking CM too. But it's been like 6 or 7 years since I did any temping. :-) And I think what my OB said kind of shell-shocked me.


Thanks ladies!

Posted on April 24, 2011 at 2:19 pm
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yes. temp at least one cycle and chart it on like fertilityfriend and it will detect ovulation after your temps drop and then rise. good luck!!

Posted on April 24, 2011 at 2:46 pm
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I had a funny thought today:


Since AF started 4 days early, my "fertile time" will now fall on a weekend when DH and I are in Salt Lake City looking for houses to rent. If it had started on time, DH would be gone from days 12-16. Is this the universe stepping in?

Posted on April 24, 2011 at 4:54 pm
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As I mentioned before, mine is soooo different now after having Lucas too!  I have heavier periods, they are longer, and also I always feel late.  Mine are not 28 days on the dot anymore, always 30 days plus.  I don't track though, but kinda have an idea & taking more notice since things have been so different. I have had some odd symptoms inall this too, which have been bugging me.  I can't tell you how much money I have wasted on preggie tests lol Since Im not on BC I know we can have an 'accident' more easily- although it would be welcomed ;) So some months when Im late I can't resist testing lol


I think I ovulate later too (since I know the date we conceived Lukie since we were on our HM) But not 100% what it is now- and I know it can change.  I dont' want to start charting but I may if we really want to try at some point to get an idea- but I probably wont consistantly.  The last few months we haven't been using any BC, we're just "safe" for those few days that I think- lol ohhh man were so halfass. I think b/c we both really want to get preggie deep down.  but its probably smarter to wait haha  Now that Lukie is almost 2 Im ready.  Im having a blast with him and glad I waited honestly so I can do my best with him. But now Im feeling more and more ready. More like the baby fever part vs. the sleepless nights haha


I think to be most accurate you should temp for now, just to get an idea.... Then you will know if you are Ovulating at least.  I wouldn't think your not though, but as Tommy weans out more and more I guess that would naturally up your chances? but then again, hes down to 2 sessions, so I would imagine you are? Especailly since you never have had any problems.   But Im not an OB lol

Posted on April 24, 2011 at 6:06 pm
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I'm hoping that the universe is telling you something and that you get pregnant this month, because maternity pics would definitely be in the snow! :)


I'm sure you are a little stressed too, dealing with everything related to the move.  I don't have anything else to add other than what has already been said.  I do think that if it doesn't happen for you before, it will be shortly after you are moved and settled.  Becoming a SAHM and not having the additional stress will definitely help.

Posted on April 24, 2011 at 6:53 pm
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I got pregnant the weekend DH and I got our house rented and we moved to Palm Beach Gardens and we christened our new place. Maybe the universe or baby is just waiting to pick out his/her new room :)

Posted on April 25, 2011 at 3:12 pm
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Aww...I have no TTC advice but that is so exciting!!! Good luck with all of your upcoming changes and getting a BFP!

Posted on April 25, 2011 at 3:21 pm

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