TTC vent: they took my (blank)

So I've noticed on here (and other boards) that people post vents about people stealing your idea for a nursery room or a baby name.  People do it all the time, and those people suck.  Maybe it's old news, maybe it just happened, maybe you are still upset, maybe you look back on it and laugh.  You don't really get to complain about it IRL because people think you are just being a big baby, even though we all know you are completely justified.  Not being pregnant RIGHT NOW doesn't give someone else the right to use your ideas for a room or name just because they got pregnant first, right? Right.  Anybody have a stealer story to share?


I'll start.  I was married once before, right out of high school.  My ex and I talked about kids, like most people, but we were waiting until I finished college.  (We separated just a couple of months before I finished.)  But we had talked about kids and names and that kind of thing.  Well I had always wanted a little girl, and to name her Madison.  Shortly after we divorced, his girlfriend (the one he got while we were married) became pregnant and they married.  She had a little girl and they named her...Madison.  I got over all of that, really I did, but I keep a list of names I like, and I am sometimes mad that I can't put Madison on there because then it would look like I named my kid the same as his, even though it was my idea first.  I am not a copy cat!!

Posted on December 11, 2009 at 3:00 am
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i don't have any stories cause i don't know anyone who has kids or is pregnant but...


wow meany, i would be PISSED if my ex and his new gf (that he got during the marriage) stole my baby name idea!!  glad you're over it now though.  what a jerk!


 

Posted on December 11, 2009 at 3:31 am
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I dont have any stories like this... I think I just get over things really well and if people want to take my ideas or steal my thunder I feel that in the end they will end up looking like an idiot in some way or somehow...


Also there are only SO many "things" in the world, its not like everyone can have their OWN of everything...


Although if my ex-husband named his child a name he and I were planning to name our child I would probably be a tad upset...

Posted on December 11, 2009 at 3:50 am
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I tend to get over things pretty easily too.  But when people know you've always had your heart set on something like a baby name or a nursery idea, they should leave it alone if they are close enough for it to matter to you IMO.  I also love the name Riley, but I have a cousin that named his little girl Riley.  I didn't get upset about it because we aren't that close, and it wasn't like they knew I had my heart set on it or something.  But if you only have your heart set on one thing, and someone close to you takes it, it's upsetting...like when a best friend or close family member (or sometimes even a close co-worker) does it.

Posted on December 11, 2009 at 4:01 am
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I have a similar story meanyprice!


DH is a teacher, so for him to pick out names is difficult.  Every name brings memories of some bratty child he taught at some point, therefore, he would never want to use it for his own child.  Years ago (while still in University) he met a guy named Daxon and thought it was a cool name.  DH and I weren't dating at this time but I guess he decided right then and there that his son (should he have one) would be named Daxon Jeffrey (DH's first name).  I vividly remember him telling me this over some silly conversation when we first started dating (7 years ago) because I remember how I thought it was weird that A GUY actually had a name picked out for his "future child".


Anyway, at some point he must have mentioned it to his family in passing because last February his sister found out she was pregnant and before they found out the sex of the baby, she proudly announced that she was naming her child Daxon.  DH was FURIOUS and he is the calmest person I've ever met.  Seriously, he doesn't let ANYTHING bother him, but this really got to him.  I was pretty upset with her too as DH and I had agreed this is what we would name our (hopefully) someday son and had told her this a number of times.


It ended up being quite a fight between the two of them and also made things really uneasy between SIL and I.  For two weeks she didn't speak to us.  Soonafter they found out they were having a girl, so the issue was dropped, but it still irks DH and I that she even had the gaul to do such a thing. 


This is the same girl that as soon as DH and I got engaged (she is not engaged, not married) called me up and presented me with a list of things I was not allowed to "do" at my wedding because she had them planned for her "someday" wedding.

Posted on December 11, 2009 at 4:28 am
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OH WOW MIZBIZ!!  She sounds like a bit of a crazy :)


Well i dont have a story myself but my best freind ashley has two best freinds...me and a girl named tina.  Well my freind and Tina were preggers at the same time and they were both having boys...well Ashley mentioned that she wanted to name her son Ethan...well Tina said thats a nice name...and she was gonna take it.  her intenstion were to take it until the huge fight that insued and me having to get in the middle...needless to say, Ashley named her son Ethan and Tina named her son Jaxon.

Posted on December 11, 2009 at 4:33 am
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what is with these ppl?!  mizbiz...i'd also be quite infuriated.  that's just ridiculous!!  

Posted on December 11, 2009 at 4:55 am
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I get that feeling sometimes.. My FI right now always wanted Paige for a girls name, he has 2 sons. Well, the boys' mom now married, has a daughter and named her Paige, this sorta upsets FI, but kinda makes me HAPPY since I don't care for the name. 

Now that I changed the girls name I always wanted from Skylar Star to Emily-Ann Louise, now i'm starting to hear more and more Emily names. Emmalyn, seems to be pretty popular right about now too. I may just have to switch back to Skylar Star :-D
I want a name that is not popular at the time. My first name is Patricia, (I hate it) I go by Patty, but even so neither are popular, there was one other in my senior class. Thats what I like.  Names,-at least in my age group, Ashley, Amanda, Jennifer(Jen), Amber, Jessica,(Jess), and Heather are a few to say they are extermely popular.  (no offence if you're names are any that I listed). Just mentioning they are popular names.

Posted on December 11, 2009 at 2:07 pm
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I was diagnosed with PCOS and found out we have a very small chance of having children. Our dream had always been to have a boy and do an owl nursery. I had EVERYTHING picked out, from the crib bedding, to the wall art, to the pack n play and cute owl onesies. A week after I was diagnosed, my pregnant SIL texts me that she's decided to do her nursery in owls. And registered for all the stuff I picked out.


I'm still pretty heartbroken about it. The fact that someone would even do that. I feel like she went out of her way to hurt us, her family. Totally f'd up.


DH and I have names picked out for girls and boys and we are definitely keeping them secret after what she did!

Posted on December 11, 2009 at 4:38 pm
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Yeah, I've got TWO stories!!!! First one was about our wedding. Our really good friend and I were talking about weddings. (he is a guy and is like a girl to talk to, lol he talks about everything) So anyways he was asking me when I would like to get married and where. etc. I told him if it was possible I would like to get married on our 6 year anniversary because it lands on a Saturday and I think that would really be neat. I also said a country club cause I am not really churchy. He was like ya that's cool blah blah. No joke 2 months later he pops the question to his girlfriend of 11 months and guess when they set the date???? SEPTEMBER 19 2009. Yes the day I had just told him about. My dream date, and of course he said it is going to be held at a country club. I was sooooo upset. I told everyone about it and was so angry, hurt, and frustrated. I kinda felt dumb too because I was making such a big deal about it and I wasn't even engaged. So super long story short he ended up changing his date and we got married that day...whoo hooo. But let me tell ya it took months to convince me it was just a date they came up with.


Second.. I already picked out my girl bedding and boy bedding (but haven't bought it) and I was showing my friend because I thought it was soooo cute and thought she would like it too. Anyways, I wasn't worried about her stealing my idea cause she doesn't have a b/f and can't picture herself ever pregg. So she loved it and says yes you gotta get it. One month later she calls me up and says her b/friend is having a boy and she told her about the bedding I like and she wants to order it so what is the website? I was soooo pissed. I totally felt dumb again cause I'm not preggs yet but still. Now a days everyone has myspace or facebook and we went to the same school. So are same friends would see her pictures then it would look like I stole her ideas. ew makes me mad. I just told her I didn't remember the website. So who knows she probably googled it. AH---This just gets me all worked up just thinking about it!!! lol

Posted on December 11, 2009 at 5:14 pm
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This happened to me sorta of she didn't out right steal my name BUT my DH is Greek and the tradition is you name your first born son after your father, no big deal DH father was named Elias which I love! Well his cousin gets pregnant and announces that she doesn't want to name her little baby named George (her fathers name, Petros uncle) so she is going to name him Elias!!! DH said that it was ok so now our first son will be named George - thanks. And the worst part is they call him Eli!!!! So she stole my name and doesn't even use the full name eck :-(
Posted on December 13, 2009 at 2:33 am
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Princess that is awful. Traditions are traditions in my opinion, and I can't believe they would have the gall to do that! How did Elias Sr. react? If it were my grandfather (my father figure) he would definitely have something to say about that!

Posted on December 13, 2009 at 10:55 am
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Both DH's father and uncle have passed. To make it worse DH uncle just recently passed away like 3 years ago I think??? His dad died when he was 14.
All because she didn't like George as a baby name...whatever :-)
Posted on December 13, 2009 at 2:47 pm
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To me --> that somehow makes it worse. Your attitude about the whole thing so great though. I'm not sure I would be that big of a person.

Posted on December 13, 2009 at 3:06 pm
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It's hard because the baby is now our godson plus he is so friggin adorable and DH doesn't have an issue with the name so it's a losing battle :-)
Posted on December 13, 2009 at 11:40 pm

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