Tweaking the Guest list

Hi ladies! I am curious to know what you would do in this situation. So my friend sent out save the dates to her guests abouta year before the wedding and now that her fiance is adding more people to the list, they are over budget and need to tweak the guest list. Since her side of the guest list is way bigger (he was only going to invite his family in the beginning), she is thinking of moving them to the "B-list" instead which means there is a possibility that they will end up not being invited to the wedding.. Do you think she is wrong for this? the contract at the reception hall was for 200 and theya re now over by 70 guests.. curious to know what advice you guys have so that i can relay it to her if need be.
Posted on October 10, 2013 at 8:54 am
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Canooknic
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 If someone received a Save the Date I'm pretty sure they'll be expecting an invitation at some point too (this is the one big problem with STDs in my opinion because they are sent out so far in advance and so much can change by the time comes to actually send invites!)

If it had been me in this situation I would finalise the list and if there were people that received STDs that I could no longer accommodate I would call them/talk to them in person and explain that I had to reduce numbers because of the venue etc. Not a very pleasant conversation to have I'm sure!!!!

Posted on October 10, 2013 at 9:27 am
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This is one reason we aren't sure if we will do Save The Dates. They should go through their list and first invite those most important to them and go from there. I agree that those who receive STD will expect to receive an invitation.
Posted on October 10, 2013 at 10:27 am
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 Ditto Canooknic and kimandbyron!!

Posted on October 10, 2013 at 11:37 am
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 I agree 100% with the other ladies. If I received a STD and didn’t get an invite I would be upset…BECAUSE I would have saved the date. Especially if I gave up another invite because of it. If I wasn’t getting an invite and had received an STD I would want to know asap that it was being revoked…. Not sure how that could be done without causing a fight though…but that being said the lack of invite would probably cause that anyway…

 

It’s a HARD call on what’s he should do since she is way over already….I honestly don’t know the answer…..

Looking forward to seeing more responses. Please let us know what she decides to do. Wish her luck… 

Posted on October 15, 2013 at 9:43 am
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 Sorry I haven't gotten back to you ladies but she's decided to leave the guest list as is and not really have a B list unless the number of guests goes under the contracted amount. 

Posted on October 15, 2013 at 10:05 am

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