Two Maid of Honors?

Has anyone out there had, or been to a wedding where there are two MOHs? I can't decide between two of my girls (my life long best friend and my cousin), and don't think it is fair to either, but I don't know if it may be kind of weird or pointless. Would it mostly just be for the title of MOH or would it make sense to ask them both? How would I decide who walks down before me and stands next to me?

(Little background: I was MOH in my childhood friend's wedding. She hated the process of wedding planning and her family did much of it. She was just kind of go with the flow and is NOT a planner, nor is she into this kind of stuff at all. My cousin is exact opposite. An amazing planner of all things and is sooo into it.) 


 


Thanks in advance ladies!!

Posted on April 28, 2013 at 1:49 am
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chrissyrenaegray
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You could certainly ask both to be co-MOHs; there have been women who have done this, and both MOHs just share the duties of an MOH.

Posted on April 28, 2013 at 2:04 am
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If they are torn between the two I would ask them both. I have two sisters that have always supported me and been there when I needed them but I know between the two one would be better at the MOH duties so I am asking her to be my MOH and my other sister to be a bridesmaid. I don't think this will offend the other one

Posted on April 28, 2013 at 4:55 am
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i have been to a wedding that had a maid of honor and matron of honor.  co maids of honor isnt that different.  it may actually be really great for them.  the duties that the moh carries could be split between them. if one cant make it to a meeting with a vendor, then you still have another to go with you.  i would definately ask both.

Posted on April 28, 2013 at 7:55 am
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fyi...if you remember i am pretty sure that when khloe kardashian got married both kim and kourtney were co maids of honor.

Posted on April 28, 2013 at 7:56 am
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My opinion may be different from others...I had two MOHs in my wedding and if I could have done it all over again I would have picked only one.  I did not originally want to ask my second MOH because she had just gotten out of a divorce and didn't want to burden or feel insensitive towards her.  However I should have known her heart and just asked her first because of course she was THE BEST!  No matter what she was going through she made me feel special and understood that our wedding was about me and my husband.


My other friend tried to mask her discontent with her life and really wasn't there for me through the process.  If it weren't for my 2nd MOH I probably wouldn't have had a great bachelorette weekend in NYC or even a wonderful bridal shower!  One of these days I'll put the pics up lol ;-)


I say choose your cousin because she loves to wedding plan and she will be excited about it, if your friend doesn't like to do things like that don't burden her and put that on her because in the end you may get upset with her lack of effort and attention to your needs.  It's nothing personal but family is family.  If you have a family member willing and able to help plan go with it.  Your friend may be honored with just being considered a bridesmaid, if that is your 2nd option.

Posted on April 28, 2013 at 9:58 am
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I have two.

Posted on April 28, 2013 at 12:22 pm
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I've been to two wedding where there were two MOH, but they are all sisters. In both cases, the older sister of the two always took a stronger role for whatever reason.


poppy made a good point. If it were me, I would strongly consider the one who loves to plan and ask the other to be a BM. BM is a huge honor still and she might even be relieved at not having to do major planning. GL!

Posted on April 29, 2013 at 1:38 am
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Thanks ladies! Great advice. I'll let you know what I decide! This place is the best :)


 

Posted on April 29, 2013 at 2:04 am
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well i totally agree with poppyaka! i was maid of honors at two of my friends weddings and also my sisters, i was first thinking of having a maid of honor and two matrons of honors but my sister expressed how she wanted to be the only one (lol) so i went with it because i was the only maid of honor at her wedding anyway.


Even though my other two friends had me as their maid of honor, i made them bridesmaids and they were happy about that. If i didnt have them in the wedding at all that would have been a bigger issue. but they understand that my sister is my sister so maid of honor (well matron of honor) is off limits.. i think if the person is organized and gets things done and is family that is the best of both worlds!


hope that helps :-/ im sure you will make the right decision.. consider too that if one is kind of slacking in everything they do, it frustrates the other maid of honor who is well organized and likes to get things done..

Posted on April 29, 2013 at 2:54 am
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I'm having a Maid of Honor and a Matron of Honor. I see no problem with it! :)

Posted on April 29, 2013 at 2:56 am
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You can do whatever you want, as long as you make sure that they know who's in charge of what. I had three honor attendants (and no BMs), and I just made sure to delegate the specific MOH duties among them.

Posted on April 29, 2013 at 4:48 am

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