Ok is it just my FI who is obsessed with the idea of a 3sum??
Is it just me who thinks its kinda hot, but also kinda way gross all at once?!
No way, I've definitly considered getting someone to come home with us. I always chicken out, unfortunately.
lol my FI mentioned it once but said its just a fantasy. Nothing he would ever actually want to act out on.
I guess the fantasy part of it is kinda hot to me but I don't like the idea of another girl on my FI or another guy on me for that matter. We shall just keep it a fantasy! ;)
my FI loves the idea, hes been joking about it for years. ive considered it, but never done it. if we were going to it would have to be with someone neither of us knew bc i wouldnt want it to be someone we were friends and would see all the time. like on vaca or something like that. but at the same time, if i dont know them then i dont know where theyve been, kwim? so im not sure if it would ever actually happen, but as you can see ive thought about it... lol!
I think he likes the idea of me with another girl, so in that way, it's a fantasy of his. But I'm not into girls, so he's out of luck.
I will say that overall, I think it's a bad idea, unless it's something you plan on doing on a regular basis. I think generally speaking, this has to be a lifestyle that you engage in regularly simply because the novelty gets addicting. (Ever know anyone who only used a toy once or only watched porn once? Basically the same.) For the people I've know to do this, they end up having open relationships, swapping partners or adding a plus one pretty frequently. And since you don't have to go thru the day to day stress with the extra person, it can cause problems between the couple because one of them ends up falling for the extra person. Obviously there are exceptions, but this is just what has happened to the ones I know.
My husband thinks they are a bad deal, I kind of think they are hot and a bad deal at the same time. I think that I could get satisfied the same way with some role playing or other creativity in the bedroom, not necessarily another person - so just a fantasy for us.
Ive never either, but Ive always thought about it. Ditto to what Meany said. that happened to one of my good friends. Once they did it, her husband wanted to do it more, then ended up cheating on her and was like " what, you let me have a 3some." they divorced
I wouldn't bring it in to our relationship, we already have a great sex life
I think it would be hot to have a 3 sum! But FI doesn't like to share! So looks like I am out of luck!
We talk about it but we never would. I would never be able to get it out of my mind and I would always wonder...Was she better hten me, does he find her hotter, does she give better head. Yeah no, it wouldnt work.
I think its hot, but not worth all the relationship problems that usually come with it.
Personally...I've had a few and they were great. But I wouldn't dream of bringing it into an established relationship, especially my marriage. I think that just opens up too many doors. Just sayin'.
I wouldn't even imagaine doing that in a serious relationship...
Lol, its funny how a plus one in this group means something so different then it would on the main board.
FI told me that he would definitly do it if he was single, but he wouldn't do it with me because he cares about me to much.
I think this will probably not be an issue for us since I would only find it hot if there were two guys involved, and I don't see my fiance going for that lol.
I agree that it probably opens doors that should best stay closed as far as a marriage goes.
I've had a few and it was fun at the time but it's definitely not good for a serious relationship.
DH and I discussed this very early in our realtionship and neither one of us would want to do this. Maybe because we are a little older and have had other relationships, it's just no that exciting to either one of us.
While it's intriguing to both of us ...neither of us would ever be able to go through with it ....
I always come back to the predicament ...who would we do it with??? ...if she is someone we know , then its all awkwardness and we are both more apt to worry about "2sums" going on without us ..... and if it's someone we don't know ....well then there ya have it ...we don't know her ....or where she's been ....
So no Ill watch it on DVD but no partaking :)
ooooooooookkk interesting question.... have fun and be safe.
I think men have that boyish fantasy, even my guy being 50 yrs old.. he "gives me permission to be bi curious any time I want.. " it would NEVER happen.. in a million years.
He always used to mention it. I haven't heard about it lately, thank goodness. I guess the reason I'm so against it is because to me... it would be like him cheating on me even though I'd "consent" to it. I could not stand to watch another girl all over him. I'd die...
Not on your life! That man is mine and so is his magical wand!!! MINE!!!