Upset after looking at pictures from dress pick-up

Hey ladies, 

So yesterday I went to go pick up my dress (YAY!) and when I put it on, I felt soooo gorgeous! Well, I opened up the photos this morning and I started crying. I HATED the way that my face looks. I haven't ever felt that badly about myself after looking at a picture.

I'm not in the best shape, but after being an athlete who trained for 6 hours a day for most of my life, anything feels awful. But I am determined not to let myself look like this a year from now (a little less) and hate the way that I look. I'm not used to having to "try" to lose weight, so I'm really stuck. I can't do any high impact stuff because of my knees, can't swim because I'm allergic to chlorine. I have the Jillian Michael's 30 Day Shred DVD, that I did for a few weeks before, but I want to know if anyone has more long term results from that or a DVD like it? 

We also don't have a gym near our house.

I guess I'm REALLY on the fence about losing any weight because the dress fits me perfectly already. 

Any tips would be really appreciated. Thanks so much ladies! 

Posted on August 11, 2012 at 4:30 am
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kplusd
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its all in your diet!! drinking 4-6 glasses of unsweetened green tea a day, helps rid water weight. eat protein early in the day, to boost your metabilism through out the day. when you drink water, drink ICE water, with ice in it! your body has to work harder to bring ice water to body temperature, so it actually burns calories in the process. and walk alot! i purposly leave things upstairs, so i have to run up and down the stairs more often. rather then bringing everything down at once, i make a few trips. its the little stuff like that that counts! and girl, you have a year till your wedding and you already look great! i wouldnt sweat it, but if you are, just change your daily routine to add a little bit of cardio in it, with out actually "exercizing" i gained 21 lbs with my pregnancy, and i lost 32 pounds after i had her because of doing all of the above! i just startin moving more bc i hate organized exercize!!

Posted on August 11, 2012 at 4:58 am
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Posted on August 11, 2012 at 4:59 am
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I've seen awesome results from the JM 30DS.  It really does work! 


I've been faced with same dilemma and the weight is starting to come off.  I've cleaned up my eating, but I'm not perfect, nor will I probably ever be.  I'm following the Body for Life program and it is super easy and I'm never hungry. Sometimes, for me, it is just a battle of wills with my head. 


I'm not sure if it's a number you want to lose in regards to pounds or just an over all feel and look to your body.  Keep in mind, you CAN lose weight without high impact.  I know you're an adenaline junkie, but you can still a burn without further injuring yourself.  


I'm just an e-mail away! 


You have a year!  Don't waste time with what you can't do.  Do what you can and do it consistently.  You will see the benefits!  I wasted a lot of time and I'm paying the price now!  Learn from my mistakes. 


You got this!

Posted on August 11, 2012 at 7:41 am
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These ladies are right! It's the little things (like walking more often than not) and diet! But I just wanted to hop and on and say it's not a great feeling to compare yourself to before. I hear so many people at the gym say, "I used to be in such great shape!" It's true, but don't compare yourself to when you had six hours a day to train. Do the best you can do NOW. Lives change, so try to accept it, and do everything you can now :)


It's a hundred daily decisions about should I have this or that? Or do this or that? etc. Good luck girl, and you do look gorgeous in your dress! A year is a long way (but also a short time) away lol. Weird right! You can do it!

Posted on August 11, 2012 at 8:00 am
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Weight loss will happen with changing what, when, and how much you eat along with drinking more water.  Walking is fairly low impact so that should work for your body.  It works much better if you have someone to walk with.


However, I understand your dilemma about not wanting to lose weight because your dress fits perfectly.  (If you're like me you have a limited amount of funds and alterations can be expensive.)  However, I think it's more important to like how you look because you don't want to cry looking at all your wedding pictures in the future.

Posted on August 11, 2012 at 10:22 am
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Ohhhh, I'm so sorry you feel this way :(. I actually lost 10lbs last winter/spring just drinking a lot more water, cutting on pasta and doing abs. I'm sure you'll look like a princess by your wedding date...(and already look beautiful). Don't be to hard with yourself. Hugs.

Posted on August 11, 2012 at 12:07 pm
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Oh Halsey don't be so hard on yourself. You are beautiful. But if you want to lose a little weight and make a lifestyle change to be healthier I'd suggest checking out the pink method. I posted about this awhile back but didn't get a good response. But I discovered it with my sister. It was on Dr. Phil, The Doctors, and others. It's an at home program that teaches you how to eat healthier and incorporate exercise and it guides you step by step so you aren't making drastic changes right away. It was only like $60 and I loved it! I'm not doing well with it anymore but I do plan to go back to it after the wedding. 

Posted on August 12, 2012 at 7:00 pm
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Love you Hals!!  I'll do JM30DS with you... but I think you're gorgeous the way you are!!  :)

Posted on August 13, 2012 at 12:38 am
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I just had some photos done of my children and i yesterday.. felt the same way.


I am sitting with a 2 qt jug of water in front of me now!!! LOL  I think that everyone is right about drinking more water. 


You can do it girl!

Posted on August 13, 2012 at 2:10 am
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Awwh, Hasley! You look absolutely gorgeous in your dress and you are BEAUTIFUL! Don't let anyone tell you other wise; not even yourself. Stay positive!


Elise is right, don't compare yourself to what you were before. I always did that until someone told me the same thing. Now I look forward to get into shape/exercise with out having to think about what I used to be. Good luck and don't let it stress you out beacuse you're beautiful and we love you just the way you are!!! :)

Posted on August 13, 2012 at 2:29 am
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Don't stress, a year is plenty of time to get where you want to be! You should figure out your BMI (free calculators online) so know how many calories you need to each to maintain your current weight. Then you need to cut out about 500 calories a day in order to lose. This will be slow, steady, healthy weight loss. Anything more is not good nor easily achieved.


Add to that a sensible exercise plan - even walking at a good pace for 30 minutes a day can help you lose. And cut out soda if you are drinker, believe me it was the best thing I've ever done!!


I do have the 30 day Shred and I like it, but you are going to tone more with than than anything. It's all in the diet, once you start seriously eating healthy and cutting those calories, the exercise is just good for you and will help.


(I'm down 16 pounds since March, so I speak from experience).

Posted on August 13, 2012 at 2:38 am
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And I should add that cutting the calories is not about starving yourself or making yourself miserable. You are allowed to cheat, in fact you should or you will drive yourself crazy and completely give up. If you want a piece of pie or a brownie, etc. - have it!! Just be as smart as you can as much as you can, and if that means walking an extra 10 minutes to help average it out, do so.


Become a calorie savant - know how much is going into your body each day and what you are burning through exercise. Losing weight is simple math - more calories out than you put in = weight lost. Good luck!!

Posted on August 13, 2012 at 2:40 am
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Thank you ladies!

SDonisi-  My BMI tells me I'm severely overweight, haha. I NEVER listen to that because I have a massive amount of muscle from racing still. I try not to listen to calories so much as I KNOW what is healthy and what isn't. I did track my calories once and I was right on. I've never had an issue with over eating. 

I don't drink soda. I haven't for about 6 years now.  I walk to work every day, so I think that'll help a lot (It's 1/2 mile each way)


 


Thanks for all of the kind words ladies. I'm going to start my new routine this morning. :)

Posted on August 13, 2012 at 2:49 am
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This needs a 'like' button click.


 

Posted on August 13, 2012 at 2:54 am
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Keep your chin up and just move more. My mom always told me to keep moving. A 30 minute walk is not only relaxing but good for you. You can do it!!!!

Posted on August 13, 2012 at 2:56 am
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We've already had this conversation, but YOU ARE GORGEOUS! Drink lots of water, and EAT. That's the best way - if you cut too many calories your body goes into starvation mode which helps nothing!


What you should search is your BMR. It will tell you how many calories your body burns just doing things like breathing, digestion, basic activity. That is the number of calories to need to eat in a day to maintain the weight you have, or if you subtract 500 it will give you a calorie deficit = weight loss. Myfitnesspal is a great resource for watching your calories, I use it not to "count calories" but to ensure that I actually eat enough during the day! When I started using it I was shocked because I was averaging like 900 calories a day without realizing it (I thought I was eating a lot!) when I need to be in the 1500 range to lose weight. Most people think that 1200 calories a day is enough but it is so dependent on your body, to maintain my weight I need to eat over 2000!


Do you have a bike? A bike would be a fantastic way to get cardio in with low impact if your knees will allow you that bending motion. 

Posted on August 13, 2012 at 3:32 am
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Typo - I meant BMR :) I hate the BMI index too! But seriously, knowing what you need to eat each day to stay healthy is a great way to keep in the back of your mind what you put in and burn out each day.

Posted on August 13, 2012 at 6:42 am
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Awww!!!! Sorry to hear you feel that way! What works for one doesn't work for all of us and it depends on the area you want to lose.  I totally agree with Elise's advice about not comparing yourself to when you use to train six hours a day.  We all change and so do our bodies! What worked for me is cutting out pop, (I love pop!!!), no eating after seven, not eating fruit after two because it turns into pure sugar and walking with my sweetie at least three times a week.  On the days I didn't walk, I did the treadmill. My knees are trashed too! I didn't even do any cardio or any killer workout to look the way I wanted either.


And if the dress fits you perfectly and you love how you look in it - THEN DON'T STRESS ABOUT IT!!! You may feel differently with your hair all done, your face made and your veil on! Wishing you well in your endeavor! You can do it!

Posted on August 13, 2012 at 6:50 am

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