vent:: ex wife drama

I just have to vent a little bit here because I'm honestly sick to my stomach over this.


My husband married his high school girlfriend. They never had kids and have been divorced for over 6 years. She lives very very far away and we have no real contact with her at all. BUT, even 6 years later she keeps causing problems for us. She is 37 years old, has a masters degree, good job, etc....but somehow she can not take care of herself in any way and expects the rest of the world to pay for her.


We have had legal issue after legal issue with this woman using my husband's name on her bills that she doesn't bother paying, listing herself as living in our residence(she's never even seen this house), and other things like that. His name was still on her car that he co-signed for 10 years ago, of course they started calling him like crazy because she was delinquent, she was ruining his credit. He ended up paying the amount left on the car to save his credit but he entered an agreement with her for repayment since it's HER car...she is now trying to weasel out of that as well. He is set to talk with a lawyer this week about her fraud, identity theft, and other such issues but seriously we didn't want it to get to this point. All we want is to be done with her and forget she even exists!!


He made many mistakes in trying to be nice to her and keep things friendly. She is taking advantage of what a nice guy she knows he is. Who the hell does she think she is thinking she should get away with never paying her bills and dumping it all on her ex husband?!?! This b*tch dares to have herself listed as living with MY husband in MY home?!?!


We hate that we are going to be getting entangled in further legal battle with this idiot woman but we can't keep letting his credit be risked, our money, his identity, who knows what else she has his name on? It's just such a mess and I hate it. If she was simply a decent human being who took care of her own responsibilities and didn't lie to us and everyone else, we would not be in this situation. We have tried a couple of times to simply talk with her about it to settle it outside of courts and lawyers, but she  just lies and scrambles to cover her crap, then she doesn't keep to any agreements any way!


ugh I just want to scream!!!! Thank goodness they never had any children in this mess. Anyone know where I can get a magic wand to wish her away??


 

Posted on January 23, 2010 at 8:01 am
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Niecy
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ABSOLUTELY SEE A LAWYER NOW!!!!!


 


She is using your address??????   WTF??????


Hire a lawyer and let her deal with the consequences ..... serves her right for being a sheisty fraud!

Posted on January 26, 2010 at 1:45 am
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i know, crazy right?!!?! We officially have a lawyer on it now....he's taking one thing at a time so it will take a while to cover it ALL. She's going to be shocked when she finds out she is being held responsible for her actions. Can you believe this woman is a social worker who has access to other people's social security numbers and stuff?

Posted on January 26, 2010 at 8:18 am
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I am PISSED just reading your situation.  I would want to rip her head off...


I am sorry she is such a fraud...good for you in taking care of it legally...it seems there is no other way to get it across to this woman.

Posted on January 28, 2010 at 9:50 am
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OMG!!! I can relate so much. I'm sorry you are going through this. Don't let her off the hook. She has to learn. Do what it takes to get her to understand that she can't come running to your husband for protection.


My situation is slightly different in that there is a child involved. The child is great but the mother has enormous entitlement issues!!! She can't seem to disappear. She always needs something. She! not the son!

Posted on January 31, 2010 at 11:57 am
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I would also recommend getting lifelock - for anyone and everyone really - they have fraud and identity protection up to a million dollars I think, plus a bunch of other protections, but they would easily be able to notify you if she opened up anything new under his name.


I would also make sure you guys have an up to date credit report on him to make sure that you have authorized all of his revolving credit - my understanding is that even though he is a co-signer, a car loan would have come up and he would have known to remove himself from the loan.

Posted on January 31, 2010 at 12:14 pm
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we actually already have lifelock...here's the problem with that...some things only show up on the report if she defaults on them and it's handed to a collection agency....for example...she used his past electric power account at the home they shared 6 years ago, had it transferred to a new address but pretended to be his wife to keep using the account. For years she has been adding debt to the account, paying only half the bills some months, it never showed up on our lifelock account because technically that is not a line of credit, it's an account. Things like cable bills or power bills don't show up on your credit report. We only found out about it after she left the bill unpaid for so long that the power company handed it over to a collection agency that hunted him down. Suddenly we get this threatening letter in the mail that he must pay hundreds of dollars in a couple of days to a power company in Florida for an address he has never even seen, or else his credit will suffer. Now we are wondering what else she has used his name on that we don't know about yet. We still haven't found out why she is listed as living at our residence if you look her up, she's never been here. We are pressing charges against her for the fraudulent use of his name for the power company bill. (which is a felony we have found out) But the list is endless and she is vindictive and evil! A lot of it she will be getting away with and we are just out of the money.


we did know his name was still on the car loan, but he wasn't able to remove himself from it. When you sign on a loan contract you are responsible for it, even after divorce.


@fbaez...I'm so sorry you have a child involved in a mess like that! I can only imagine. We are thankful everyday that we don't have to be tied to her like that. We aren't looking for revenge or even punishment honestly, all we want is to be done with her!


this has been getting worse everyday....

Posted on January 31, 2010 at 4:04 pm
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*HUGS* I'm sorry this lunatic is wreaking havoc with you guys. I hope that you find a resolution soon so that you don't have to continue with any more legal battles.

Posted on February 8, 2010 at 3:31 am
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omg, She is craaaazy. She is an adult - she should be acting like a mature, responsible one. I hope this gets resolved soon so you don't have to deal with this stress anymore. 

Posted on February 8, 2010 at 7:33 am
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*looks both ways to make sure no one is around*  Can't you just have someone "take care of the problem"?  Ok, so that probably isn't the best of ideas, but it's tempting isn't it?  I don't have any better advice than the other ladies, but I'm sorry you are having to deal with her. 

Posted on February 8, 2010 at 9:51 am
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LMAO @meany....my thoughts exactly!!!


we're having a lot of frustrations right now because after working with a lawyer for a week, the lawyer decided that this would be best handled by a Florida lawyer (that's where they were divorced and where she still lives and committed the felony identity theft) My DH has a legal plan through work. It's kinda like health insurance but covers lawyers instead of doctors. So now we have to start the process all over again and find a Florida Lawyer. It's hard because neither of us are into revenge and if we could be guaranteed she wouldn't be doing anything else in the future we'd love to walk away and forget about her. But we're too afraid that if we let it all go she will just do something again that we might not catch in time and will really mess us up. So we HAVE to press charges. But it's just so ugly and messy and we know it will start an all out war with this crazy woman, which is the last thing we want. UGH!!! Yes, Meany I wish I could just have it "taken care of" LOL

Posted on February 9, 2010 at 4:37 am

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