Oh sweetie!! Im so sorry this happened to you. But just remember, that you and your man are all that matters! Things will come and go.
Ohhh, Juliee!! I can imagine how upset you are--and you have every right to be! I don't understand why he would pick it up and just start shaking, that is so rude. Did DJ's brother apologize to you at all?
I am so sorry, girl!
Thanks, Rebecca! And Jess- No, he didn't even apologize!! Ugh!
ohh julez!!! anyone who has EVER done sand art as a child (which im pretty sure every kid did) should KNOW to never shake sand. ever. it turns brown. common sence!
im sorry he did that, i would aboslutly be pissed too! the only up side i can see from this is, when you and DJ poured it into the vase, it was two "single" people pouring sand in together, and it now being shaken up can resemble that you are no longer singular, every being of your bodies has come into one.
i know its not the same. and i know the brown sand doesnt look as pretty as the purple and green sand. but its the contents of the vase that is much more important then the outer appearence.
:( :( *hugs!!**
double post. grr.
Awww. . .I am so sorry Jules and I know you are heartbroken, but please talk to your brother-in-law. It does not sound like he did it deliberately and I am sure he feels bad as well if DJ explained to him how much it meant to you.
Yes you have a right to be hurt and upset, but I really don't believe your Dylan did what he did maliciously. I am sure if he knew what it was, he wouldn't have shaken it! And I understand exactly what you mean when something has sentimental value and holds meaning to you but things that may mean something to a woman may not necessarily hold the same meaning for a guy!
Sending you loads of virtual hugs!
Thanks, ladies! It means alot and you all know how to make someone feel better! I will talk to dylan, i'm not going to avoid him forever or never speak to him again. I just need sometime because it was like a complete shock that he did that.
Me and DJ are going to redo it one day soon. If not on our one year anniversary! Maybe on new years. Idk yet.
Aww, this kinda happened to me once too, although not like that. DH & I always bring sand home from each vacation and I layer it in a vase.. you can see how different the sand colors are from all the places. My mom packed it up when we moved, and stored it sideways.. well, all the sand mixed together and it was just one big lump. I was so upset, because it's sentimental for me!!! I totally get where you are coming from! That really stinks.. luckily I was able to save the day and just redo the vase, since I still had sand from the previous trips!
I'm so sorry that happened to you!!! Maybe you can do something else with the now mixed sand to make it special. I know it will never be the same, but maybe looking at it in a different way now will make you smile :)
Aw, I'm so sorry that happened! I can completely understand you being really upset and even heartbroken because it was something so unique and precious to your special day. Feel the pain, but work through it. That sand is just a thing - what you have with your husband is real and forever and not really represented by sand in a jar. Your relationship with his family should also be forever, so try to forgive your BIL - I'm sure he's super embarassed and that's probably why he didn't apologize. (At least I hope so!)
The sand from our unity ceremony got all mixed up the very next day, and it bummed me out too...we haven't redone it yet but I plan on doing so at some point. It could be part of an anniversary celebration or a vow renewal. Hugs!!
Okay, I stalked your bio to look at the frame.. ((which btw, I have to share this.. my puppy came up and sat behind me on the couch and put her head on my shoulder and looked at all your pics with me lol))
I have an idea... what if you leave it how it is, mixed sand and all, then put a small layer of glitter on top, then on your first anniversary you can both add sand again. This way it will still hold your wedding day memories and sand, and also bring the happy memory of your first anniversary together.. just a thought :)
Awww Faith! That is an awesome thought! I love it!
Thanks again laides, and yes the least they he could of done was apologize, but I guess he was too scared too. I know he feels bad so I will just have to fix it a different way. Cause being mad at him isn't going to change it back.
Faith, awh your puppy is tooo cute! Let me just say that, I love your idea!! Love love love, it! I am going to see if my mother has any white sand left, if not then glitter will work perfectly too! I'll have to post a picture of it and show yall the halo it makes, I don't know if I want to cover the halo up or not since it looks all smokey!
:( I was going to ask, didn't he know it was from the wedding? Oh, Juliee, I'm so sorry that this happened and you are absolutely justified in feeling heartbroken about it. I would feel the same way. In fact, I lost my cross pendant that I wore on our wedding day - can't find it anywhere and I've been told to just get a new one, but it's not the same at all. People are generally sentimental beings, brides especially.
I know your little heart is aching, but try and shift your perspective (when you're ready), to see that the unity sand container is just one part of your beautiful wedding day and I like to believe that the love that you and your DH have for eachother is MUCH larger and totally unshakeable than what happened to your unity sand vase. But yes, I totally sympathize with you. *BIG hug*
Oh Juliee, I'm so sorry sweetie!!! I can't even imagine how upset you must have been, as I would be the same way. I love the different ideas that the other ladies suggested for you. ((((hugs))))
Aww I got upset just reading about this so I can definitely understand how you're feeling! Sorry people can be dumb sometimes ;)
Oh no sorry Honey - but I love the idea from Faith. Big Hugs!!!
BIG HUGS! Faith's idea is perfect, but I'm so sorry he didn't even *think* about what he was doing :(
Awwww Juliee I'm so sorry this happened to you and of course you have the right to be upset. Anybody would be upset by this. I'm sure that DJ's brother will eventually apologize to you, he probably just felt really stupid~because I agree who shakes up colored sand? He just wasn't thinking~men can be completely clueless sometimes. I don't mean any disrespect by that at all it's just that they don't always get it.
I love the idea Faith has. It's very charming.
Thanks, ladies. I agree james2113 they can be completely clueless to the most important/meaningful things!
I am going to talk to DH and see what he thinks, but I love faiths idea too!
Aww... i feel for you. But i am glad you decided to talk to him again. He must feel really bad as well. But i think that he should apologize...