venting session part 1
Has anyone else had difficulties with the Catholic Church. We were originally planning on marrying in the Catholic Church on my college campus. When we changed our wedding date we found out that church no longer had any availabilities for that day. It was my mistake. I should have probably checked with the church first. But I didn't. :( I was bummed, really bummed, really really bummed.
So what am I to do... plan B: contact churches close to the reception site. Every Catholic Church I have contacted has left me with "we only allow weddings for our parishioners". That doesn't seem like something very Catholic to say. I don't understand their reasoning behind that. We have the same beliefs, we want to be married in the Catholic Church, we'll pay our donation, we'll cover fees. I would hope the Catholic religion would be accepting to all, but they haven't been.
Catholicism stresses the importance and sacredness of marriage literally inside the church walls as opposed to outside of the church. So far as to only allow retired priests to perform ceremonies outside of the church walls. I just don't get it. No church "wants" us, but no church wants us to get married outside of its walls. What exactly do they want us to do? i'm so frustrated. I really wanted a traditional Catholic Ceremony. I thought it was sacred and special, but after this last week I really feel discouraged by Catholicism. I dont want to argue with the churches as to reasons why they should allow us to marry there. I feel if i have to do that, then that is a place where we don't need to be. I think I may approach the Priest after Sunday Mass and see if he could assist us by contacting other churches in our support? If not . . . plan C: flash mob wedding ceremony at a random church. i kid i kid.
thanks for reading my vent, the first installment of many to come. AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH