Venue Alternatives, PLEASE HELP

Ok, so a very close friend of mine is getting married on a budget (about $35k). I am trying to help her come up with some Venue Alternatives.


 * I have suggested Parks (shes worried about bugs, and she doesn't seem thrilled with the idea of a pretty wedding tent.)


*I suggested the beautiful historic town of Snug Harbor (its run down)


*Cruise ship around Manhattan (motion sickness)...


Idk what else to suggest. She would like to spend about $90-$100 per person …I suggested maybe having a lunch reception instead of Diner…Food is just as good and much cheaper, it would open her options up, but she book her church for 2pm and does not want to have the ceremony any earlier…so forget lunch.


The church she is having her ceremony at is on Staten Island and so her reception needs to be on or near Staten Island. She found a place in her price range that she likes but it's a half hour away in NJ and though its in a beautiful Victorian town, its also 2 blocks from a train station!!!...I warned her that so much could go wrong, the trains could be loud if they are running at the time of her wedding, Imagine hearing WAAAAAA while your father is giving a speech!!! and a half hour may not seem far but what if there is traffic God forbid there is an accident on the bridge to NJ...it might take hours to clear....not all of her guests drive, so some will have to cab it unless she provides a shuttle bus...I feel like I'm freaking out more then she is lol I just don't think she understands how much of a disaster this could turn into....I am hoping I can come up with something that she feel comfortable with but its hard to find alternatives in Staten Island...PLEASE HELP


Thanks in advance ;)

Posted on May 31, 2012 at 7:35 am
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I am not familiar with the area, so I am not much help there - actually I am not much help at all because I think half an hour doesn't sound bad! Is she getting married on a weekday or weekend (or holiday weekend), or does that even factor into traffic around there?

I think the train station noise can be forgiven depending on the crowd and what the reception is like. If it is drinking and dancing, you really only have to worry about the train during dinner/toasts/first dance. If it is more of a social, cocktail party type of reception, I totally understand your concerns about the train station.

How far apart are the ceremony and reception as far as time? Is it one hour? two? Depending on the gap between the two, even some traffic wont delay everything, but if it is just a 30 minute gap and a thirty minute drive, she is going to have problems.


In the end, all I can say is that it sounds like you have done a REALLY good job of suggesting alternatives AND bringing up possible issues/conflicts that may impact her day. But in the end, if she chooses it, you just have to make sure you reiterate those concerns, then smile and tell her it's wonderful. Haha 

Posted on May 31, 2012 at 7:42 am
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35k really isn't much of a budget. That's pretty much average these days. I'm not from the area so I can' give you specifics, but here's my two cents. 

30 minutes for commute?! Dang...spoiled! We're traveling 3 hours for our wedding and our guests are going to be anywhere from an hour and a half to 16 hours away. 

I think for catering she'd be fine with dinner. I know out here in Portland a nice dinner is about $45 per person, but I can't foresee her exceeding $90 anyway. Certainly not $100.

The venue, yeah the train station could be a bad thing. HOWEVER, it's two blocks? Then it may not be too bad. We live about 3 blocks from a major railway that goes from the coast to the city, and we barely hear anything. They've taken a lot of improvements over the years to ensure that they're as quiet as possible. As for the traffic that may or may not exist, it's good that you're thinking of all of the possibilites of things that could go bad, but honestly if you look at the negative possibilites of every venue then a location is never going to seem suitable.

Honestly, parks aren't for everyone. With the amount of money she's willing to spend, she could get plenty of nice venues! The cruise ship is also a great idea, but there are some guests who won't attend if it's on a boat.  

Posted on May 31, 2012 at 7:44 am
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She should be able to find something nice around the area within her budget with a little more research. I did a quick google search, and found this pretty one on staten island:


http://www.thelakesidemanor.com/gallery/


Their twilight package is $75 pp, and it looks so pretty! I'm not from the area, so I really have no clue, but I feel like she could TOTALLY find a decent place near the church :)

Posted on May 31, 2012 at 8:01 am
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ridegirl WOW $45 per person...wish we were in Portland!!lol standard packages in this area normally start at around $120 per person, about $90 for lunch.


 I have a house on NJ shore  about 30 blocks from the train station and, though its not bothersome to us, we hear the train horn very clear and they are require to blow the horn at station stops...2 blocks away...talk about LOUD!!


A half hour may not seem very far...but i had a friend get married a half hour from her reception place and it was a MESS...traffic, people got lost, there was a car accident, I was waiting at the reception venue for and hour and half before people started to arrive (I didn't attend the ceremony and my husband was in the bridal party so I was sitting there for a while waiting without him)...maybe Im over thinking this, i just don't want anything to go wrong for her...


 


Uhlease , checked the venue, It's in Hazlet NJ...very pretty though, thanks ;)


 


oh did i mention anything South of SI and we we will be dealing with shore traffic if the weather is nice everyone from SI migrates to the beach, it will be backed up for miles...night time too as people head down to the clubs

Posted on May 31, 2012 at 8:27 am
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35k is a budget wedding? Damn my 6k must seem like a hillbilly barnyard throwdown to some. I don't know the area but it seems like a little more research is needed on her part. With that kind of money she isn't too limited.

Posted on May 31, 2012 at 10:07 am
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DH and I got married in Woodbridge, NJ at The Forge in 2010 and they had amazing prices.  What day is she getting married on?  I didn't see that in your post. 


Here is the link for my venue:  http://www.forgenj.com/  You can ask to speak to Claus and they are AMAZING.  They did so much for us!

Posted on May 31, 2012 at 3:04 pm
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35K for NY and the surrounding areas sadly is a budget wedding for these parts. Traffic can def. pose a problem...but it may not be that bad if she really LOVES the place. I've had friends have a ceremony in Queens,  and then the reception in NJ, and ceremony in Manhatton, and then reception in NJ. If she wants it there people will attend. They may complain a little before, but they'll go. I don't think the drive is that much of a big deal. I don't know much about Staten Island venues, sorry I'm not much help there. Maybe she should look into venues in Brooklyn (Brooklyn Botanical Gardens? or something in the Bayridge area? right over the bridge), but that would still involve driving.

Posted on May 31, 2012 at 4:06 pm
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Sorry I am no help as well!  My wedding budget was 10K and we were way under.  We paid $12 per person for dinner.  We had a wedding at a local college.  Are there colleges or community centers you can look at?

Posted on June 1, 2012 at 6:24 pm
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I just went searching and found a few other places:


Snug Harbor


This place did not list prices.


Vanderbilt at South Beach


This one does not list prices either.


Here is a site that lists a few venues:  http://statenisland.weddings.com/Local/statenisland-Reception---Ceremony-Sites/VendorResults.aspx/CAR


HTH!

Posted on June 1, 2012 at 6:44 pm
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It looks like you are giving her a lot of alternatives. Another alternative is having it at a nice restaurant that has a private dining option. I've heard great things about Mymoon and Thalassa in Manhattan, and Rebar right under the brooklyn bridge. You should push her to go see Snug Harbor before she crosses it out. The people who own liberty house and stone house own that and both of those places are very nice. I'm not too familiar with other places on staten island but I will look around.

What day of the week is she having the wedding? Sunday is pretty good with traffic between NY and NJ. On Sat usually you see traffic in the midday traveling into NY from jersey going into jersey is pretty good. I live in jersey city and come into NY every weekend. So if she found something doable in jersey I don't think the trip would be too bad.
Posted on June 2, 2012 at 3:59 pm

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