Venue choice? What should I do?

 

Ok so Sunday I'm going to go look at a venue we looked at previously with my folks and FI's mom. This place did not wow me with appearances but their wedding planner was amazing and they'd basically customize the menu, and do set up take down at no cost to us. Plus they offered vases and candle votives and things like that if we bought flowers in bulk and stuff to cut cost. 
 
The cons is that its on a golf course which I didn't want. The pros however are the awesome catered to us service and the fact that we stay in our home town which means I can have my church wedding in an actual church instead of the other option which was our first choice, is an hour away meaning my pastor would come to us and its a beautiful local. But they have a specific menu and have been really lousy about getting back to me. I've been waiting for a month and a half now. Price wise they are about the same. Neither offers anything extra like the cake or Dj or anything like that. But this second choice is offering us more in the drink department (which I could honestly care less about but FI's parents are insisting we can't have a dry wedding.) 
 
What would you do? I'd like to finally set a date and move on with my plans but can't if I keep waiting on my first choice. First choice would mean things like appointing someone to go up a few hours prior to set up and such things like that. I'm a little torn. I know I shouldn't settle but there are other factors that are making choice number two much more appealing to me. 
Posted on August 7, 2013 at 7:10 pm
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I would go with number 2. It sounds like there are more pros to that venue that the con of them being a golf course. You will be so busy on your wedding day you won't even care about that small detail.
Posted on August 7, 2013 at 8:51 pm
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 Yeah I think so. I spoke with FI today and am thinking I might be bringing the check book with me to put down a deposit. Especially if they have any of the dates we want available. Ill remember to take pics this time to show it off. :) 

Posted on August 7, 2013 at 10:04 pm
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 I'm getting anxious and nervous about Sunday. Everyone keeps telling me not to settle... But appearance wise I'm settling either way. But as long as I get my key important things that day I feel I'll be fine. But having everyone constantly tell me these things makes me feel apprehensive that I might not be making the right choice. 

Posted on August 9, 2013 at 10:39 am
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Why is everyone telling you not to settle tho? It is your wedding and if that is what you decide. They should be supporting your decision not making you think its the wrong decision. Go off of your HEART! You'll know for sure if it feels right and YOU make the decision!! :)
Posted on August 9, 2013 at 11:02 am
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 Well what felt right wont happen. It's too far away and too expensive and I don't want to push the wedding back another year. And venue choice #1 has put off contacting me for over two months and hasnt even called me back this week after i called and emailed for a fOr follow up appointment. So I want to focuse on the things that I know are most important. The FEELINGS and MOMENTS that are special. Like dad walking me down the isle, my hubby's face when he sees me for the first time, the moment he slips the ring on my finger, our first dance, my dance with my father. Because I know whatever venue will be pretty and well forget how the cake and food will taste. But those moments will never go away. So yes I'm settling but at the same time I'm not. 

Posted on August 9, 2013 at 2:48 pm
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 Hey kittywolf, don't get too caught up with the word 'settling'. Most of us can't afford the wedding we really really want so technically everybody has to settle on something. But if the price is right and the staff is great, you can have a beautiful weddin with beautiful moments just like you said in the last sentence. I think it sounds like a great venue! 

Posted on August 9, 2013 at 4:08 pm
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 Yeah. I'm impressed so far with how they talked with us about and what they seem willing to do for us. And that is speaking far more volumes then the nice beautiful setting with a set menu of the other place. Which I'm pretty sure wasn't willing to do much else. So I'm crossing my fingers both our families like it and we can just decide on a date and go from there. 

Posted on August 9, 2013 at 4:28 pm
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do you have pictures of the place? I  agree with uhlease. Beautiful wedding with beautiful moments is what matters most.  Can I ask you what happened to the venue you were looking at and you stated you might wanna do an asian theme? It had big windows and wood. Is that place still on your list?

Posted on August 9, 2013 at 5:26 pm
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 Zeuster, that place is still on my list and was my number one choice. But I called them almost two months ago to arrange a serious sit down about numbers and possibly book and put a deposit. They told me they were revamping the menus and to call back two weeks later. So I waited. Called back. They told me they were still doing the menus. To call back. So I waited and called. They told me oh we should have the menus ready by August. That at the time was a month away. So I waited and then called them earlier this week. I was told they had been closed for two weeks (clubs I guess do this for Maintenence? Because the one were going to see Sunday did the same thing recently) and were going to work on the menus soon. I told her that I have been waiting and contacting over a months time and still haven't heard back. She assured me that she would pass my info onto the manager or the banquet person. That was Monday. Still no call today Friday. I sent a follow up email on wenesday just for kicks. Still nothing. So I'm not pleased. The privately owned jewelry shop that I'm buying some of my wedding jewelry from, a couple of the folks who work there are also members at this club and one of the ladies told me she just canceled her membership because of their lack of attention lately. So maybe its a good thing I'm not considering this anymore. 

No pics yet as I didn't take pics last time I was there and have found very little online. But I do another google search and see if I can find something to show you. It doesn't look bad, it just looks like any other banquet hall yah know? I wanted something charming or vintage or something cool looking. But that doesn't exist in my town. So ill take my pro's where I can get them and stick with the fact that this place seems extremely intent on pleasing the bride and groom at all costs. To me that will probably be worth it should something wrong occurs. They probably won't hesitate to fix it. 

Posted on August 9, 2013 at 7:43 pm
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 here's a link to their website:

http://www.windstarclub.com/EVENTS/Weddings-and-Banquets-151.html

but there doesnt seem to be a gallery page. here's some random pics i found online:

the main lobby area

Random wedding pic in the main banquet hall

So its not bad... past those doors in the second pic is the bar which is in a round room with views of the golf course and i THINK the bay in the distance. the bar area is really nice... its a circular room, with windows all around and a round bar in the center (and i dont drink but it looked cool) the dance floor is where the photographer took this image from probably. its a long rectangular room basically. to the right are windows along the entire wall, and the left is the service entrances. theres also a second entrance where the bride and groom enter from after being introduced as the newly wed couple. (i call that the holding room. lol) 

so not bad at all... im just pleased with their customer service in the minimal amount of time ive talked with them. so im thinking this might be it. guess i'll find out on sunday.

Posted on August 9, 2013 at 8:22 pm
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 If they have not good customer service and you say someone canceled their membership those are not good signs.  Its better to run away from that place now.

Oh the pictures you posted are nice. Once you put your decor in there and your stamp on it I think that will be great. fingers crossed for you.

Posted on August 9, 2013 at 11:25 pm
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 Thanks zuester! I'm crossing my fingers that this place will be the one and that everyone else likes it. Hoping that the next time I post I can happily say I have an official date! I discussed it with FI already that I've decided that if they wow us again tomorrow with ideas and suggestions and things they'd do for us that it will be the one. :)

Posted on August 11, 2013 at 12:53 am

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