Want to invite more guests - Need ideas!

Hi all,

I have never been one to believe in "B Lists". In my opinion, you either want someone at your wedding or you don't ... however, after our final guest list was made our parents asked about some other people being invited. These are people that we'd love to be there but couldn't send an invite to because we had reached our max amount of possible invitees with the original list.

Now that our RSVP's are coming in, we see that we WILL have space to invite more people and still be within our max capacity. My question is how can I invite them and not make them feel like they were an after thought.

Our RSVP date has passed so if I send an invite now, I think they'll realize something is weird. I'm thinking of  handwriting a note saying something like, "As everyone knows there are certain formalities you have to follow when having a wedding - like inviting those 3rd cousins that you haven't seen in over 2 years and can't really remember what their names are ... Now that that is done we are able to invite people who we really want to celebrate with us, like you! We hope you can join us!"

Does anyone have any suggestions on how to go about this? I DO NOT want people to feel like they were on a B List but I also don't want to NOT invite them just because I don't want them to feel like that.

Any ideas/suggestions welcomed!

 

Posted on March 26, 2014 at 9:11 pm
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Canooknic
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 Is it possible to make a few invites with a new RSVP date on them?

Posted on March 26, 2014 at 9:43 pm
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 If it were me I'd just send them out and discuss it if anyone mentions it (apart from the person that knows about Round 1! I'd explain to them) I'm sure most people realise that weddings aren't as straight forward as inviting 50 people and 50 people turning up.

Good luck xx

Posted on March 26, 2014 at 9:57 pm
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I wish I would have thought of that before! That would've been great! Since I got them printed with Cards and Pockets, it would prob take too long bc they have pretty long processing times. 

Also, even if I did have new RSVP cards, one of the ppl we want to invite now knows that a round of invites already went out, so I want to "explain" why they didn't get one before.

And this is why I don't like having a B List ...

Posted on March 26, 2014 at 9:58 pm
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 Yea...that's tough!! I'm not sure honestly. Maybe you can just save money and not invite them. lol. i know you said you don't want to do that, but in this case, I would say either an in person invite would be best, or no invite at all. I'm not a fan of any wording that won't make them feel like b list, so I think if you are able to see them and invite them in order to explain. Other than that...I wouldn't invite them. Sorry, but this is in hindsight of my own wedding and feeling the pressures of the guest list!! Good luck :)

Posted on March 26, 2014 at 10:03 pm
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 I think your wording about "now that 3rd cousins have been invited, we can have the people we really want" is perfect -- if it's true.  If it isn't true -- that you really want them to be there -- I'd stick with Uhlease's advice and just not invite.  If it IS true that you really want them there, I'd stick with what you said in your original post (which is the truth and will therefore not sound like a line) -- only I'd call each person who is being additionally invited.  That will REALLY make you think whether you want them there, or whether it's a guilt thing.  If you're thinking, "Ugh!  I don't want to call them because I'll be trapped with them on the phone forever," that's a pretty good indication that they aren't someone you MUST have at your wedding.

 

Tyler

Posted on March 27, 2014 at 9:58 am
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 All good things to think about! Thanks everyone!

Posted on March 27, 2014 at 4:00 pm
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Call up those people and say, "hey, we didn't get your RSVP, are you coming?"  And they'll say they didn't get the invite.  Then you can say it must have gotten lost in the mail and you'll send another one out asap.  Ha!

Posted on March 29, 2014 at 12:51 pm
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If it were me I would do what Uhlease suggested. We have a max of 75 guests we want but for this very reason we are sending out a few extra invites because we know there will be some who wont come. We have settings for 80 just in case.
Posted on March 30, 2014 at 1:09 pm
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I actually invited about 6 people a few weeks before the wedding and I explained to them exactly what happened. We received some RSVPs that were unable to attend and we had the room and would love to have them if they were still available. All of them were understanding and came! Some were work friends and some new friends, and as far as I know, no one took offense. Honesty is the best policy!

Posted on March 30, 2014 at 10:29 pm

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