we changed the date

The knot is silly. I don't think its a bad idea at all. The last thing you want to do it cause financial hardship because of your day. You know that whole expression about life, lemonades etc etc? This is it, a summer wedding would be really sweet.
Posted on March 18, 2008 at 2:03 am
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theDame
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If it works better for you and you're not losing any deposits by changing than by all means- do what works best for you. It benefits you AND the guests if you are better able to plan the event you wish for. good luck
Posted on March 18, 2008 at 2:58 am
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I did this last year sort of for the same reasons. We had originally planned to get married on July 21st, 2007 and we had to push our date back until May 24, 2008. We were getting down to the wire and realized we couldn't pay for the rest of our wedding.My FI and I were fighting about our finances and how the wedding was not really about us anymore. I was really upset at first but now I'm really glad we did it. Waiting the extra year allowed to us to pay off everything in cash and add a few more things to make it the wedding we dreamed of having. I don't think you are making a huge mistake, a wedding is supposed to be a great day but not a day that puts you in horrible debt. If you and your FI think postponing is the smart thing to do than do it. Good Luck!
Posted on March 18, 2008 at 2:58 am
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We changed our date too! Mostly because we didn't look at the calendar and ending up booking the hall for the wrong weekend *LOL.
At least your changing the date with a clear, responsable head and putting priorties first. Money doesn't grow on trees *smiles*.
Posted on March 18, 2008 at 3:58 am
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WOW! I am sorry for all that you've been through this year! How stressful and life changing! Hugs to you!

I think changing the date is a perfect idea if getting married earlier will cause undue stress and financial problems.

4 months before our wedding my DH (then FI) decided to do a 180 career change! He's been an opera singer for 10 years and this past year was the last one he could fathom being on the road for about 40 weeks a year and living like a vagabond. So he didn't take any contracts, got a job waitering and went back to school full time! (School started the WEEK we left for our wedding in Hawaii!)

We were stressed! Our income was lessened due to his shift in jobs and we had to make it work. At one point I did price cancelling the wedding and just eloping locally, but we would have lost about $6K in cancellation penalties at that point (between vendor deposits and travel fees, etc.) so we decided to suck it up and move forward. We had to put some of the expenses on a credit card (which was the LAST thing we ever wanted to do), but thankfully we were able to pay those off immediately with gift money that we received (our guests were VERY generous and we had no expectations we'd get any gifts, so that was amazing for us!)...

Their generous gifts also enabled us to create an emergency savings fund. Now, ten months later (six since the wedding), DH is firmly settled into being a full time student (with A's!) and also has transferred to a 5-star restaurant where he is a front waiter and has just been promoted to maitre'd. He's also doing sommelier training...

He's completely replaced his income that he was earning out on the road, and now has the time he needs for school to make the career change. Plus I get to see him more than 1 week a month, which is amazing!

So, don't feel bad about postponing...do what you need to do. Perhaps you can cut your guests list some or scale back some of your plans so that it's not as costly? You can always secretly elope now and have a "real wedding" in August. Or just wait until you have the money you need to have the wedding you want. Good luck!
Posted on March 18, 2008 at 7:30 am
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First and foremost, you're a trooper! You've been through a lot. I'm sorry for your loss and for your recent struggles.

As for postponing a few months...its YOUR wedding. Do what is right for you and your FI. From the sounds of it, it sounds like nothing will be negatively affected by changing the date. In fact, it seems like things will only benefit: more time to save $$, more time to plan = relief of some stress.

We changed our date in the opposite direction from 2009 to 2008. Nonetheless, we changed it :)

GL!
Posted on March 18, 2008 at 7:48 am
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Dont mind the folks on the knot they are an odd bunch. We postponed our wedding a year to come up with the money to have the kind of wedding we wanted. We could have had it earlier but we couldnt have as nice a wedding and it would have been much more stressful and you dont want that around your wedding day. Postponing until you feel right and comfortable is always the best way in my opinion.
Posted on March 18, 2008 at 8:09 am
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let me just tell you first off that the knot thinks everything that they are not doing is a waste....instead of answering a question they post an opion...they never just leave it alone if they have no answer. I dont think moving the wedding date is a prob at all just if you sent out save the dates,send out "change the date"
. good luck
Posted on March 18, 2008 at 3:59 pm
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You are doing the right thing. Take it from someone who has postponed the wedding 3 or 4 times due to an injury.

Stuff happends and sometimes a postponement is a good thing and a necessary thing.
Posted on March 18, 2008 at 4:13 pm
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honey do not pay attention to anyone at the knot! they are not living your life and i think some of them dont have a life...

i'm partial to may 24 - but only b/c it's my bday!

all i have to say is, this happens more than you think - we had to move ours also (to aug 2009). so we're having 2 weddings, one in hawaii aug 2008 (which would have been our honeymoon) and then we're having our huge church wedding on our one year anni... long story - fh is divorced so my church has to deem that marriage annulled for us to get married in church and that process is taking longer than we thought, fh got laid off, i got sideswiped by an 18wheeler and have hospital bills, it's just a bunch of life issues, so we just had to move our church weding...

good luck & hang in there!
Posted on March 29, 2008 at 12:28 pm
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I say, whatever makes your life easier...then go for it. Its your wedding...you only have one...(ideally) and you should do what you want with it!
Posted on March 29, 2008 at 4:30 pm
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I hope things get better for you. I'm getting married on May 24th, too and you're right; it is coming up quick! But, we're pushing through and I think we'll be able to make it.

That being said, pushing it back may be the smartest decision that you've made!

Look at this Knottie that pushed her date AN ENTIRE YEAR! She was going to get married in June 08, and had so much done (STDs were sent, everything!) and now, she and her FI realized that they just couldn't afford what they wanted in the amount of time they had. She shares her story, ideas and more on her bio: lovebirds08's Bio

HTH and good luck!
Posted on March 29, 2008 at 4:36 pm

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