wedding cost: what was worth it?

Hi ladies, 


My fiancee and I are paying for our wedding ourselves and we were trying to prioritize the vendors list, so I thought I would ask you all ( especially the married ones) :


What was/is worth splurging on for your wedding?


and


What did you regret not spending enough on?


 

Posted on May 10, 2013 at 3:01 am
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Uhlease
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Great question! Although definitely different for everybody!!


 


I know a lot of ladies will say splurging on photography is totally worth it. Although on a side note...splurge for the photography-not the package they come with. I'm all about value, so even though I paid a good deal of $, I wanted everything included, makes sense right? Some of the photogs I really wanted charged more $ for just their time. I wish I would have given them more consideration b/c I loved their work. My thoughts now, is that you can make your own photobooks and extras, so make sure you're looking for the photographer's work that you really LOVE. Not the photographer that's the best for the price and wat they offer. Make sense? Sorry, that's definitely my soap box right now :]


As for not spending enough on...Nothing really. Things I would have done differently, yes, but things that I regret not spending enough on...not that I can think of right now. 


 


Another thing, I don't think it's worth spending a ton of money on a dress. If it was up to me, I would have gotten mine used, or a replica, but my mom wanted to buy the dress for me. It was early in planning so I didn't even think to just go try on dresses with her, and then find what I like for cheaper, so I feel like we overspent on a dress. Buuut on the other hand, if someone is gifting something to you like that, I think you have to kind of do what they're thinking. Haha, I am writing a novel. It must be things that looking back, I really wish I would have done differently. 

Posted on May 10, 2013 at 3:49 am
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i would say definately spend the money on photography.  as said above...find someone that has a style you love that has captured the candid moments that are really special.  like a glance that the mob gives to the fob.  spending money on the photography with a photographer that is truely gifted will allow you to see your wedding day from a point of view you didnt before.


definately go ahead and spend money to have a videographer.  you will want to relive the moment, and a dvd is a really great way to do that. a lot of videographers are offering a highlights video now too.  spend the money on at least 1.  that way, if you have someone over to your house and they want to see the video you gave watch the 15 min highlight video that shows the best moments from the ceremony and whatever of the reception that you wanted the videographer to be there for.  you dont have to pay the videographer to stay during the time where you are going to be dancing.  just make sure that all the import stuff was done before you get all the guests out on the dance floor if you plan to not pay the videographer to record dance moves.


i am big on romance, so i would also add candles and floral.  you dont have to have super elaborate floral that is 4 feet off the tables like you would see if you were watching the old Platinum Weddings tv show.  you can have a huge bunch of babys breath and it look fantastic.  i just HATE the weddings where the cenerpieces are 2-3 gerber daisys in a bud vase and 2 tea light candles.  a 5 year old would do better decorating a breakfast tray to give to mom for mothers day.  i guess my point here is to spend your money wisely on floral.  and candles are important.  not only does better lighing make your centerpieces look better, it adds romance, and makes everyone look better.    

Posted on May 10, 2013 at 4:05 am
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These are great replies gurls, seriously! :) Thank you so much. I think I will spend on photography and videography like you suggested and the tip about candles , krosa, genius. Completely agree, the ambiance of the evening is something that stays with people isn't it? 

Posted on May 10, 2013 at 10:07 am
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I splurged a few places. Photography, the cake, fresh flowers, and my dress. They're things I could have gotten cheaper, but was not willing to compromise on quality or my vision.

I saved by arranging the flowers myself (they turned out beautiful), having the ceremony in a free public nature center (was more gorgeous than a church anyway), having a hog roast at the reception instead of a fancy sit down dinner (it was delicious, and guess were ecstatic not have traditional "wedding food" which is usually not too tasty), and only giving guests two free drinks at the bar instead of having an open one (I didn't hear any complaints and everyone still had a great time), and ditching the idea of expensive wedding shoes (no one really saw them anyway, and they came off at the reception).

It's all about what matters to you and your soon-to-be husband. As long as you fill your day with love, and plan it to be a unique reflection of the two of you, your guests will sense that and have an amazing time. Good luck:)
Posted on May 11, 2013 at 3:57 am
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I am a thrifty, thrifty, thrifty gal so planning a wedding as reallllly hard for me. I had mini heart attacks all the time about the cost of things.


Things I am happy I spent extra money on:


Day of Coordinator: I was on the fence for about 8 months about this. I wanted somebody, but I hate spending money. Every DOC I quoted wanted 1k or higher. I ended up finding a STEAL and got a DOC and officiant for $475. Worth every single penny.


Venue: We got really lucky and found a venue that included the cost of: private rental, DJ, open bar, and dinner. It defintely took a lot of planning stress off of me. We could have found a cheaper venue, but again it was worth every single dollar spent.


Wish I would have spent more:


Just a few things here. I wish I had given my girls MORE in terms of their gifts, I wish I had realized renting chargers for our wedding wasn't that big of a cost.


And without a doubt the ONE thing I wanted so badly and we didn't do were fireworks. Our venue offered them for an additional $1500, I am kicking myself for that!

Posted on May 11, 2013 at 7:00 am
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i agree photography is the best thing you can spend your money on! The reception and photographer is on our list as the highest budgeted items.  we caved in last minute and added an album because i know it will take forever to get that done lol.


I love my dress! my mom would have had me pay more money in some way for this dress i am glad i stayed in budget so ican get the veil she pressured me into getting smh.. anyway. im glad i got it out the way! that was the first wedding purchase!!

Posted on May 13, 2013 at 8:50 am
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I think this is totally up to you!


For me, the photographer was expensive but so, so worth it!! I love my pictures and they make me smil all the time! We did not think a videographer was worth the cost, so we didn't have one but did have a good friend video the ceremony and part of the rehearsal, that is enough of memory for us.


I don't know that I really regret anything, but hindsight is 20/20 and we would have definitely done a few things differently! For example, we were confused by the reception venue pricing and were taken in by this adorable little old lady that ran it. She talked so fast and was so complimentary that we didn't realize until after that fact how much she was charging us for everything! I know that sounds weird, like we should have known, but even in the contract it was a bit confusing and when she said "I've got this cute little trellis here you can use for lights if you want, or grab anything out of the back!" We thought she was just saying 'it's here to use if you want' not that we were being charged for every little thing!


So I advise to double and triple check pricing and don't be afraid to speak up and ask questions. You won't seem rude, which was my biggest fear! The rude part is being obscenely overcharged later!


Oh yes - invitations! I do regret what we spent on them! I DIY'ed the pocket folds but thought I shoud have the main wording printed professionally and then just cut them up and paste them in myself. I spent about $100 on that and it didn't look any different than my laserjet at home would have done - so I wish I had saved that way!

Posted on May 13, 2013 at 9:06 am
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I kind of misread that post - as far as what I wished I had spent more on?? Nothing. I was very cost conscious and think I got a beautiful day for about as cheaply as I could! Research is key - know what things cost in your area and then decide if something is worth the price. Very soon you will figure out what is average and over-priced. And if it's too good to be true - it probably is!

Posted on May 13, 2013 at 9:09 am
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Priceless information :) keep it coming! What I got so far from your answers is: Spend where you feel will make your day memorable for YOU and make sure you capture those moments ( photog or video) in a way that will leave you smiling ( like SDonisi :) ) when you look back on them.


 

Posted on May 13, 2013 at 7:14 pm
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What was/is worth splurging on for your wedding? I splurged on my photographer and the live band. I ditto everything Elise said. We made sure that our photographer included the digital prints so we could make our own prints. We didn't want a DJ so we splurged a bit on a live band, they were awesome. 


 


What did you regret not spending enough on? I wish I spent a bit more on centerpieces. I loved them, but I think they were a bit small on the tables.

Posted on May 14, 2013 at 1:39 am
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No doubt! This IS priceless information.  Thank you for asking wiwiandyaya and thanks for answering ladies..  This is great stuff.

Posted on May 14, 2013 at 1:53 am
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I have to double and triple agree with getting a photographer who will give you a copyright release to make your own prints. Your wedding is probably the one occasion where you will want to document absolutely everything, and to have someone else print everything you are bound to want will be in the thousands of dollars, guaranteed!


There is nothing wrong with getting your best/most important pictures done in a professional album, and then going to Walmart for the rest of the prints! And you'll want to make Xmas cards, thank-yous, reprints for family, etc. We had well over 1300 images from our wedding, there is NO WAY I would have  been able to pick even part of those and lose the rest!


(We  had Anniversary pictures done in Nov for our 1 year, because we never did Epics, and the photographer I chose refuses to do copyright release - you have to buy everything from her...needless to say I have yet to order any prints because it's $15 for a 4x6...or $400 for a tiny album of 30 photos!! You don't want to be in that mess for your wedding!)

Posted on May 14, 2013 at 1:57 am
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Do most photographers allow release of their pictures? Would they not charge extra for that? So are you all saying to go with an hourly package instead of all the extras like albums, etc.? Many I checked are charging crazy hourly rates to offset their package deals :S I guess we'll have to negotiate with them...


Sorry about your anniversary pics Sam...that sure sucks.

Posted on May 14, 2013 at 7:33 am
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This was a great question! 


What was/is worth splurging on for your wedding? For each bride this will be different. For me it was all the small detail things that made my wedding Tressy wedding. I am so happy I got guitarist to play for my outside ceremony. That was such a great touch! I kept second guessing my invitations because I thought, what a waste, people will just throw them away, but when I got samples of cheaper options, I just wasn't pleased, so I splurged on invitations. People are still talking about my invitations and how they went with my wedding theme perfectly. I splurged on getting a card box made for my wedding to mimic my wedding cake (hubby still doesn't know how much it cost)! I splurged on my cake topper and I will even say I splurged on my cake. I found out that I could cut cost on the cake if I got narrower tiers and rose buds. I was adamant that I did not want rose buds but wanted full bloomed roses.  


What did you regret not spending enough on?


Definitely the photography. I would have worked three jobs to get the photographer I wanted in hindsight. The one I went with for a cheaper price took a lot of pictures, but he was just snapping pictures instead of making sure things were correct in the pictures like my sash on my wedding dress. He didn't take any detail shots at the reception like of my beautiful card box and the reception tables that my friend put together so wonderfully. I don't even have ring shots or any really good pictures of me in my dress. So yes, I so wish I would have went with the photographer I wanted!

Posted on May 14, 2013 at 7:46 am
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I love reading all the responses from brides who have been there. It just reiterates what I've been telling myself about our photographer and other details of our wedding. Although she is $3500 for photography/videography that is unlimited coverage the entire day of our wedding. Two photographers and two videographers and no matter how many I look at that are cheaper I always go back to theirs because the work is stunning.


This is the reason our date is 2015 because we don't want to have to cut corners on regret it later. We have plenty of time to save. It seems daunting when we remind ourselves we have to save $1000 a month to cover all costs wedding related including rings and honeymoon.

Posted on May 14, 2013 at 7:56 am
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Aww Tressy, I'm sorry about the photographer but you really were beautiful on your wedding day and the pictures did show us that! :) and a guitarist? Wow... I'd love that! This is good stuff! Keep it coming. I know how you feel Kim, I was on the fence about videography and after this thread I'm convinced it is worth it!
Posted on May 14, 2013 at 11:04 am
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I think it's becoming more and more common for photographers to give copyright release, usually you have to pay a little extra for it, ours was included in the package but others offered it for a couple hundred bucks. Just ask, that's all you can do!


Speaking of a guitarist - I put a notice on the community board at work and found that a woman who works with me plays guitar and her daughter sings...I booked both of them for the rehearsal and ceremony for $100! And they were really good! So definitely ask around on that too, you never know what will turn up!

Posted on May 15, 2013 at 2:38 am

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