Wedding Planning Dont's....
Whether you’ve been there or anticipating getting hitched someday, you know that planning a wedding is not an easy feat. There are so many things to think about and do when preparing the big day, so we enlisted the help of Today’s Bride editor-in-chief and wedding expert, Bettie Bradley, for five of the most common mistakes brides make and how to avoid them.
Not setting up a budget. The first thing any couple heading down the aisle should do is set up a budget. It’s important to do so to ensure you know how much is spent on what, and to make sure you don’t overspend. “Make a copy of the budget and list who is paying for what,” recommends Bradley. Two budgets should be made: one for the reception and one for everything else. Those who are paying for the wedding—for example, if it’s your parents—have a right to allocate the budget as they see fit. If it is you and your husband-to-be who are paying the wedding and reception, budgeting accordingly is still wise.
Taking more than one person when gown shopping. “Many brides bring along a large group of family and friends, hoping to turn dress shopping into a party,” says Bradley. However, that is the last thing you want, as everyone will have their own opinion and “you may end up with a dress that pleases everyone but you.” For the best advice, bring along the one person who can be honest and objective, be it your best friend or your mother.
Not keeping a tight rein on the guest list. This requires being firm with the list and not making any additions. If, for example, you’re set on not having any children at the wedding and reception or that all your single friends can’t bring dates, stick by that. If someone’s babysitter backed out or a friend suddenly got a boyfriend between the time she RSVP’d and the wedding, says Bradley, “make no exceptions whatsoever.” This is to ensure you actually enjoy your reception and to not have to deal with a crisis. If some unexpected guests do show up, leave it all up to the manager to see if he can seat them somewhere or if the kitchen staff can put together a couple more meals.
Spending more than you can afford. Many women think they need a big, lavish wedding for it to be memorable. However, you can still cut costs and have a wonderful time. “One great way is to make use of your friends’ special talents,” suggests Bradley. If you have a friend who has a wonderful voice or know someone who’s adept in photography, why not take advantage of that and ask them to make that their wedding gift to you? They’ll more than likely love to be able to be part or your big day, and it’ll feel all the more special.
Putting romance on the back burner. “Women can get consumed with planning a wedding, and personalities change—even with nice girls,” says Bradley. It can get pretty overwhelming, especially for men who want to be extremely involved in the planning process but may feel like they are merely messengers and are not allowed to express their own creativity. Be sure to give your man some one-on-one time and not make the wedding more important than your relationship.