what are you giving up in order to stay within budget?
Cheer up ladies, I was in the same boat. I got married in 2006 on $2000 in NYC O_o
I gave up the number of guests, venue, video, cake, decor...what seemed like everything. I was able to get some really good deals on flowers/food/ and was able to use Minister's backyard. It was by no means my dream wedding but the day was still beautiful, we all had a wonderful time and it was a true celebration.
NOW...things have changed and next yr will be our 5 yr anniversary, so I'm planning a big anniversary party which WILL be everything I want. So at the end of the day it all worked out.
The biggest budget saver for us is all of the "big" items... the ceremony, reception, and dance are all taking place at my grandparents' house, so that's HUGE! I wanted to have it all somewhere else, initially, but when I realized it would cost over $2000 alone for locations, I said forget it! I'm really happy with what we're doing now.
I'm giving up our dream wedding. We had this fun idea for a theme and we wanted to have it in a hotel ballroom where we both grew up and went to school and make it like a pseudo prom since we originally met in high school, but the more I started crunching numbers, the more depressed I got. it would probably cost about $25-$30K for what we wanted to do :( I had to let go of my previous fantasy of having a $5k for photographer budget. Considering that is now my entire budget for everything.
@abby - yeah we are thinking about saving up to throw the wedding we never had one day.
FREEDOM!!!! It is a second job, researching vendors, ebay, etsy, google, doing DIY, emailing the dressmaker.........a partridge:) I wish I could throw my money at a planner, help pick stuff, and just show up beautiful:)
I'm giving up flowers centerpieces - lots of flowers, a real reception with dinner, cocktails, and DJ (just providing appetizers, cake, and punch) and pro hair and makeup. I'm really not that sad about it becuase we have paid for everything ourselves we will be able to take a 3 day mini moon after the wedding and not be in debt..
I am giving up the cost of other people doing the work for me!
I literally put all my money on my photographer, since really..the photographs are the only thing you will walk away with from the big day.
I saved on a dress, invites are made by us (fiance is graphic design, I'm a illustrator). Cake is being made a day or two by me and my maid of honor, doing h'orderves instead of a meal, making all the decorations myself, videographer is with a flip cam by a buddy to capture the surprise we are pulling on our parents, and projecting it on a wall at the reception...
I put almost all my budget on the photographer, and skipping on things that have an expiration date!!!
Omg this thread is depressing!! lol what is a 'dream' wedding anyway? i'm not really giving up much, and I'm on a 2,000 budget.
My venue is my mother's front yard, it's rustic and beautiful
reception- BACK yard! tables will be set up by the fence to the horse pasture, it's a beautiful wooden fence
not having a dj, but i didn't want one so i don't feel like i'm giving it up
cakes are being made by my stepmother's sister, who took first place in the Dothan National Peanut Festival haha I sound so redneck. I assure you, I am not. The cakes are actually really fancy, here's my inspiration:
and his cake :)
centerpieces are just what i dreamed of, mason jars and daisies
i bought flowers from www.afloral.com for hella cheap and put them all together myself. i'm not skimping on flowers either. Every table (8) will have a centerpiece full of flowers, 2 for the bridal party table, and some left over to decorate the other tables.
i'm making kissing balls for the aisle, totally DIY. styrofoam balls, orange rose petals, 2" corsage pins. I looked ALL over the net to find these items at the best possible prices. 6" styrofoam balls for $3.50 each..INCLUDING shipping? lol..beat that. I bought 12 but I'm going to have 10 balls int he aisles. I'll figure out something to do with the other 2. I put 5 rose petals together and stuck a pin through the end of them, fanned out the petals and made my own flowers. cheaper than buying actual flowers. we've made 2 so far and they are so much prettier than i anticipated! the one pictured below is before I put the ribbons on. the ribbons are red..my colors are orange and red. you can see one of the prototypes for the centerpieces in the background. the daisies still have the tags on them lol. OH!! and see that red galvanized pail drink dispenser?!?!?! ebay daily deal- $30! FREE SHIPPING! I bought 2 of them. normal price was $60 each. :/ they hold 2.5 gallons.
FYI I love DIY
I hired a professional photographer who is working with my budget, she's such a sweetheart. 4 hours on the wedding day, all pics on cd, 600 edited pics of the 700-900 she will take, but we get all pics. she is throwing in an engagement session, which hopefully will be next month. my school schedule has been hell. all of this for.....$350. yeah.. I know! I msde out like a bandit on this one!
i'm actually having a caterer, will feed 75 guests a comfort food kind of meal: fried chicken, baked pork chops, mashed potatoes and gravy, corn, green beans, squash casserole, and yeast rolls. she's bringing sweet and unsweet tea, plates and utensils, 2 servers for the buffet all for....drumroll please.....$450! YES! that's what I love about small towns. well that combined with my ability to shop around and negotiate ;)
i'm buying drinking cups because I want to stick with my theme. pint mason jars :) stepmom knows people who have tons of them in boxes in the barn. even if she doesn't find enough, they're $7 for a dozen at the local walmart. lol
i found a website with really cheap glass bottles www.fillmorecontainer.com . that's going to be one of my favors. we're going to fill them with redhots. the other favor is going to be candied apples. i know those are going to be kind of expensive, but i'll still be under budget.
mom is buying the dress, but it's only $200 off ebay so I could do it myself and still be under budget. you guys should really try ebay. there's thousands of dresses, brand new, for under $200.
ooh almost forgot about linens. bought from a bride on here who is getting married this weekend and shipping them to me.. 90" rounds for $6 each plus shipping. I could only get 8 of them but it's definitely a start!
my rings? walmart.com don't laugh! the website has some really amazing rings for great prices! the ones my fiance' bought me, a lady bought and left a review. she said she had it independently appraised and it appraised for $1500. yeah. you guys should really check it out.
i'm not including the rings in the $2,000 budget. I have several other things I've bought for decor too. cute vintage stuff. it's going to turn out absolutely beautiful! so...i guess what I'm trying to say to you guys...don't give up on your dream. just shop and shop and shop until you get a good price. we have until October!
I am not engaged right now, but when I thought I was going to get married within 2 weeks, I realized what was important to me. I thought I wanted some huge wedding, but when it came down to it, I realized I just wanted to start a future with my man. I want the couple people I love there, and finish my day being the next Mrs. C!
When I do plan my wedding, I think 5k will be MORE than enough. I was going to do it on 1k, including my dress.
Im giving up the fancy pocketfold invitations that I so wanted - We DIYed ours and they came out really good.
Real flowers - but I learnt that fake flowers look just like real ones in pictures anyway!
A big booze bill - I like drinking and drinking with people.LOL!
A big fancy 2000.00 maggie dress - Mine is gorgeous and it was 185. inclu alterations. but ya know - we dream.
A band - I love dancing to a good band - oh well, A juke box will be okay , at least its not a DJ playing dumb random songs.
At the end of the day, Its about marrying the one you love so its all worth the scarifice. :)
I've given up the idea of a really extravagant dress, my "dream" outdoor venue, elaborate decor, and a serious honeymoon! I do look at it like I'm saving us a major headache in the future, but in the meantime, it is certainly hard!
I'm luck enough to not have to give up anything. I am a bargain shopper by nature, so naturally I searched and searched until I found what I wanted.
A sit down dinner.
gingerly1983-thanks for a positive post!
I'm not really giving anything up since I thought I was going to just have a courthouse wedding anyway.
But I am doing a lot of DIY things to save money but still get the look I want, and my mother's a florist so we're saving a ton in that department. The only thing I'm a little sad about is not spending a lot on photography. Still searching out a good deal on that one, but I know no matter how good a deal I find it won't be the same as the 3,000 dollar photographers with their editing styles. Oh well I'm willing to sacrafice it for other things.
What did I give up in my budget? Nothing, not a darn thing. I got the ring I loved, the dress I loved, the venues I loved, the flowers and veil I loved, the photographer I loved, the reception decor I love, the dj I love and the best part? The man I love.
Money doesn't buy happiness, it may buy expensive things, but at the end of the day what do you get? A mountain of debt and left over expensive things. At the end of the day I will have the wedding of my dreams, the chance to become the wife of the man I love and well, a day spent celebrating with family and friends. Isn't that what it is all about?
Ladies! just think about the fact that you won't be entering your marriage in debt! I think that's a wonderful way to start off a marriage! Dave Ramsey would agree.
I don't feel like I'm giving up anything. Just brain storming on what I really want the most and searching enough to find it cheaper! I won't give in too much on my photograpgher because at the end of the day pictures is all I really have to look at. I really want to take the time and have creative pics too. With that in mind, lots of DIY chores to do!
I'm not giving up anything, as most of the things included in weddings don't interest me.
We're having a courthouse wedding first, with the only attendents probably being our parents/grandparents. We won't be exchanging vows or rings, just getting legally married. Then after that we'll be taking them out to breakfast/lunch.
For the FH & I, the most important part is the reception, where all the money is going to. In order to include our friends and family, we'll be having a short "ceremony" where a friend will serve as "officiant" and we'll exchange vows and rings. (Sorry for the quotations, but I put them because the FH & I don't really consider it an actually ceremony, since it's more of a spiritual and emotional bonding as opposed to a legal one like most ceremonies. Plus it gets us out of having to pay extra :P).
For myself, the most important things to me are the photos. Therefore a good amount of the budget ($5,000) is going to the two things I want the most : photographer and photobooth. For the FH, it's the food (mainly, it's all I've been able to get out of him so far). We want to have a buffet style reception featuring food from both of our cultures, as well as tons of sweets.
Even though our budget is small for an average wedding, we aren't having to "give up" anything, as we were able to focus our budget on what we really want. Also, if you honestly dig deep enough, you can find things for lower prices (and even great quality!).
I'm giving up the traditional reception and hors d'oeurves, photographer during the ceremony and reception, musicians/DJ, real flowers, cake professionally made, etc. However, having been to a wedding a few weeks ago that was full-on traditional and completely paid for by the bride's parents, I'm glad that my FH and I are pretty much doing this ourselves. I saw how crazy it could get when it's paid for by someone else. While it was perfect for the bride, it just wouldn't suit me and would probably make it more stressful.