What's more important - wedding or honeymoon?

A coworker once told me to have a very simple wedding, simple gold rings, and splurge on the honeymoon to make it as unforgettable as possible. The reason? Because the wedding is just a party that lasts for a day and you spend it mainly on your guests who will not remember it that well, and a honeymoon lasts for much longer and you spend the money only on yourselves.
Posted on March 25, 2007 at 7:24 pm
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kellyk
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Wedding of course! :)
Posted on March 26, 2007 at 6:45 am
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For me, the wedding is something I'm doing for myself as much as for the guests. I'm really looking forward to sharing that day with my closest friends and family, so spending money on it is something I want to do.

That said, I'm being sensible about where my money goes. I'm not going ga-ga over favors because no one needs another knick-knack. I'm not fretting flowers because our location has lovely honeysuckle and jasmine vines that will be in aromatic bloom. My guests don't care whether they're eating off china or Chinet... but I do want the food to be good. And that's more or less how I'm setting my priorities.

Also in my case, our honeymoon may/probably will be delayed anyway, so it's not like we don't have more time to save. ;-)
Posted on March 26, 2007 at 9:31 am
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Erin your response is right on target! Spending tons of money on "stuff" isn't going to make your wedding more fun or meaningful. I agree that you have to prioritize what is important to you in making your day as special as possible.
Posted on March 26, 2007 at 1:02 pm
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Honeymoon is pretty low on our priority list. As long as it's somewhere we can get away and relax, I think we'll be happy.
Posted on March 28, 2007 at 2:47 pm
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I do agree that the wedding is a celebration to be shared... but ALSO... FI and I have asked the question.... "AWESOME wedding and OKAY honeymoon? Or GREAT wedding and STELLAR honeymoon?" We both agree that we'd rather put a big chunk of the budget toward the honeymoon and cut some of the less important stuff out of the wedding. And seeing as how I just learned how much my dream honeymoon would cost... YIKES! It's a good way we both feel that way!
Posted on April 4, 2007 at 9:50 pm
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I can't choose. I would say both are ='ly important to us.
Posted on April 5, 2007 at 10:29 am
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Ditto MsKittie.
Posted on April 5, 2007 at 2:06 pm
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The wedding is more important to me.
Posted on April 5, 2007 at 5:02 pm
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Were kinda doing both by having a small DW in Kauai. We will be there for 7 days with 25 immediate family members and close friends for the wedding and pre/post activities and general vacation fun and then head to Maui for a 5 day minimoon, just the two of us. Then the following Spring we hope to head to Southeast Asia or Europe for a more extended honeymoon trip.
Posted on May 12, 2007 at 10:57 pm
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I think both are important. Honestly though, if it was about where your budget goes - I'd put as much as possible towards a house!
Posted on May 13, 2007 at 5:56 am
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I think the wedding is more important. We see every vacation we'll go on in the future as a variation on a honeymoon, but the wedding is once in a lifetime, and it's the only time we'll get to have our friends and family in one place for a celebration.
Posted on May 14, 2007 at 8:40 am
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I'd probably say the wedding is more important to us as we aren't having a traditional honeymoon. Instead we're having our honeymoon in 3 stages.

We went to New Zealand for 2 weeks during Christmas and decided to call that our "pre-wedding" honeymoon.

Then we're having a DW in Kauai but most of the time we're there will be before the wedding, we're only spending 3 days there after the wedding.

Finally.. we'll be in the States during August for 3 weeks to see his family, including 2 days in Vegas at the end before we fly back to Australia, so that will be honeymoon part 3!

Signed, Honeymoon sl*t =P
Posted on May 14, 2007 at 2:54 pm
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I see it the same way as chingermglish. Every vacation that DH and I are going to take from now on will be like a honeymoon (geez, just living here on Maui is like a honeymoon to us everyday already), so we put more emphasis on our destination wedding because that was a time when we got to spend quality time with our close family and friends.

In fact, we just found out that one uncle and one great-aunt have passed away since our wedding in June 2005. It's sad but we were glad we got to celebrate our special day with them.
Posted on May 14, 2007 at 8:36 pm
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I used to say honeymoon was low priority, but now I'm becoming more focused on what we want as the wedding planning process goes on and it's moving up the priority list.
Posted on May 16, 2007 at 5:08 am
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Definitely the wedding - don't know of many people who prioritize the honeymoon over the wedding...
Posted on June 9, 2007 at 6:30 pm
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i say honeymoon is more important!
in fact, more and more people are doing destination weddings for that reason!
Posted on August 3, 2007 at 7:29 am
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I know one couple very well who had a very small wedding (25 ppl at her parents house) and then totally splurged on the honeymoon in scuba diving in Tahiti. And it's interesting to me that so many people I talk to at work and other places say "Spend all the money you can on your Honeymoon. It is worth it!"

So my FI and I will also by honeymoon sl*ts (to borrow from cathyinjapan). ;) From Tahoe, we plan to spend 3-4 days in Sonoma (wanted to buy a few cases of good wine/champagne that we can open on anniversiaries to come!) and then a few days driving down the coast. Then we are headed to Playa Del Carmen, Mexico, for a week at a great resort, and then... well, the third leg is still up in the air. Anyways... I think our goal is to spend as much time together relaxing/travelling/exploring as possible, take all the vacation time we can manage, even if the locations are not crazy exotic. We are really looking forward to it! :)
Posted on August 3, 2007 at 8:45 am
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The wedding is more important to us. We are doing the wedding for ourselves only, not our guests. Everything we have planned has been for only us. :0)
Posted on August 3, 2007 at 10:29 am
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the wedding is more important to me as well. like joe said, as long as it's somewhere where we can get away and relax, we'll be good. =) we're thinking about a simple all-inclusive resort somewhere in the carribean.
Posted on August 9, 2007 at 8:15 am
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i don't think we're having a honeymoon at all. Although we've been together 6 years and have never vacationed anywhere together alone and it'd be so nice to have one. We just can't afford it after paying for a wedding.
Posted on April 17, 2008 at 8:13 am
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