what would you do

i have a great friend we well call her X an every time she calls me its either to complain about her jerk of a husband or her mother . she is always complaining an at first i thought she wanted my advise now i realize i think she just wants me to agree with her an while i can agree her husband is a jerk -once took her ring during a fight an told her she had to earn it back- i just get sick of hearing her bitch an  don't want to agree with her on something because i don't agree. i means its everyday almost


but what do you tell X when she calls crying her eyes out , she doesnt want to hear the bad or the reality of the matter


do i just sit there an be uh huh , ya , i know i see im sorry 


what would you do 


shes a great friend we have been friends since my sophomore year in high school so i want her in my life but sometimes the complaining is a bit much 

Posted on July 13, 2010 at 8:13 am
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ChrisNScott
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I would tell her that it's time she do something about it.  If she doesn't, she's not allowed to talk about it anymore with me.  I don't want to hear it if no action is being taken to make it stop/get better/go away.


I will still be here as a friend, but the situation is getting out of hand and I'm sorry.


I know it's harsh, but that's WAY too often to be calling someone like that.


Hope things get better :-/

Posted on July 13, 2010 at 8:35 am
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Maybe she is in a vulnerable place and just needs to vent. I would just tell her that you have alot of stress right now and that maybe she should talk to a therapist or something. It might take some convincing but maybe she doesn't realize the burden she is putting on you, you need to tell her in a nice way.

Posted on July 13, 2010 at 9:33 am
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I'm with ChrisNScott, I have a friend who is very similar to your friend and I finally just had to tell her that if she wasn't willing to take advise and actually try it that I didn't want to hear about her problems anymore.  You can only listen to someone complain about the same thing for so long before you can't listen anymore. 

Posted on July 13, 2010 at 9:44 am
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IM with chrisnscott too. Also, make yourself less available!! dont answer the phone for a few day.

Posted on July 20, 2010 at 5:42 am

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